Overcoming Rejection

Welcome and Opening Prayer

Ice-Breaker - “Rejection rejected” hat (game)

Have the ladies write a one-word feeling or source or rejection on the card and place in basket

Read each card and have ladies move close to someone with the same feeling or source

Remind them that they are not alone

let’s see what you look like when you move by election

Defining Rejection

Biblical Counseling Keys on Rejection A. What is Rejection?

Rejection is the act of refusing to accept or consider a person or thing that is not wanted or not approved.1

— When you experience rejection, you feel unloved, unwanted, unacceptable.

— The Greek verb apodokimazo means “to reject as the result of examination and disapproval.”2 (apo = away from, dokimazo = to approve)

— Jesus felt the pain of rejection. The Bible refers to Christ as the “Cornerstone”—the vital, the most essential stone of a major structure—yet He was the cornerstone (or capstone) the builders rejected

To be rejected and to reject someone

Biblical Counseling Keys on Rejection A. What is Rejection?

To be rejected is to be cast aside, cast off, cast away—to be thrown away as having no value

Biblical Counseling Keys on Rejection A. What is Rejection?

To reject someone means to despise, refuse, shun, turn away from

All of us seek approval or acceptance at some level

We want to be loved, significant, accepted

The Greatest Rejection

Jesus felt the pain of rejection. The Bible refers to Christ as the “Cornerstone”—the vital, the most essential stone of a major structure—yet He was the cornerstone (or capstone) the builders rejected

Biblical Counseling Keys on Rejection A. What is Rejection?

Jesus felt the pain of rejection. The Bible refers to Christ as the “Cornerstone”—the vital, the most essential stone of a major structure—yet He was the cornerstone (or capstone) the builders rejected.

“The stone the builders rejected has become the capstone.”

(Matthew 21:42)

Good news - Jesus Overcame - the Gospel

Overcoming Rejection

In the icebreaker, you moved based on their selection that best fits them

let’s see what you look like when you move by election

Biblical Counseling Keys on Rejection A. What is Rejection?

To reject someone means to despise, refuse, shun, turn away from

Release yourself from that feeling of rejection and remind yourself that you may be rejected by the world but chosen by God

Biblical Counseling Keys on Rejection Progression of Rejection

PROGRESSION OF REJECTION18

Negative Core Belief

→

Negative Thoughts

→

Negative Feeling

→

Negative Actions

“I have to have the approval of others.”

• “I’m not loved.”

I Feel Rejected!

• Rejecting others

• “I am not significant.”

• Bitterness toward others

• “I’m not accepted.”

• Judging others

• Withdrawing from others

Progression of Rejection

Release it - - chosen by God

Own the promises of God for you

“brokenhearted” -specific participants

“he rescues” is a divine action -

“The Lord protects the bones of the righteous...” an elaboration of what He already said

“those who hate the righteous will be punished” prediction

“will redeem” divine actions

Accept who God says you are and trust Him

Progression of Acceptance

Restore/re-establish in the Word of God

Isaiah 58:11

When you ROAR, you go from a wrong belief to a right belief

Biblical Counseling Keys on Rejection D. What is the Root Cause of Rejection?

Wrong Belief:

“Because of being rejected, I feel so unloved … so insignificant … so unwanted. My life isn’t worth anything!”

Right Belief:

I do not like being rejected, but I know my worth isn’t based on whether or not others reject me but on the fact that the Lord accepts me. Jesus not only loved me enough to die for my sins, but He also lives inside me and will never leave me nor forsake me.

Solution

Biblical Counseling Keys on Rejection Progression of Rejection

PROGRESSION OF REJECTION18

Negative Core Belief

→

Negative Thoughts

→

Negative Feeling

→

Negative Actions

“I have to have the approval of others.”

• “I’m not loved.”

I Feel Rejected!

• Rejecting others

• “I am not significant.”

• Bitterness toward others

• “I’m not accepted.”

• Judging others

• Withdrawing from others