Developing Sexual Discretion

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Proverbs 5:1–23 KJV 1900

My son, attend unto my wisdom, And bow thine ear to my understanding: That thou mayest regard discretion, And that thy lips may keep knowledge. For the lips of a strange woman drop as an honeycomb, And her mouth is smoother than oil: But her end is bitter as wormwood, Sharp as a twoedged sword. Her feet go down to death; Her steps take hold on hell. Lest thou shouldest ponder the path of life, Her ways are moveable, that thou canst not know them. Hear me now therefore, O ye children, And depart not from the words of my mouth. Remove thy way far from her, And come not nigh the door of her house: Lest thou give thine honour unto others, And thy years unto the cruel: Lest strangers be filled with thy wealth; And thy labours be in the house of a stranger; And thou mourn at the last, When thy flesh and thy body are consumed, And say, How have I hated instruction, And my heart despised reproof; And have not obeyed the voice of my teachers, Nor inclined mine ear to them that instructed me! I was almost in all evil In the midst of the congregation and assembly. Drink waters out of thine own cistern, And running waters out of thine own well. Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, And rivers of waters in the streets. Let them be only thine own, And not strangers’ with thee. Let thy fountain be blessed: And rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; Let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; And be thou ravished always with her love. And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, And embrace the bosom of a stranger? For the ways of man are before the eyes of the Lord, And he pondereth all his goings. His own iniquities shall take the wicked himself, And he shall be holden with the cords of his sins. He shall die without instruction; And in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray.

Note-The is a message given at the 4th Northern Kentucky Baptist Church’s marriage retreat by Dr. Charles Shoemaker.

I. The Deception We Should Avoid-vs. 3-6

A. The Deception of Emotional Involvement

Proverbs 6:23–24 KJV 1900

For the commandment is a lamp; and the law is light; And reproofs of instruction are the way of life: To keep thee from the evil woman, From the flattery of the tongue of a strange woman.

B. The Deception of Physical Allurement

Proverbs 6:25 KJV 1900

Lust not after her beauty in thine heart; Neither let her take thee with her eyelids.

Proverbs 31:30 KJV 1900

Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: But a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.

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1 Peter 3:3–4 KJV 1900

Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.

C. The Deception of Sexual Enticement

Proverbs 6:25 KJV 1900

Lust not after her beauty in thine heart; Neither let her take thee with her eyelids.

The Evolution of Sexual Involvement

Our minds feed the Fantasy

The Fantasy created the Emotion

The Emotions scream for the actual Experience

II. The Distance We Should Keep-vs. 7-8

Ephesians 2:1–3 KJV 1900

And you hath he quickened, who were dead in trespasses and sins; Wherein in time past ye walked according to the course of this world, according to the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that now worketh in the children of disobedience: Among whom also we all had our conversation in times past in the lusts of our flesh, fulfilling the desires of the flesh and of the mind; and were by nature the children of wrath, even as others.

1 John 2:15–17 KJV 1900

Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For all that is in the world, the lust of the flesh, and the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not of the Father, but is of the world. And the world passeth away, and the lust thereof: but he that doeth the will of God abideth for ever.

A. Temptation From the World demands Faith

1 John 5:4 KJV 1900

For whatsoever is born of God overcometh the world: and this is the victory that overcometh the world, even our faith.

B. Temptation from the devil demands Fight

James 4:7 KJV 1900

Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.

C. Temptation from the Flesh Demands Flight

2 Timothy 2:22 KJV 1900

Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.

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III. The Damage We May Suffer-vs. 9-10

A. Disease-Vs. 11

B. Disappointment-vs. 12

C. Dominion-vs. 22

D. Death-vs. 23

IV. The Design We Should Follow-vs. 15-18

A. A Legal Marriage-vs. 15

B. A Loving Mate-vs. 18

Conclusion:

God is aware of every thought and act.

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