Marriage #5 -- Gridlock and Shared Meaning
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7 principles… the first five:
7 principles… the first five:
Pinatas
Trampolines — for the life of me, I don’t know why anyone would buy a Pinata or Trampoline after AFV
Wisdom Teeth Druggies
Enhancing love maps
Animal Safari Parks
Nurture Fondness and Adoration
Dogs — anything with dogs
Turn Toward Each Other Instead of Away from Each Other
Crotch shots
Let Your Partner Influence You
These same things have shown up every week for 30 years… and when I tune in, thats what I expect.
Solve your Solvable Problems
Being married is like AFV… there are items that show up every week — however you try to rewrite and rework, they are there:
Being married is like AFV… there are items that show up every week — however you try to rewrite and rework, they are there:
Today we come to the final two principles:
Today we come to the final two principles:
Money
In-laws
6. Overcoming Gridlock
Sex
7. Creating Shared Meaning
1 Therefore, since we have been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ. 2 Through him we have also obtained access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and we rejoice in hope of the glory of God. 3 Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, 4 and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, 5 and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.
6 For while we were still weak, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly. 7 For one will scarcely die for a righteous person—though perhaps for a good person one would dare even to die— 8 but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. 9 Since, therefore, we have now been justified by his blood, much more shall we be saved by him from the wrath of God. 10 For if while we were enemies we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son, much more, now that we are reconciled, shall we be saved by his life. 11 More than that, we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.
Kids
Romans 5:1-
69% of problems are unsolvable… they are not going away.
In church:
In church:
more money that we need
more children’s workers
These aren’t going away… we have to learn how to navigate them.
In marriage, those items can promote gridlock and a marriage struggling to find meaning.
In marriage, those items can promote gridlock and a marriage struggling to find meaning.
Marla — independent to isolation
Ken — dependence to insecurity
When all you can see isolation and insecurity, it is tough to find shared meaning.
We separated.
Since reconciling, we are able to see to the independence and dependence and navigate the isolation and insecurity — most days.
Now we share the meaning of Marla being independent… and my being dependent… those are not going away.
Jesus and His Bride, the Church
Jesus and His Bride, the Church
Holy and Harmony in the garden...
Our sin — not only our actions, but the state of our Prideful determination: “I’m going to do this my way on my terms.”
GRIDLOCK
The story of that GRIDLOCK is found all through the Old Testament… the rebellious, hard hearts of the Lord’s bride toward him.
The story of that GRIDLOCK is found all through the Old Testament… the rebellious, hard hearts of the Lord’s bride toward him.
We were separated from God…
We were separated from God…
Jesus.
We now have peace with God...
The tendency to “do this my way on my terms” is still there...
But the meaning we share with the Lord as He invade our lives and we come to experience his protections, provisions, and presence...
1 Therefore, since we have been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ. 2 Through him we have also obtained access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and we rejoice in hope of the glory of God. 3 Not only that, but we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, 4 and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, 5 and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.
6 For while we were still weak, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly. 7 For one will scarcely die for a righteous person—though perhaps for a good person one would dare even to die— 8 but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. 9 Since, therefore, we have now been justified by his blood, much more shall we be saved by him from the wrath of God. 10 For if while we were enemies we were reconciled to God by the death of his Son, much more, now that we are reconciled, shall we be saved by his life. 11 More than that, we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received reconciliation.