Suiting up: Becoming a Hero for your Son

The Hardest Thing to Except

Although the bible is written for all mankind. We have to except at it’s core the bible has a specific impact on God’s dominant image. The dominant image of God is man. When we study scripture from Genesis to Revelation we can see God’s involvement with all of mankind, but we see a unique responsibility that he has put on man. The bible never downplays the role of women, and for the most part the bible honors women, but God has put man at the front to lead.

Diagnosis: From the time a young man is born he is influenced by all he sees. A young man sees superman flying or the Hulk smashing and although it is fantasy he can’t help to mimic every move that he sees. Or maybe he sees Lebron dunking, Michael Phelps Swimming, or Brady dropping back for a pass and thinks I can do that. The truth of the matter is our sons are born ready to suit up. Unfortunately, fathers will allow there sons to suit up and play out their fantasy and push forward to their dreams. And although, they may put on a custom or a uniform they never put on the suit of manhood.

Two verses that stand out in the bible: , and .

Both of these verses have specific instructions by God.

They Both Provide and show God’s Wisdom

They are both directed towards men.

They both are demonstrate a Father teaching a Son.

God Lens vs Society Lens:

Society has told us what a man should look like, and that image is not the image of God. Men have been taught that being a biblical man is:

Toxic: A poor picture painted to make men seem like barbarians with no filter or restraint. A man embracing strength, doesn’t mean he wants to wield dominance. A single man stopping a nice looking lady that he meets and wants to engage in healthy heterosexual conversation, doesn’t make him a pervert or a candidate for sexual harassment. Or if two boys engage in some rough horseplay, it doesn’t mean that they are going to sociopath, psycho, narcissistic, or have any kind of social disorder.

Gender Bias: A man is wrong to only see men as men, and not to consider that a man could have been born into the wrong body. The moment that man doesn’t except the view of society, he will be considered a bigot or close minded not willing to tolerate someone else for who they are.

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These two views and many others can be solved when a father Gives his son the proper:

Affection: Showing a boy what masculine love is. Giving him the insight to understand that he can love his fellow brother and way that is healthy. Helping him understand what to be attracted to in another man, and how to navigate through that.

Attention: Having time and being around can be way more important than words. When you care what your son is involved in, the more he will appreciate what it is that he is doing. Giving your son healthy attention is essential.

Approval: This is a key element and iron sharpening iron. God spoke from heaven and told everyone “this is my son and whom I am well pleased” ( ). God said this to everyone, and it is not a coincidence that it came right before Christ went into the wilderness, and before he started his ministry. Approval demonstrates us giving our sons the right of passage. It helps him gauge what areas he has mastered and which ones he still needs work at.

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becomes our mandate, because it call us into effective fathering: It has been said that we can’t take someone else where we have not been. Therefore, if you and I expect our sons to be godly men we must first be in passionate pursuit of knowing and growing in our own relationship with our Heavenly Father if we desire for our son to follow in our footsteps. We need to surround ourselves with a band of brothers that provide encouragement and accountability.

What is Biblical Manhood:

God shows us 4 things in his symphony of creation:

God work and hasn’t retired- We has men should work until God makes it that we can’t: A young man should see his father working both physically and spiritually

Protect- God instructed Adam in the way that he should go, and warned him about the pitfalls in life: Most young men suffer from a lack of information not provided by their fathers. A father must share the Good and Bad of what he has done and experienced.

Model- Monkey see Monkey do, and our case Son see Son do. God showed Adam what a loving father looked like. God showed compassion and grace, his demonstration showed Adam how to love Eve. Although, Adam failed to protect her, the model of how was already set: Kiss your wife and front of your son, love your wife and front of your son, and honor his mother in front of him. A boy needs to his father love honor and model good overall behavior. However this area becomes extremely important when it comes to his mother.

Character- Do you act like a man? Although, God was very nurturing and affectionate, he acted like a man and created men to act like him. Do all things in love, but do it like a man: Allow honor and respect go into all things you do and everyone you approach. Have integrity and carry out what you promise. Abandon effeminacy pray it away at all cost. And stand strong, a man might be flexible, but he fights not to bend or break.

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Having a Loving father that acts like a man:

Leads a Boy to do well in school

Have a healthy self-image

Has understanding of social issues and knows what steps are needed. . ( Men of Issachar)

Uses wisdom and avoids high risk behavior

Not Having a Father Leads to a increase:

Sucide

Rape

Murder

Behavior Disorders

High School Dropout

Teen Pregnancy

Homelessness and runways

Prison

When Dad’s cant Brigade Can:

In a lot of Cases some boys are left without a father, or maybe he has a Dad that has to provide for everything and that father lacks time. This is were being a mentor matters.

Stepping in the Gap and helping provide much need time

Reduce the likelihood of self inflicted abuse

Help build a positive image

Give him the tools to forgive his father

Give him a lifelong band of brotherhood

When it is all Said and done:

The bible said God created man in his image. This means that it was something already there that existed before he started. When a Son sees looks at his dad he is looking at a blueprint of what he should be. If your son picked you up and examined you what would he say. Although he will see flaw, he should also see a solid foundation, and that is good ground to build on.