Ungodly Relationships
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· 610 viewsA look at ungodly relationships and the effects they have on us negatively.
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Love vs. Lust
Love vs. Lust
What does it mean to love someone, when you can only see them objectively. That is not real love, but objective love. A love for them as a object. We all know what we do with objects we use them for our own personal interest and gain.
When we look at love in the eyes of Christ, it was never about an objective love. But a genuine Godly love for each other.
This matters because we live in a world that is so focused on our own desires. Where can love reside in a heart filled with self?
People don’t see what God’s perfect plan is because they can only see what their desires are.
So today I want to look at how to avoid being in an ungodly relationship.
We have to start with the obvious verse because this is the foundation of what we must build off of as followers of Christ.
1 John 4:7-12
7 Dear friends, let us continue to love one another, for love comes from God. Anyone who loves is a child of God and knows God. 8 But anyone who does not love does not know God, for God is love.
9 God showed how much he loved us by sending his one and only Son into the world so that we might have eternal life through him. 10 This is real love—not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as a sacrifice to take away our sins.
11 Dear friends, since God loved us that much, we surely ought to love each other. 12 No one has ever seen God. But if we love each other, God lives in us, and his love is brought to full expression in us.
12 No one has ever seen God. But if we love each other, God lives in us, and his love is brought to full expression in us.
The first thing we need to see in an ungodly relationship is the lack of God in it. God has given us the gift to love with compassion, especially the one whom we say we want to spend the rest of our lives with.
God gives us the power of love through Him
Lust can’t see God, it can only see it’s own desires. Love looks past it’s own selfish desires and is willing to sacrifice for the benefit of the other. even to the point of self death. (literally)
21 Out of respect for Christ, be courteously reverent to one another.
22 Wives, understand and support your husbands in ways that show your support for Christ. 23 The husband provides leadership to his wife the way Christ does to his church, not by domineering but by cherishing. 24 So just as the church submits to Christ as he exercises such leadership, wives should likewise submit to their husbands.
25 Husbands, go all out in your love for your wives, exactly as Christ did for the church—a love marked by giving, not getting.
Ephesians 5:21-
32 I want you to be free from the concerns of this life. An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord’s work and thinking how to please him. 33 But a married man has to think about his earthly responsibilities and how to please his wife. 34 His interests are divided. In the same way, a woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband. 35 I am saying this for your benefit, not to place restrictions on you. I want you to do whatever will help you serve the Lord best, with as few distractions as possible.
36 But if a man thinks that he’s treating his fiancée improperly and will inevitably give in to his passion, let him marry her as he wishes. It is not a sin.
1 Corinthians 7:32-36
Know God.. Know Love.. No God.. No Love
Your cultural upbringing will always dictate who you are until you get into Christ and honestly make a decision to change.
Your cultural upbringing will always dictate who you are until you get into Christ and honestly make a decision to change.
Your cultural & community upbringing will always dictate who you are, until you get into Christ and honestly make a decision to change who you are.
This is why you you have to be equally yoked, it’s not about skin color, or demographics, there are other problems with that but that ain’t one of the ones we are looking at today.
look at what Paul says in:
12 For the rest of you who are in mixed marriages—Christian married to non-Christian—we have no explicit command from the Master. So this is what you must do. If you are a man with a wife who is not a believer but who still wants to live with you, hold on to her. 13 If you are a woman with a husband who is not a believer but he wants to live with you, hold on to him. 14 The unbelieving husband shares to an extent in the holiness of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is likewise touched by the holiness of her husband. Otherwise, your children would be left out; as it is, they also are included in the spiritual purposes of God.
15 On the other hand, if the unbelieving spouse walks out, you’ve got to let him or her go. You don’t have to hold on desperately. God has called us to make the best of it, as peacefully as we can. 16 You never know, wife: The way you handle this might bring your husband not only back to you but to God. You never know, husband: The way you handle this might bring your wife not only back to you but to God.
17 And don’t be wishing you were someplace else or with someone else. Where you are right now is God’s place for you. Live and obey and love and believe right there. God, not your marital status, defines your life. Don’t think I’m being harder on you than on the others. I give this same counsel in all the churches.
1 Corinthians 7:12
What to look for to avoid in a ungodly relationship
Abusive
People need to
Abuse - Physical, Verbal, Metal or Acts
Tell Aaron’s story and how Unique urinated in his food.
19 Husbands, love your wives and never treat them harshly.
11 The words of the godly are a life-giving fountain;
the words of the wicked conceal violent intentions.
Proverbs 10:11
Manipulation - Doing things to benefit ones self at the cost of the others well being.
Tell the story of how Stephanie was driving Keith to the point of sickness.
18 Such people are not serving Christ our Lord; they are serving their own personal interests. By smooth talk and glowing words they deceive innocent people.
Romans 16:18
2 We reject all shameful deeds and underhanded methods. We don’t try to trick anyone or distort the word of God. We tell the truth before God, and all who are honest know this.
Destructive Addictions - Narcotics, Porn, Gambling, Extra Sexual Relations, Alcohol, Excessive Spending
We’ve all seen the horror’s of what all these addictions can create.
10 “Once you had no identity as a people;
now you are God’s people.
Once you received no mercy;
now you have received God’s mercy.”
11 Dear friends, I warn you as “temporary residents and foreigners” to keep away from worldly desires that wage war against your very souls. 12 Be careful to live properly among your unbelieving neighbors. Then even if they accuse you of doing wrong, they will see your honorable behavior, and they will give honor to God when he judges the world.
13 For the Lord’s sake, submit to all human authority—whether the king as head of state,
11 Dear friends, I warn you as “temporary residents and foreigners” to keep away from worldly desires that wage war against your very souls. 12 Be careful to live properly among your unbelieving neighbors. Then even if they accuse you of doing wrong, they will see your honorable behavior, and they will give honor to God when he judges the world.
1 Peter
5 So put to death the sinful, earthly things lurking within you. Have nothing to do with sexual immorality, impurity, lust, and evil desires. Don’t be greedy, for a greedy person is an idolater, worshiping the things of this world.
Colossians 3:5
Conflicting Standards - If you are a follower of Christ and they are something other then that, your going to have issues.
If they tell you to put that veil over your head and face and they start talking about go get your sister wives for dinner, you better exit out the side door and call a uber or something!
14 Starting a quarrel is ⌊like⌋ opening a floodgate,
so stop before the argument gets out of control.
Proverbs 17:14
15 Instead, you must worship Christ as Lord of your life. And if someone asks about your hope as a believer, always be ready to explain it.
4 In Solomon’s old age, they turned his heart to worship other gods instead of being completely faithful to the Lord his God, as his father, David, had been.
1 King 11:4
Distorted Family Dynamics - A situation where you could be the villain and always pointed to as it’s your fault for everything in the relationship, including global warming!
Mother’s boy, Father’s Princess, Brother’s Obsession, Sister’s Correction.
24 This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.
Proverbs 17:
14 Starting a quarrel is like opening a floodgate,
so stop before a dispute breaks out.
10 If people are causing divisions among you, give a first and second warning. After that, have nothing more to do with them.
Finally let me close with this if you are married and it is ruff, this is what the bible says about that.
14 Do you know why? Simple. Because God was there as a witness when you spoke your marriage vows to your young bride, and now you’ve broken those vows, broken the faith-bond with your vowed companion, your covenant wife. 15 God, not you, made marriage. His Spirit inhabits even the smallest details of marriage. And what does he want from marriage? Children of God, that’s what. So guard the spirit of marriage within you. Don’t cheat on your spouse.
16 “I hate divorce,” says the God of Israel. God-of-the-Angel-Armies says, “I hate the violent dismembering of the ‘one flesh’ of marriage.” So watch yourselves. Don’t let your guard down. Don’t cheat.
17 You make God tired with all your talk.
“How do we tire him out?” you ask.
By saying, “God loves sinners and sin alike. God loves all.” And also by saying, “Judgment? God’s too nice to judge.”
Malachi 2:14
The facts are simple if you are not married take your time and walk slow, get to know the person and their family. Remember they’ve spent more time with them, then they have you. So that’s where the influence will be at.
Sex in marriage is a beautiful thing and is God ordained, the Bible is clear that the Bed is undefiled (Set apart) when done in proper context. God wants you to get your freak on. Put a pole in the room, but only in the marriage context. because you become one with that person, and if you connect with someone physically then your spirit man becomes connected too.
1 Corinthians 7:10
12 For the rest of you who are in mixed marriages—Christian married to non-Christian—we have no explicit command from the Master. So this is what you must do. If you are a man with a wife who is not a believer but who still wants to live with you, hold on to her. 13 If you are a woman with a husband who is not a believer but he wants to live with you, hold on to him. 14 The unbelieving husband shares to an extent in the holiness of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is likewise touched by the holiness of her husband. Otherwise, your children would be left out; as it is, they also are included in the spiritual purposes of God.
15 On the other hand, if the unbelieving spouse walks out, you’ve got to let him or her go. You don’t have to hold on desperately. God has called us to make the best of it, as peacefully as we can. 16 You never know, wife: The way you handle this might bring your husband not only back to you but to God. You never know, husband: The way you handle this might bring your wife not only back to you but to God.
If you have fallen short and fell into the trap of lust then know that God forgives if you repent. But like any addictions you have to run from it.
18 Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.