Grace is Living Discipleship

Map vs Menu - The church should be headed in a direction not offering a menu of options

Grace of God - Is a) salvific and b) for all people

Romans 3:21-24

Parents us

Whole range of discipline and teaching

Solomon - the bad example - the importance of living what you say you believe 1 Kings 11:1-4

Heb 12:3-11; Colossians 2:6-7; Colossians 3:1-4

With the goal of self-controlled, righteous and godly lives

Social learning - necessity of family type learning

So we Renounce ungodliness and worldly desires

Col 3:5; 1 Peter 1:13-19

Unparenting

Unbiblical Family Commandments

Money:

Money is the best source of security

The more money you have, the more important you are.

Make lots of money to prove you “made” it

Conflict

Avoid conflict at all costs

Don’t get people mad at you

Loud, angry, constant fighting is normal

Sex

Sex is not to be spoken about openly

Men can be promiscuous, women must be chaste

Grief and loss

Sadness is a sign of weakness

You are not allowed to be depressed

Get over losses quickly and move on

Expressing Anger

Anger is dangerous and bad

Explode in anger to make a point

Sarcasm is an acceptable way to release anger

Family

You owe your parents for all they’ve done for you

Don’t speak of your family’s “dirty laundry” in public

Duty to family and culture comes before everything

Relationships

Don’t trust people. They will let you down.

Don’t ever let anyone hurt you

Don’t show vulnerability

Attitudes toward other cultures

Only be close friends with people who are like you

Do not marry a person of another race or culture

Certain cultures/races are not as good as ours

Success

Is getting into the “best schools.”

Is making lots of money

Is getting married and having children.

Feelings and Emotions

You are not allowed to have certain feelings.

Your feelings are not important.

Reacting with your feelings without thinking is ok.

Waiting for the blessed hope (not going to get here)

Small Group Questions

1. What kind of unbiblical family commandments have you picked up?

2. How can we parent each other in the process of unparenting?

3. What is one way it looks like for you to live soberly, righteously and godly all at once?

4. What do you appreciate about the grace of God appearing to you?