Parenting Principles (Part 2)

Proverbs 19:18

• “Train up

1) Translated often times “discipline”

2) It is intensive here in Hebrew

3) Paraphrase—“discipline intently & consistently” (not hit and miss)

• “Let not your soul spare for his crying”

1) Hebrew style is to use extremes to get a point across

2) Method is correct and no abuse is involved

Proverbs 22:6

• “Train up”

1) To initiate

2) To dedicate

3) To educate

• “The way he should go”

1) Way—manner of life

2) Educate the child tailored to his particular personality

• The promise connected

1) He will not depart from that training

• The assumption

1) Parents will be active and involved not passive

2) Actually guide and not just a responder

Proverbs 20:7

• What the father is spiritually influences what the children are emotionally

• Righteous man—consistent in his conduct which results in sons that are happy and adjusted after him

Proverbs 23:13-14

• Do not hold back discipline

1) Most probably do (it is easy to neglect)

• In both v. 13 and v. 14 each statement has a command supported by an encouragement

• Waywardness is not to be overlooked, v. 13

• Corporal punishment, v. 14

Principles of discipline

• Discipline enforces the principle that all actions have consequences

1) Actions have consequences

2) Thoughts have consequences

• When punishment is needed two things should be avoided

1) Humiliation

2) Embarrassment

• We should and must commend our children (encourage and recognize what is right)

• The child must know . . .

1) What is expected

2) Why it is expected

3) What will happen when not performed

• Learn to help the child determine goals

1) Immediate

2) Intermediate

3) Ultimate

• The aim of imposed discipline is self-discipline

• Do not take away elements of life that are needed for maturity (growth) as a form of discipline

Proverbs 22:15—children are born devoid of the Word of God