Snowblast #4 (Guys Only)

Guy’s Talk

Alright men.

Here it is our session 3 talk— yet it is session 4.

If I can be honest, I am was having a hard time thinking about what to say to you guys night.

I highly value this night, as I know our leaders do and I hope that you guys do as well.

If you are new to this night, it is pretty simple.

We come together as well, to talk about porn and masterbaition.

If you do not know what this means let me help you understand.

Porn is videos of people having sex, it could be hardcore, full on sex, it could be blowjobs, anal, gay, foot fetish the list is literally miles long.

Yet in all the videos you see this fantasy play out in front of you.

You then get excited, and you materbait to these videos or images or to these thoughts that are in your head.

Here is a couple of things I want to tell you about the porn industry.

Because maybe if you knew what went into making these video then maybe that would be enough to keep you away from it.

Maybe by telling you that a lot of time you actually are watching women get raped who are part of this massive sex trafficking ring.

And by watching, no demanding to have more and more porn, you are feeding into the groups who are funding the porn to go out and get more girls and boys to be part of the sex trafficking.

What I have noticed about the culture, is that this is no longer taboo, and the thought is that if you are not jerking off then something must be wrong with you.

What I have found is that people also give recommendations of sites and videos to watch.

We are seeing that this issue of porn addiction is starting younger and younger— anybody want to share the first time they were exposed to porn?

How old were you?

For me I was in the 6th grade, at my friends house, they showed me I could google anything, and so we did, boobies, vagina, sex you name it we did it, and those images became in grained in my mind.

Let’s be real I wasn’t ever trying to forget what I saw, I wanted more of what I saw.

And by opening up this window into this porn addiction that would last from 6th grade all the way until I was 5 years into my marriage.

From the age of 12 till I was 25.

This sin grabbed me and it held on to me for sooooo long.

I kept running back to it.

I didn’t need a girlfriend, because in my own mind, all of these ladies wanted me online, in this fantasy world that I built for myself.

They knew what I liked, and why have a real person, when I could have this, someone that was always willing and wanting to be with me.

Here is the truth about porn, it is all fake, it is a production, the videos that are all polished are all fake.

In real life, the female post worker is not going to deliver you a package and want to have sex with your before she leaves.

Just because you deliver pizza to a house with a women present, does not mean she wants you to have sex with her.

All of these scenarios are fake.

But here is why the porn industry and the sex trafficking ring are connected, because people see that it is fake, because your coworkers do not want to sleep with you, so men and women want to have that fantasy play out for them, so they buy it.

They want the fantasy, because here is the thing these people who are addicted to porn are finding out, when they get into marriage, they think that their porn addiction will just clear up.

WRONG!

It doesn’t, in many cases it actually gets worst.

Because we actually build up what sex is suppose to be based on videos, and movies, and pictures that our poor wife will never leave up to these expectations.

Yet, you are not going to tell her that, because if you tell her that you are unsatisfied, that will crush her, so what do you do, you hide your addiction, and you keep it to yourself.

You tell yourself that well i do this so I can learn more and please my wife better.

You are only fooling yourself.

I keep bringing up this word addiction.

Because you do have an addiction problem.

The sooner you see that the better chance you have at overcoming this addiction.

You may be thinking well at least I am not doing the real thing, isn’t that better.

You see that was my line of thought as well.

I thought that at least God would be pleased with me if I wasn’t having sex.

I had a burning passion yet I wasn’t having sex.

I mean isn’t this the lesser of two evils?

The lesser of two evils is still evil and it is still sin.

Sin does not cover up sin.

Sin cannot make other sin look better.

It is still sin and it is a result from a broken world that I need to seek repentance of.

Guys I promise you that if you continue on this path of porn and masterbaition then you will only be hurting your spouse.

Your wife that you take a vow to protect, and to love, and cherish, to be present, to be fully invested in.

When she finds out because she will, they always do, they are going to be devastated, they will struggle to trust you, they will fear they are never going to measure up, they will struggle with their body image= which is a big problem for women by the way in case you were wondering.

Then you throw this on top of it and man that is a huge hurdle for the love of your life to get over.

I beg you guys to fight this sin.

Fight for your life, fight for your future spouse, fight for your family, fight against it.

Love cannot be clicked

People are not products to be consumed.

They have heartbeat and every single women in this porn industry is someones daugther.

I will leave you with this before we get into questions.

You cannot be against human trafficking and be for porn.

Too over come this, you have to get help.

You have to seek help

You can start by giving it up Christ.

Like we talked about night one, with the woman at the well.

Jesus says go and get your husband.

She can’t because she doesn’t have one.

Jesus is telling you to bring that sin to him, HE ALREADY KNOWS IT IS GOING ON!

Bring it to him, lay it at his feet, Jesus is in the business of freeing those who are slaves to sin.

With Porn addiction you are slave to it, you are bounded by it.

But there is hope! Bring it to the cross.

Don’t hide, don’t think it isn’t a big deal, don’t run.

Bring people into helping you who have conquered it.

You can’t fight the devil in the dark.

But when you have Christ it is enough but you also need others to help keep you accountable.

So you don’t fall back into this trap.

If you want to experience freedom come up and talk to me, or your leaders.

Stop living in the darkness and find grace and healing that comes from over coming sin.

Let’s pray