How to Deal with Hurtful People
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How to Deal with Hurtful People
How to Deal with Hurtful People
Matthew 5:
38 “You have heard that it was said, ‘An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.’ 39 But I say to you, Do not resist the one who is evil. But if anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also. 40 And if anyone would sue you and take your tunic, let him have your cloak as well. 41 And if anyone forces you to go one mile, go with him two miles. 42 Give to the one who begs from you, and do not refuse the one who would borrow from you.
DT: Jesus requires His followers to exercise grace towards those who are hurtful and even hateful towards them.
Aim: We will exercise grace towards all including those who hurt us and hate us.
Introduction: This section of Jesus’ sermon gives further guidance for the believer especially as it pertains to personal relationships. Jesus first addresses the teachings which can be found in:
24 eye for eye, tooth for tooth, hand for hand, foot for foot,
Exodus 21:24
20 fracture for fracture, eye for eye, tooth for tooth; whatever injury he has given a person shall be given to him.
Leviticus 24:20
21 Your eye shall not pity. It shall be life for life, eye for eye, tooth for tooth, hand for hand, foot for foot.
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Jesus is not contradicting this practice but illuminating the heart and goal God, which is that His children would not be so quick to retaliate and seek revenge before administering the grace that God has given to them. Jesus says, I know what you are being taught, meaning, I know what the pharisees enforce but I want you to learn how to live gracefully and lovingly towards those who hurt you.
Transition: No doubt each of us have been in the position of being hurt and are perhaps hurting now. How do you deal with it?
Do Not Return Evil for Evil
Do Not Return Evil for Evil
matthew 5:39
be in opposition to, set oneself against, oppose
ἀνθίστημι
William Arndt, Frederick W. Danker, and Walter Bauer, A Greek-English Lexicon of the New Testament and Other Early Christian Literature (Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 2000), 80.
39 But I say to you, Do not resist the one who is evil. But if anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also.
a. Define resist- ἀνθίστημι, be in opposition to, set oneself against, oppose This verb means to resist by actively opposing pressure or power.
This verb means to resist by actively opposing pressure or power
Jesus is not addressing law, he is guiding personal ethics and the tendency people have of taking things into their own hands to get revenge
Jesus is not addressing law, he is guiding personal ethics and the tendency people have of taking things into their own hands to get revenge
Application: Just because a person chooses to do you wrong does not mean we have to scheme to do them wrong. Choose not to be in opposition with others. Do not live with grudges. Forgive people who hurt you.
Transition: We cannot live as enemies with those who choose to be our enemy. God requires us to move beyond the pain and the hurt and be gracious. The text further teaches another way that we deal with hurtful people is to Give more than they take.
Give More Than They Take
Give More Than They Take
40 And if anyone would sue you and take your tunic, let him have your cloak as well. 41 And if anyone forces you to go one mile, go with him two miles.
matthew 5:
40 And if anyone would sue you and take your tunic, let him have your cloak as well.
Matthew 5:40
a. Describe the tunic- a long garment worn under the cloak next to the skin.
Jesus describes a situation of an individual losing his most intimate clothing and says that this person should not be overly consumed with the loss. Instead that person should give more and do it willingly.
Application: Do not lose your mind behind the evil efforts and misguided acts of the wicked. People may be able to take our things but they cannot take our dignity. What can we give when others take? We can give the love of Christ. We can give them the example of a satisfied Christian. We can give them the embrace of a child of God. Value them more than our things by showing love.
1 The earth is the Lord’s and the fullness thereof,
the world and those who dwell therein,
psalm 24
Transition: We need not be burdened by the hurtful. God requires us to trust His hand in our life. We know that God will take care of us. The text further teaches us that when we deal with hurtful people we must Be Kind.
Be Kind
Be Kind
42 Give to the one who begs from you, and do not refuse the one who would borrow from you.
Matthew 5:
How does this verse fit in this section? What does it have to do with hurtful people. It means to exercise grace even when those who are hurtful are hurting. When the hurtful begin to suffer it is not a reprieve from our Christian obligation.
This is a mandate to serve people even when they hurt us.
a. The the begger
b. The borrower
Conclusion:
Conclusion:
Jesus clearly and plainly shows you and I that our lives should not be consumed with revenge and hatred. God wants us to live to his glory.
Who do you seek revenge against? Who has hurt you? Who is hurting you? How are you dealing with it?
Jesus on the Cross . . .
Greek chiton, a long garment worn under the cloak next to the skin