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Are you men or boys?

Last week we talked to the verses addressing how wives shout be toward their husband.

This morning we will look at how husbands should be toward their wives.

If you want to be a good husband, you first have to be a good man.

Army National Guard.

Phillip Greenway.

If you’re going to be a man at night, you got to be a man in the daytime.

What he was saying is that if you are going to pretend like you a man, you better act like one when it counts.

Gen. James Mattis, Ret.

Marine and former Secretary of Defense.

said,

"There are hunters and there are victims.

By your discipline, cunning, obedience and alertness, you will decide if you are a hunter or a victim."

Discipline:

Cunning:

Obedience:

Alertness:

Be a good man.

Husbands and future husbands.

In the same way....

With the same urgency, with the same commitment to Christ, and same commitment to the object of discussion.

Citizens to the Government - but no word to the government

Servant to Master - but no word to the Master

Wife to Her own Husband -

But the Husband has direction here as well.

The difference is with the others there are alway two parties.

In marriage the two become one.

Ephesians 5:28-

2017 article in Psychology today stated this:

After close to 40 years of marriage counseling, I believe that marital failure between two relatively intact people is due to what I call a "failure to wed.”

You probably have noticed that the title of this blog is “The Two Shall Become as One.”

I chose that title because I believe it taps the very essence of a healthy marriage: Two separate and uniquely different people come together to form a whole whose essence is greater than the sum of its parts and not two individuals who are constantly “hijacking the we” by trying to make their partner become more like them.

The body of Christ (The Church) is supposed to be of one mind and one spirit.

But marriage is on another plane.

In an understanding way…

in a knowing way.

Gnosis .

it is were we get the word agnostic.

With full consideration of.

You have to know your wife.

Time

Effort

What is your wife’s love language?

Words of affirmation

Quality Time

Receiving Gifts

Acts of Service

Physical touch

2. Use what you know about her, to her benefit, not yours.

Martye wants me to go to a couples baby shower.

I don’t want to go.

If I push the right buttons, I can make her mad at me and not want me to go with her.

Trust is this: We want to to be loved for who we are.

We want to know that we are valued by someone else, not because of what we can do for them, but because they know us and love us.

The problem is that if you open up your heart to someone and show them who you really are, and they either reject you, use that information against you, or manipulate you; it hurts.

So for the sake of self preservation, we close ourselves off from people and don’t show them the real us.

Husbands, not only do you have to earn and protect your wive’s trust in you.

You have to trust them.

Ephesians 5:

Agape Love

Patient, kind, not jealous, doesn’t brag, not arrogant, not unbecoming, not self seeking, not provoked, doesn’t take into account wrong suffering, doesn’t rejoice in unrighteousness, rejoices with the truth, bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never fails.

Provoked....

As with someone weaker

, since she is a woman

You have to treat your wife differently than you do anyone else on the planet.

Show her honor.

In public and private.

When she is around and when she is not around.

Speak to her kindly

Do not discuss her weaknesses with others

Show interest in her projects

Don’t ask her to view inappropriate images or tv shows.

Speak highly of her to your children

Remember her special days

Tell her what she means to you

Tell her specific things that encourages you

Don’t compare her to other women

Make sure she has immediate access to you

Be accountable with your time to her.

Your wife’s soul is every bit as important to God as yours it.

So that your prayers will not be hindered.

Blocked/ Obstructed.

Human relationships are important to God.

So important, Jesus said in

Matthew 5:23

Our relationship with our wives is so important that God says that until you get that right, don’t even talk to me.

If you don’t get your relationship with your wife right, your relationship with God will not be right either.

1 Peter