Overcoming Hurt Aimed at YOU Unjustly
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23 And be renewed in the spirit of your mind;
24 And that ye put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness.
25 Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbour: for we are members one of another.
26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:
27 Neither give place to the devil.
28 Let him that stole steal no more: but rather let him labour, working with his hands the thing which is good, that he may have to give to him that needeth.
29 Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.
30 And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption.
31 Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice:
32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
17 Repay no one evil for evil. Have regard for good things in the sight of all men.
18 If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men.
19 Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord.
20 Therefore “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; If he is thirsty, give him a drink; For in so doing you will heap coals of fire on his head.”
21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
Why should I forgive?
The Heavenly Father Forgave YOU.
32 And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.
Resentment is Unhealthy
2 For wrath killeth the foolish man, and envy slayeth the silly one.
2 The hot temper of a fool eventually kills him, the jealous anger of a simpleton does her in.
2 For anger kills a fool, and jealousy slays the gullible.
4 He teareth himself in his anger: shall the earth be forsaken for thee? and shall the rock be removed out of his place?
4 Why are you working yourself up like this? Do you want the world redesigned to suit you? Should reality be suspended to accommodate you?
23 One dieth in his full strength, being wholly at ease and quiet.
24 His breasts are full of milk, and his bones are moistened with marrow.
25 And another dieth in the bitterness of his soul, and never eateth with pleasure.
23 Some people die in the prime of life, with everything going for them—
24 fat and sassy.
25 Others die bitter and bereft, never getting a taste of happiness.
You Want to be Forgiven
15 But if ye forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
Forgiving is NOT...
Minimizing the seriousness of the offense
Instant restoration of Trust
Resuming the relationship without any changes
Three thing must happen:
1.True Repentance
2.Restoration
3.Rebuild Trust
HOW...
Recognize We all are imperfect
23 for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God,
20 For there is not a just man on earth who does good And does not sin.
2. Release / Relinquish your right to get even
19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.
21 Then came Peter to him, and said, Lord, how oft shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? till seven times?
22 Jesus saith unto him, I say not unto thee, Until seven times: but, Until seventy times seven.
3. Respond to Evil with Good
17 Repay no one evil for evil. Have regard for good things in the sight of all men.
27 “But I say to you who hear: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you,
28 bless those who curse you, and pray for those who spitefully use you.
Refocus on God’s Plan for your LIFE
21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
29 Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.
30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.
13 “If you would prepare your heart, And stretch out your hands toward Him;
14 If iniquity were in your hand, and you put it far away, And would not let wickedness dwell in your tents;
15 Then surely you could lift up your face without spot; Yes, you could be steadfast, and not fear;
16 Because you would forget your misery, And remember it as waters that have passed away,
13 As for you, if you redirect your heart and spread out your hands to him in prayer—
14 if there is iniquity in your hand, remove it, and don’t allow injustice to dwell in your tents—
15 then you will hold your head high, free from fault. You will be firmly established and unafraid.
16 For you will forget your suffering, recalling it only as water that has flowed by.