Sermon_week3
FORMED FOR GOD’S FAMILY
The Purpose Driven Life - Part 3
Rick Warren
Saddleback Church – Lake Forest, Calif.
October 12-13, 2002
Sermon Outline Notes
“God is the one who made all things, and all things are for
His glory. He wanted to have many children share His glory...”
Heb. 2:10a (NCV)
“His unchanging plan has always been to adopt us into His
own family by bringing us to Himself through Jesus Christ.” Eph. 1:5 (NLT)
“Love your spiritual family!” 1 Pet. 2:17b (Msg)
MY 2nd PURPOSE IN LIFE IS FELLOWSHIP.
“The person who loves God must also love other believers.”
1 John 4:21 (GW)
FELLOWSHIP is loving God’s Family.
“I’m writing… so you’ll know how to live in the family of God.
That family is the church...” 1 Tim. 3:14-15 (NCV)
FOUR LEVELS OF FELLOWSHIP
LEVEL 1: MEMBERSHIP: CHOOSING TO BELONG
“...You are members of God's very own family... and you belong
in God's household with every other Christian.” Eph. 2:19 (LB)
“In Christ we who are many form one Body, and each member
belongs to all the others.” Rom. 12:5 (NIV)
“This is what we proclaimed in word and action when we were
baptized. Each of us is now a part of His resurrection Body.”
1 Cor. 12:13 (Msg)
“That's what baptism into the life of Jesus means. When we
are lowered into the water, it is like the burial of Jesus; when
we are raised up out of the water, it is like the resurrection of
Jesus.” Rom. 6:3 (Msg)
LEVEL 2: FRIENDSHIP: LEARNING TO SHARE
“All the believers met together constantly and shared
everything with each other.” Acts 2:44 (LB)
· OUR EXPERIENCES
“People learn from one another, just as iron sharpens iron.”
Prov. 27:17 (TEV)
· OUR HOMES
“Open your homes to each other.” 1 Peter 4:9 (NCV)
· OUR PROBLEMS
“Share each other's troubles and problems.” Gal. 6:2 (NLT)
“Let us not give up the habit of meeting together. Instead,
let us encourage one another...” Heb. 10:25 (TEV)
LEVEL 3: PARTNERSHIP: DOING MY PART
“We are partners working together for God.” 1 Cor. 3:9a (TEV)
“The whole Body is fitted together perfectly. As each part does
its own special work, it helps the other parts grow, so that the
whole Body is healthy and growing and full of love.”
Eph. 4:16 (NLT)
“Just as you did it to one of the least of these who are
members of my family, you did it to Me.” Matt. 25:40 (NRSV)
LEVEL 4: KINSHIP: LOVING BELIEVERS LIKE FAMILY
“...they were like family to each other.” Acts 2:42a (CEV)
“Be devoted to each other like a loving family.” Rom. 12:10 (GW)
“We know what real love is because Christ gave up His life for
us. And so we also ought to give up our lives for our Christian
brothers and sisters.” 1 John 3:16 (NLT)
“Your strong love for each other will prove to the world that
you are My disciples.” John 13:35 (LB)
“You are all children of God through faith in Christ Jesus.”
Gal. 3:26 (NLT)
Sermon Transcript
We're continuing in our series on 40 Days of Purpose. Recently, Adelina Dominguez died in San Diego. Now, what made her death noteworthy is that according to the Guinness Book of Records, she was the oldest living American. At 114 years of age, she outlived all of her children and some of her grandchildren. When she was asked the secret of her longevity, Associated Press reports she gave all the credit to God and to His plan and purpose for her life, quote, "I knew God had a purpose for my life."
Now, we're in this 40 days series on God's purpose for your life. And last week, we looked at His first purpose, which is to get to know Him and to love Him. The Bible calls that worship because you were planned for God's pleasure. And today, we're going to look at the second purpose, which is you are formed for God's family. Notice this verse at the top of your outline, Hebrews 2:10, would you read it with me.
"God is the one who made all things, and all things are for His glory. He wanted to have many children share His glory."
God wanted a family. That's why we're here. He wanted children. And the Bible says He planned everything in the entire universe so we could be born, so we could share in His glory, so we could be part of His family. Look at the next verse.
“His unchanging plan has always been to adopt us into His own family by bringing us to Himself through Jesus Christ."
The entire Bible, this entire book, is the story of God building a family. That's what it is all about. It's why we have History, because God is building a family for Himself that is going to last not just here on earth, but forever and ever and ever in eternity. It is an eternal family. You were made to last forever.
Now, once you understand and get started on God's first purpose for your life, which we talked about last week, getting to know and to love God, God wants you to begin to focus and start practicing on His second purpose for your life. And here it is in I Peter 2:17. Read it with me.
"Love your spiritual family."
That's what God wants you to do. That's the second purpose of your life. You see, God says I want you to learn to love the people in your family. Why? Well, there are several reasons. First, your physical family is going to eventually fall apart. In fact, many of them fall apart here on earth. But your spiritual family is going to go on forever. It will last forever and ever and ever. And so you're going to spend more time with your spiritual family than you do with your physical family. God wants you to learn to love them.
Now, why does He want us to learn to love them? Well, two or three reasons.
First, it makes us more like God, because God is love.
Second, he wants His children to learn to get along together. Are any of you parents? You know, you usually want your kids to get along with each other.
And number three, it’s practice for eternity. One of the things you're going to do in heaven, in eternity, is you're going to love God. And the other thing you're going to do is you're going to love the other believers that are there. It is going to be a place of love. So God says, “I want you to practice now learning to love other believers.” So would you write this down,
1. My second purpose in life is Fellowship.” That's the word that the Bible uses to describe loving each other. Now, again, this word, like the word we looked at last week, Worship, is often misunderstood. I mean, if I were to go out and ask people on the street, “What do you think of when I say the word ‘fellowship’?”, some would say a casual conversation, some would say eating out together, some might say going to church. After this service is over, there will be a couple guys out on the patio, and they will be talking and one of them will say, "Hey, how about them Angels?”
And a guy will go "Yeah."
"You doing okay?”
"Yeah, I’m doing okay."
"Well, we'll see you next week."
"Okay, see you next week. Nice fellowshipping with you.”
Now, did they just fellowship? No! They just chewed the fat. They were just talking. That's not fellowship. Write this down, “Fellowship is loving God's family.” And the Bible says this in I John 4:21. Read it with me.
"The person who loves God must also love other believers."
We have to love other believers. Now, how do you do that? Well, fortunately, the Bible gives us crystal clear instructions. Paul wrote this, he said,
"I’m writing so that you'll know how to live in the family of God. That family is the church."
Now, would you circle the word "family” and circle the word "church," and kind of draw a line together -- because the church is a family. It is not a building; it is not an institution; it is not an organization; it is not a club. It is a family. A lot of people say, “Well, I’m going to go to church,” as if church is a place you go to. That's not correct. Church is not a place you go to. Church is a family you belong to. Big difference. It's more than a building, more than a service. It is family that we are to belong to. And the truth is, in God's family there are four levels of fellowship. We're going to look at them in detail. Today, we're going to look at each one. And why are we doing this? Well, first, it is the second purpose of your life. But also it is impossible to fulfill all the other purposes God had for your life without fellowship. You were not meant to be here on earth alone, to go through life on your own. The fact is we need each other.
PASTOR TOM:
Four levels of Fellowship, the first level is Membership. The first level is, write this in with me, "Choosing to belong," making the choice to belong. That's the most basic level. That means you find a church family and you choose, you choose to get connected to it. Look at what the Bible has to say in Ephesians 2:19. Would you read this verse with me?
"You are members of God's very own family and you belong in God's household with every other Christian."
You belong. The Christian life is not just a matter of believing. It is matter of belonging, and you and I must choose to belong. Fellowship begins with belonging, with making that choice. God wants you to identify to make the choice to be a part of His family. When you were born, you automatically became a part of the human race. But you have to choose to belong to the family of God, the church. It is a choice. It is a membership choice.
You know, you hear some people say, “Well, I’m a Christian, but I don't want to belong to any church.” That just doesn't make sense. The church is where you live out what it means to be a Christian. That's like saying, “I’m a football player, but I don't want to be a part of any team.” It doesn't work. That's like saying, “I’m a tuba player, but I don't want to be a part of an orchestra.” A tuba player without an orchestra sounds pretty funny. That's like saying, “I’m a bee, but I don't want to be a part of a hive”; a soldier without a platoon. A Christian without a church family is an orphan. God meant us to be a part of a family.
This next week in the Purpose Driven Life book, we're going to be reading together six reasons why you need to be a part of a church family, why it meets your needs and why you meet other people's needs. The Bible tells us this in Romans 12, verse 5,
“In Christ we who are many form one Body, and each member belongs to all the others."
In this decision that we make, you belong to every other Christian. We are members together. Now, I know the word "membership," is a funny word to some of us. But did you know that this word originally was a Christian word? It came right out of these verses in the Bible. I know that today it is used for being a member of every kind of club and signing up for this and joining that. But originally, the meaning was right here in the Bible; a member of the Body of Christ. Just like your hand is a member of your body, that's how tightly we're tied to each other. This isn't about being a part of some silly club, wearing silly hats and having silly signs. This is about belonging to each other, making the choice to belong to a family.
You know, it is only in America that we have what I call these floating believers, you know, people who go from church to church to church. And one week, I’m a part of this church and the next week – oh, they are doing something hot over here. And next week I’m over here. If you want to grow, if you want to see God at work in your life, you have got to join a body. If you're floating from church to church it's like (let's say you were the liver in the Body of Christ, that was God's job for you) you can't un-attach yourself from one body and try to go attach yourself to another and then to another. If you tried to do that, if you did that with an organ, it would shrivel up and die. And the same thing happens to us as believers. We need to attach ourselves to a group of believers, where we say, “I want to be a part of what's going on there.” Jesus loves the church. And you and I need to have the same kind of love. Jesus calls the church the “body.” We need to have that same kind of respect for it, to recognize what it means. What if I said to you What if I said to you, “You know, I love you, I just can't stand your body”? How would you feel about that? The church is Jesus' body. He loves the church. The church is the bride of Christ. What if I said, “I love you, but I can't stand your wife,” how would you like that?
The church is the bride of Christ. And because Jesus loves the church, this group of believers together that are growing together, you and I need to have that same kind of love for this body by deciding, choosing to belong.
There is a symbol of that, of the fact that we belong together -- a picture that God gives us. It is called "baptism."
Baptism is the picture that we belong together in the body of Christ. Look at what 1 Corinthians 12:13 has to say about that.
"This is what we proclaimed in word and action when we were baptized. Each of us is now a part of His resurrection Body."
It is a public way of saying, “I am part of a group of believers and I am excited to belong to this group of believers.” Romans 6:3 says it this way:
"That's what baptism into the life of Jesus means. When we are lowered into the water, it is like the burial of Jesus; when we are raised up out of the water, it is like the resurrection of Jesus."
So baptism is a public way of saying together we're proclaiming we died to something; we live to something. We died to an old way of life; we're living to a new way of life.
I guess the best picture I can give you is like the wedding ring of the Christian life. This wedding ring that I am wearing doesn't make me married. But Chaundel, my wife, gave it to me on the day we were married so I could wear it from that day forward as a visible symbol of a commitment of my heart. That's what baptism is. It is visible symbol of the commitment of a person's heart, saying I’m not ashamed to tell the world that I believe in Jesus Christ. This last year at Saddleback Church, we had nearly a thousand people who have made that step to say, “I am not ashamed.” In the last ten years, nearly 10,000 people said, “I’m not ashamed to say I am a part of the body of Christ.”
Since we're talking about Fellowship, since we're talking about what it means to have this picture that we belong together, we thought we would share a baptism right now. We have some people out there that are going to have a baptism right now; we're going to bring it right in here for you. Let's go out there to Steve Gladen and share together in this baptism.
PASTOR RICK:
Now, for how many of you did that remind you of your baptism? That's great. I'll never forget the day I was baptized, when I said, “You know I want to make my public commitment to Christ.” I’m not talking about what your parents did for you as a child. I'm talking about your faith, where you said I want to publicly say to the world, “I’m not ashamed.”
Now, the first level is choosing to belong. Second level of Fellowship is a little bit deeper, when you go a little further into the family of God, and this is learning to share. I call this “the friendship level.” Learning to share. You see, you were created in God's image. So you were made for relationships. The Bible says,
“It is not good for man to be alone.”
In other words, we were made for each other. Life is not a solo act. And you need friends. The Bible says this in Acts 2:44.
"All the believers met together constantly and shared everything with each other."
Notice two things: one, you can't develop friendships without meeting together; and two, you can't develop friendships without sharing. Now, the more frequently you meet together, the closer you're going to get. Do you ever see some people that have really deep friendships; they have long-term friendships, 20, 30 years, something like that. And you go, “Man, how lucky.” You’re kind of a little envious. How lucky they are to have a deep friend like that. And I say to you, it is not luck at all. It is a choice.
You choose to develop friendships by making time for them. Do you know why most people are lonely? They don't make time for friendships. They are too busy achieving; they are too busy working; they are too busy doing other things. They are not willing to put the time into it. You have to meet together. You have to get together. And until you start saying this is going to be a priority in my life, you're not going to develop any deep friends. They don't just happen. They happen because you choose to make the time for them. It is not luck. It is a choice. And you can't develop friendships without sharing. It says,
“they shared everything."
Now, those of you who are parents know one of the fundamental lessons children have to learn is learning to share. Every little child has to learn to share. And God says “You know what? In the family of God I want you to learn to share with other believers.” So what are we supposed to share? Well, the Bible is full of instructions on things we're to share as Christians with each other. Let me just mention a couple or three.
Number 1, the Bible says we're to share our experiences. Experiences. The Bible says people learn from one other “just as iron sharpens iron." Have you ever heard of that phrase "its wise to learn from experience?” Well, it is wise to learn from the experiences of other people, because you don't have time to make all the mistakes yourself. You see, if everything you learn in life you learn personally by trial and error, you're going to go through a lot of problems unnecessarily and about the time you figure it all out, you're dead. You don't have enough time to learn everything on your own. So God says you can short-circuit and learn a lot quicker if you learn from the experiences of others. Nobody knows everything. You see, we're all ignorant, just on different subjects. So you know some things I don't know and I know some things thing you don't know. And the person next to you knows some things neither of us knows. And the Bible says that you can learn from anybody if you just learn to ask the right questions. So we're to share our experience with others. Think of all the wealth of knowledge sitting here right now in this church family in this service, and how much we could learn from each other if we just spend the time to get together.
Second, the Bible says we're to share our homes. We're to share our homes. The Bible says in I Peter 4:9, "open up your homes to each other." It doesn't say if they are really nice ones, open them up. It just says open them up. They don't have to be really nice. It just says open up your home. Why does God say that? Why are we to share our homes? I'll tell you why – because you cannot fellowship in a crowd. You can only fellowship in a small group. Or one on one. We're not going to do any fellowshipping here today. It is impossible to fellowship with this many people. We can worship together. We can celebrate together. We can learn together. But no fellowship will take place in this service. You're going to walk out of here not knowing anybody better than you do right now. Fellowship only takes place in the small group. And that's why the Bible says open up your homes to each other. That's where you really get to know people. Did you know in the first 300 years of Christianity, there were no church buildings? All church meetings were held in homes. All of them. There were no buildings. And that, by the way, was the fastest period of growth for the church. One of the reasons we keep saying, “Go get in a small group” is because that's a Biblical principle. Christians are supposed to meet in homes. I read an article the other day. It says they discovered one of the reasons why the sense of community is not very strong in suburban areas. They say, you know, people live next to their neighbors for years and never even know them. They said one of the major culprits is automatic garage doors. Because when you come home, you open up the garage door; you pull in; you close it and walk in your house without ever seeing your neighbor. Before there were garages (and that was before World War II) people actually had to park outside and walk across a big lawn. Nobody has a big front lawn anymore. And so you can see people and you spend a lot of time seeing them, but you don't see them any more. You can drive in and leave, go to and from your house and never see your neighbors. So that's why the Bible says, “Open up your homes.” Do it intentionally.
How many of you are in a 40 Days of Purpose group? Can I see your hands? Look at that. Almost everybody. We have 25,000 people meeting in small groups this week. 25,000! That's the church in action. The church distributed. Let's be a little honest. How many of you would say, “The first time I ever went to a small group, I was a little nervous”? Can I see your hand? Yeah, right. Sure. Because you didn't know what was going on, you had all kinds of fears. A group I’d like to honor today, because they really moved against their fear and exhibited courage, is the hosts that opened up their homes for all of us. If you're a host, would you stand up and let us just appreciate you right now, because you're opening your home? Yeah! Congratulations! Thank you, guys.
Now, I knew that when we started to do this thing, that a lot of you would have some fears. We made a little video that kind of captures the most typical fears of going to small group. Watch this.
PASTOR RICK:
Now, some of you thought that was what was going to happen when you went to a small group the first time. The Bible says we need to learn to share. And where do we learn to share? Not in a big group like this, but in a small group. That's why you are really not going to feel a part of the Saddleback family until you get in a group.
Now, not only do we share our experiences in our homes, the Bible says, number three, we're to share our problems. We're not meant to face our problems alone. The Bible says, “Share each other's troubles and problems.” You know when you share a joy, it is doubled; and when you share a problem, it is cut in half? The Bible says,
“Weep with those who weep and rejoice with those who rejoice.”
Sometimes in a small group you die of laughter and sometimes you're all shedding a tear. Why? Depends on what is going on in your group during the week. You don't have to fix everybody's problem. God hasn't told you to do that. It just says share them. This means lend a listening ear. You don't have to fix. In fact, a lot of times, trying to fix a problem doesn't help. It’s just sitting there and going, “Boy I feel for you,” “Been there,” “I understand,” “That's tough.” You know, and it is just sharing sympathy and experience.
Now, you're never going to go to this second level of fellowship until you get into a small group. That's why the Bible says this in Hebrews 10:25,
“Let us not give up the habit of meeting together. Instead, let us encourage one another.”
The primary purpose of a group is to encourage each other. And it says, “Don't give up the habit." I hope you'll never give up this habit some of you are starting for the first time this 40 days, because you're always going to need encouragement. This last week, we received hundreds of e-mails from people in groups. Let me just read a typical one.
Now, some of you you tried a group and to be honest with you, you didn't feel like you really fit. So what do you do? Just try another one! Okay? Don't give up. It is not like we have a limited number of choices here. We have about 3,000 groups going and so if you don't fit – well, maybe you just found a dorky one; okay? Get in a good one, alright? That's okay. You don't give up. Let me be honest with you. This week I tried a new restaurant and it was pathetic. Now, really, you don't want to get a bad review from Pastor Rick, because I could tell a lot of people. Okay? And eating out is something very dear to my heart. So I take this really seriously when I find a lousy restaurant with, you know, too high a price and bad service and bad food. So after trying this new restaurant and finding that it didn't work, I’ve decided I am never eating out again! Yeah, right! Did you buy the first house you looked at? I doubt it. Did you marry the first person you dated? I doubt it. So, you know, if you got in a group and say, “I don't fit with these people,” that's okay. Being in a church our size, there are lots of groups where you'd fit. So I give you permission to try another group. You are not stuck, okay? You're not stuck. And there are lots of opportunities. You just need to find the right place. If you're still not in a group, it is not too late yet. We actually still have a lot of groups that are still open and actually looking for people to join. You can go out on the patio.
This is the second level, going to learn to share. Now, Tom is going to talk about an even deeper level.
PASTOR TOM:
The third level is Partnership. Partnership is doing my part. Partnership is realizing that I’ve got a contribution to make; that the family of God needs you. Listen, God did not bring you to Saddleback to sit and soak in some spiritual spa. That's not why you're here. He brought you here to serve. He wants to make a difference through your life. In every family there are family responsibilities. You divide up the chores, being part of that family, as you do your part, you do your part, and you do your part. This is a Christian family, God's family. And every one of us has a part. The Bible is filled with the fact that you and I are to work with one another in getting this job done. There are 58 times in the New Testament the Bible says we do it with one another. We serve one another. We love one another. We pray with one another. The Bible even says we have to put up with one another when we're doing all of this. That's how it works together. This is love in action. Not just in words. You see, it is great to share your heart, that's level two. But it is even greater to do your part. That is what level three is all about.
Listen to what the Bible has to say -- in fact, would you read together with me this verse from 1 Corinthians, chapter 3, verse 9.
"We are partners working together for God."
Circle the word "partners." We're partners working together for God. Paul once wrote to some people and said
"we're partners spreading the good news of Christ everywhere."
In Greek, the language of the New Testament was originally written in, the word "fellowship" is often translated “partnership.” That's how close these two words are. You ever want to be part of a great team, something that just did something great? Some of you guys maybe had a dream of being a part of a team that went to the super bowl or won the World Series. You're part of the greatest team there ever was in the church. What we do is going to last forever. Ever want to be a partner in a great business that went to the top of the Fortune 500? In the church, we are part of the greatest enterprise that's ever existed. We get to be part of God's plan for the universe. That's what it is all about, when we cooperate and participate together in the family of God.
But in order to be a part, you've got to find your niche, you have got to find out, “Where do I fit, how I do I fit?” The Bible tells us we all have a niche. Look what Ephesians 4:16 says.
“The whole body is fitted together perfectly.” This is God's job; he does this. "…As each part does its own special work, it helps the other parts grow, so that the whole Body is healthy and growing and full of love."
You might circle those words "each part." That's you, that's me. We are a part of God's body. And it is working together that we get things done. How many of you are Angel fans in here, let me just ask real quickly? The Angels are not a team of standout superstars. In fact, some of you that raised your hand, many of you if I had asked you at the beginning of the year to name some Angels, you would have said Gabriel. There are some Angels, I don't know because there's not a lot of recognizable names. But they got to the playoffs by working together, by everybody doing their part.
You have a part to play. You have a part to play in the Body of Christ. And when we cooperate, we get more done together than we could ever get done by ourselves. There is an attitude, a heart attitude that is key to me, to you, to all of us, that we're doing it for Jesus Christ.
Mother Teresa spent her life working, as many of you know, with the poorest of the poor in Calcutta, India. And she was once asked, "How do you handle all the death and disease on a daily basis? How do you do the tough things when it comes to serving?" And her answer was, “Every person I bathe, every person I bandage, I imagine seeing the face of Jesus and I do it for Him.” That's the attitude that's behind this. It’s the attitude of Matthew chapter 25, verse 40,
"Just as you did it to one of the least of these who are the members of my family, you did it to Me."
So I encourage you to make this a practical action step this week, if you want to experience a deeper level of fellowship. Look for a practical need in your group to meet this next week, just some practical thing, and watch what it does for your relationship for your fellowship with one another.
PASTOR RICK:
Now, the deepest level of fellowship in the family of God is what I call "Kinship." Now, kinship is an old term. We don't use it much anymore. In fact, when I say “kinship” or “kinfolk,” some of you think of this:
But that's not what we're talking about. Kinship literally means your closest relationships. It means your closest family. When somebody has an accident, they say, “Notify the next-of-kin”, and they don't mean go find Aunt Ethyl. They mean you find the person they care about most, the person who is closest to them, the one they hold most dearly, you go get the person that matters most to them, and you bring them here right now because they are kin. And the Bible says that's the kind of attitude we should have.
That kinship -- you might write this down -- the deepest level, is loving believers like family; treating and loving believers like they’re family. You're completely committed to them. The Bible says in Acts 2:42.
“They were like family to each other."
God says “Well, we're not just like a family; we are a family.” Romans 12:10 in the Bible says, "Be devoted to each other like a loving family." Now, the word for fellowship in the Bible is the Greek word “koinonia." And the basic root literally means being as committed to each other as we are to Jesus Christ; that is the deepest level of fellowship. Being as committed to each other as we are to Jesus Christ. That is family relationship. That is kinship. That is saying I’m at the level of being willing to sacrifice for you. You see, many of you know John 3:16, "God so loved the world," but you don't know First John 3:16. That one is just as important as John 3:16. It says this there on your outline,
"We know what real love is because Christ gave up His life for us. And we ought to give up our lives for our Christian brothers and sisters."
This is the deepest level of fellowship; sacrificing for each other. It's the kind of love Jesus Christ had for you. He died for you.
Now, in the Bible it talks about the fellowship of suffering. And, frankly, here in America, we Christians know nothing about this level of fellowship. Overseas a lot of them do, because they are being persecuted. Did you know that all around the world, millions of Christians each year lose their lives just for being believers? Over ten million Christians die every year, mostly in either communist or Muslim countries, simply for being Christians. And so we come to this verse, and people in other places can take it literally. They are literally laying down their lives. “I’ll take a bullet for you. I'm going to protect you.” They are laying down their lives for each other, as brothers and sisters in the family of God. Now, we're not persecuted like that here in America, so it is hard for us to experience this deepest level of fellowship where you're actually giving your life for a brother or sister in the family of God.
So how do you do that? How do you get to this deepest level in America? Well, you do it by standing with other believers when they are going through a crisis. When everybody else walks out, you walk in; you're there for them in the tough times.
Friends, this is what life is all about, loving God and learning to love each other. If you miss this, you have missed the purpose of your life and I pity you. Because life is not about accomplishments. It is about relationships. You were put on this earth to know God and love Him, and to know His family and love them, because that's whom we're spending eternity with. As a pastor, I have been at the bedside of many people as they were dying. I couldn’t count how many bedsides I have been at. In all of those situations where I’ve been there at the side as people were taking their last breath, I have never once had anybody say, “Bring me my diplomas. I want them close to me.” Nobody says, “Bring me my trophies.” Nobody says, "Bring me the gold watch I got at retirement." Nobody says, "Bring me my palm pilot." It is in those final moments they talk about what matters most, and they say, “Bring me my family and friends.” One day, one day you're going to figure out that what really matters in life is knowing God and having close family and friends. I hope it doesn't take that long. I hope you don't discover that at the last moment of your life. I hope you discover it now and begin to fellowship as God intended for us, because life is all about love.
Loving God, that's called “Worship,” and loving each other, that's called “Fellowship.” The Bible says this in John 13, Jesus said,
“Your strong love for each other will prove to the world that you are my disciples.”
It wasn't too long after Jesus said this that the Roman Empire was throwing Christians to the lions in coliseums. They weren't very hospitable to Christians for several hundred years. They were putting them up on stakes and burning them and they were crucifying them and throwing them to lions and all other kinds of things. And in that period of time, one of the most famous secular historians, not a Christian, wrote this about Christians: “Behold, how they love each other." You see, what we want Saddleback Church to be known for is not our size, not our sermons, not our singing, not our strategy, not our buildings, but our love. We want people to say, “That's the place where they love each other,” because that's what Christianity is all about, loving God and loving each other. I'm often asked, "Why is Saddleback Church so big?" I’ll tell you why, When people find a church, a place, where there is genuine love, you'd have to lock the doors to keep people away, because people are not looking for religion, they are looking for a family. They are not looking for doctrine; they are looking for love.
How do you know if you're in God's family? How do you know personally? Let me read you three verses that will test if you're really a Christian or not. Listen to this, right from the Bible. 1 John 3:10,
"Anyone who does not love other Christians does not belong to God." That's the Bible.
1 John 4:20,
"Those who do not love their brothers and sisters, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have never seen."
1 John 3:14, "But if we love our Christian brothers, it proves that we have passed from death to eternal life."
That's the proof.
The greatest privilege you will ever be offered in life is a privilege of being a part of God's family. You see, God's family is a laboratory for learning to love. Some of you grew up in homes that didn't have a lot of love. And, honestly, you don't know how to love. In fact, I have come to the conclusion after pastoring for all these years; most people don't have the slightest idea how to love. The only love they know how to do is sexual love, romantic love. They don't know any other kind of love. So we have to be taught, and the church (the family of God) is where you learn to love real people, not ideal people. Nobody in your small group is ideal and neither are you. We learn to love real people, and that's what God put us on earth to do.
So let me ask you a couple relevant questions: which of these levels of fellowship are you at? Have you even made it to the first one, choosing to belong? Are you still floating around from church to church to church and attend here and attend there? You've never gotten committed. You've never gotten into membership. You need to choose a church. You need to take Class 101 if you're going to come here. We're teaching it all this week, Thursday, Friday and Sunday. You need to be baptized and say, “I’m not ashamed.” That's the most basic level. If you haven't done that, that's your next step.
Then you need to learn to share. And where do you do that? In a small group. You don't learn to share in a place like this. Then you need to not just share your heart, you need to do your part. That's partnership. Find your niche. Find your place to give back, to make a contribution. If you're in the family of God, you have some family responsibilities, as Tom said. God expects you to do your part in the family. You don't just slide along while everybody else does theirs.
Then you move to this deepest level. Are there any other believers that know you are devoted to them? That you're going to be there for them in their crisis? Even more basic question is, are you a part of the family of God? You say, “Well, isn't everybody a part of the family of God?” No. Everybody is created by God, but not everybody is a child of God. You have to choose to be a part of God's family. God gave us one condition, the last verse on your outline. "You are all children of God through faith in Christ Jesus.” You can do that today.
Let's bow our heads.
You know, Father, next to salvation, the greatest gift you have ever given us is the opportunity to be a part of your family. Thank you that we don't have to go through life disconnected and isolated. Thank you for creating the Saddleback family for all of us.
Now, you pray. Say, "Dear God, I want to be a part of your family and I want to learn to love my spiritual family just like you do. Forgive me for taking it casually. I want to grow in the levels of fellowship, so today I’m choosing to belong. I’m not going to float around anymore. I want to learn to share and make time to develop real friendships. I want to do my part in the family of God. I want to learn to love other believers like brothers and sisters. Teach me the meaning of real love. In your name I pray, Amen.”
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