Marital Relationship: A Sanctified Marriage
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ME:
Title of the Series: Righting the “ship” in Relationships
Title of the Series: Righting the “ship” in Relationships
I have to apologize for the title on the bulletin. I have changed it over the weekend
Title is Marital Relationship: A Sanctified Marriage
Introduction:
The thing that seems to be eroding in our world today is “relationship.”
: With God
: With People
: In Marriages
: With Children
What we are seeing in our world today is nothing more than “UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS.”
: We want to recognize the unhealthiness of a relationship and remove it and to seek, promote, nurture, and endorse the healthiness of relationships.
When you peer into a healthy, vibrant, successful, satisfying relationship …… when you slice that relationship open ….. when you put it under the microscope you will find God!
: God is the Key in the relationship with Him.
: God is the Key in the relationship with People.
: God is the Key to a healthy relationship with our spouse.
: God is the Key to a healthy relationship with our kids.
The DNA to all relationships is God!
PAUSE
There is a reason for having each of these relationships ….
Each relationship has a purpose.
But the reason for each one of these relationships is different!
Each of these relationship play different role in our lives.
3 WEEK AGO...
: With God it is Fellowship
- We were created to Glorify HIM!
- We do this through fellowship with Him
LAST WEEK ...
: With People it is Friendship
- Someone who is Loving, sacrificial, Faithful, brings Unity, and brings good counsel.
Transition Statement: What’s the next relationship dynamic we are going to look at?
WE:
Pledge:
Passage:
21 submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.
24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,
26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word,
27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.
28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church,
30 because we are members of his body.
31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”
32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.
33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
PRAYER:
I have to apologize for the title on the bulletin. I have changed it over the weekend
Title is Marital Relationship: A Sanctified Marriage
The Marital Relationship!
Let me give you the latest statistics of the divorce rate in the United States. (As of Oct, 2018)
This is per the Web Site of Gardner & Lewis Law firm.
This is per the Web Site of Gardner & Lewis Law firm.
45% of marriages end in divorce
40% of first time marriage end in divorce
60% of those who have been divorced and remarry end in divorce
The US has the 3rd highest divorce rate in the world.
Good news though .... the divorce rate has been declining.
The is due to the Millennials
Getting married after college and finding a secure Job.
Cohabitating first before getting married later
Cohabitating and NOT getting married
In 2018 6.5 people out of 1000 were getting married
In 1990 9.8 people out of 1000 were getting married
Statistics show that a marriage ending in divorce last on the average of 8 years.
Those who are getting divorces in the US ....
Those who are of the age (25-39) are at 60%
Women are more likely to file for divorce than men.
People who make less than $20K a year are at a high risk of getting divorces (39%)
Top 5 reason (in no particular order) for divorce.
Lack of commitment from one or both parties
Infidelity (physical or emotional affairs)
Unprepared or married to young
Finances (arguing)
Abuse in the relationship
This is that erosion we are seeing in this marital relationship
How do we fix this?
How do we correct this?
How do we stop this erosion?
Transition Statement: Let’s see what God’s word has to say about Marriage!
GOD:
I would be safe to say that God is a fan of the idea of Marriage!
We find it being the first thing God ordains in Scripture (Gen. Chapter 1 & 2) and it’s the last thing he uses as a metaphor in the book or Revelations Chapter 21!
reads this .....
18 Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”
equal and adequate to himself
(Fit = equal and adequate to himself; that object which is corresponding or like another object)
that object which is corresponding or like another object
19 ......
19 Now out of the ground the Lord God had formed every beast of the field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them. And whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name.
20 The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him.
(Fit = equal and adequate to himself; that object which is corresponding or like another object) NOT Identical but equal
that object which is corresponding or like another object
21 So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh.
21 So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh.
equal and adequate to himself,
22 And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man.
23 Then the man said,
“This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.”
English Standard Version Chapter 2
18 Then the LORD God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”
19 Now out of the ground the LORD God had formed every beast of the field and every bird of the heavens and brought them to the man to see what he would call them. And whatever the man called every living creature, that was its name.
20 The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him.
21 So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh.
22 And the rib that the LORD God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man.
23 Then the man said,
“This at last is bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called Woman,
because she was taken out of Man.”
24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
25 And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called Woman,
because she was taken out of Man.”
24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
25 And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.
Lets also remember this is before the fall!
Lets also remember this is before the fall!
This is what we would call a Sanctified Marriage!
Moving into the days and time Jesus walked on the earth he was an encourager of marriage.
“So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”
6 So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”
In Pauls writings we find a more in-depth view of Marriage .....
Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 19 Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them. (To make bitter, to turn sour)
18 Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
19 Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.
The pericope I want to look at today to help us understand the relationship between a husband and wife is found in
English Standard Version Chapter 5
21 submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.
24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,
26 that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word,
27 so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.
28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
Transition Statement: So what does this say to us today when it comes to the Marital Relationship?
YOU:
There are at least 3 reason (at the foundation of the marital relationship) that is causing the erosion of the marital relationships in our society today ......
Lack of Commitment
Christ was committed to the church (You don’t die for something you are not committed to)
Christ was committed to the church
Christ was committed to the church
Husbands, are you willing to die for HER?
Wives, are you willing to die for HIM?
Single people .... if you are not willing to die for the person you want to marry DON’T MARRY THEM!
You want to know ONE of the reason why marriages are crumbling today .... lack of commitment!
Another reason marital relationships are eroding today is .....
Not willing to Sacrifice
(Vs25) Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.
He sacrificed his position (in heaven) and his body (died on the cross)
What we are seeing in our society today is SELFISHNESS! (Biblical word would be Carnality)
The third and last thing we will cover today that is the reason marital relationships are eroding is .....
The sanctity of Oneness
Committed
The bible tells us in Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
Sacrificail
The phrase “hold fast” - cleave, cling, stick to, stick with, follow closely, catch, keep close to, join to, overtake
cleave, cling, stick to, stick with, follow closely, catch, keep close to, join to, overtake
You know what that word “ONE “ in Hebrew means? ONE
You know what that word “ONE “ in Hebrew means? ONE
But more than that ....... Not two items placed in one ballon
What seems to be eroding in our society today ii the understanding of oneness ......
When I married Shelly I am no longer Rodney Kincaid!
He is gone!
I am now Rodney and Shelly Kincaid!
We don’t have separate bedrooms
We don’t have separate houses
We don’t have separate checking accounts
We don’t have separate dreams for the future
We don’t have separate outlooks on life
We don’t have separate ways of raising our children
WE ARE ONE!
We had an old (AOL) email account when we first got married
When I am talking to my wife I call her “Shell”
Our email account was Rodshell94@AOL.com (Spell it out)
Someone asked me one day do you know your email address reads Rods … Hell94@ AOL.com?
Rodney Kincaid no longer lived .....
Shelly Willard no longer lived .....
They have both been crucified in Christ and now we have a sanctified marriage that is ordained by God
Oneness
Transition Statement: So what does an Ordained Sanctified Marriage look like?
WE:
A marriage that .....
Is Committed
Is Sacrificial
Is One
Have the Praise team come back up ....
You want to know how to stop the erosion of the marital relationship today?
Seek a Sanctified Marriage!
TEENS:
Start today!
Pray for your FUTURE SPOUSE to be someone who is Committed, Sacrificial, and who has this oneness with God.
YOUNG ADULTS:
If you are not married!
Pray the same as the teens
If you are married!
Be Committed
Sacrifice
Seek Oneness with you souse.
Don’t let anything or anyone come between you and your souse!
Older Adults:
If your single, divorced, married, or remarried!
Be Committed
Sacrifice
Seek Oneness
I want you to know that no matter where you are at in life right now, this can happen for you today.
I have to believe there are men and women here this morning that desire this kind of marital relationship.
Married or not ..... you want this!
Let me offer you an opportunity to come and spend some time with the Lord and ask.
The bible tells us that we have not be ask not.
It also says, Ask and it will be given to you, seek and you will find, knock and the door will open.
COME!
(PIZZA WITH PASTOR)