Biblical Guidance/Counseling Week 3

Ready to Restore (15 Minutes)

Don’t forget to set timer

Chapter 7

Go quickly over the 25 principles

Chapter 8

Talk about discipline and it is not put on others

Lance’s 3 D’s

D

D

D

Chapter 9

What questions not Why. - explain the difference

Listening - Chinese character for listening - Garrett’s communication teachers definition

Fear/ Worry/ Anxiety (30 Minutes)

Review:

Who is the most important person in the counseling session?

Isaiah 9:6

When we continue to counsel someone that will not follow directions we are making them defendant on us not Jesus!

First session points:

1. Testimony

2. Find out issue

3. Give hope

4. Agree on goal (negotiate a goal)

5. Give homework (this is a joint effort) Ecc. 4:9-12

3 C’s

Change - Acts 3:19

Confrontation- Gal. 4:16

Concern - Ephesians 4:15

Goal is what=

restore to usefulness

Romans 8:37 more than conquerors not copers

Discernment –

Hebrews 5:14 comes from reading and applying God’s word discernment the spirit gift is different it. Explain faith and the gift of faith.

In counseling we struggle because of discernment and personal experiences – remind them that Paul wrote about marriage

Genesis and the garden story

The difference between personal application and personal experience.

Give example

Fear/ Worry/ Anxiety

Matthew 6:34 NKJV

34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.

Philippians 4:8 NKJV

8 Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.

Romans 10:17 NKJV

17 So then faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.

Mark 4:35–41 NKJV

35 On the same day, when evening had come, He said to them, “Let us cross over to the other side.” 36 Now when they had left the multitude, they took Him along in the boat as He was. And other little boats were also with Him. 37 And a great windstorm arose, and the waves beat into the boat, so that it was already filling. 38 But He was in the stern, asleep on a pillow. And they awoke Him and said to Him, “Teacher, do You not care that we are perishing?” 39 Then He arose and rebuked the wind, and said to the sea, “Peace, be still!” And the wind ceased and there was a great calm. 40 But He said to them, “Why are you so fearful? How is it that you have no faith?” 41 And they feared exceedingly, and said to one another, “Who can this be, that even the wind and the sea obey Him!”

The 3 D’s

John 14:15 NKJV

15 “If you love Me, keep My commandments.

Deuteronomy 30:6 NKJV

6 And the Lord your God will circumcise your heart and the heart of your descendants, to love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul, that you may live.

1 John 4:18 NKJV

18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love.

Philippians 4:6 NKJV

6 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God;

Isaiah 61:3 NKJV

3 To console those who mourn in Zion, To give them beauty for ashes, The oil of joy for mourning, The garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; That they may be called trees of righteousness, The planting of the Lord, that He may be glorified.”

Case Number 11 (15 Minutes)

What am I looking for?

sin

Ways to bring hope

Ways to help bring practical application from the word of God

Proverbs 15:23 NKJV

23 A man has joy by the answer of his mouth, And a word spoken in due season, how good it is!

Overcoming Habit Patterns/Life Dominating Sins (30 Minutes)

Isaiah 61:3 NKJV

3 To console those who mourn in Zion, To give them beauty for ashes, The oil of joy for mourning, The garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness; That they may be called trees of righteousness, The planting of the Lord, that He may be glorified.”

Philippians 4:13 NKJV

13 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

2 Corinthians 5:14 NKJV

14 For the love of Christ compels us, because we judge thus: that if One died for all, then all died;

John 8:32 NKJV

32 And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.”

stiff necked - God gives us over - Nebiconezzwar gone crazy - Ezekiel 14:1-11

Isaiah 59:1–2 NKJV

1 Behold, the Lord’s hand is not shortened, That it cannot save; Nor His ear heavy, That it cannot hear. 2 But your iniquities have separated you from your God; And your sins have hidden His face from you, So that He will not hear.

Proverbs 4:23–27 NKJV

23 Keep your heart with all diligence, For out of it spring the issues of life. 24 Put away from you a deceitful mouth, And put perverse lips far from you. 25 Let your eyes look straight ahead, And your eyelids look right before you. 26 Ponder the path of your feet, And let all your ways be established. 27 Do not turn to the right or the left; Remove your foot from evil.

Homework questions (15 minutes)

Case Number 13 (15 Minutes)

What am I looking for?

Psalm 127 NKJV

A Song of Ascents. Of Solomon. 1 Unless the Lord builds the house, They labor in vain who build it; Unless the Lord guards the city, The watchman stays awake in vain. 2 It is vain for you to rise up early, To sit up late, To eat the bread of sorrows; For so He gives His beloved sleep. 3 Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, The fruit of the womb is a reward. 4 Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, So are the children of one’s youth. 5 Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them; They shall not be ashamed, But shall speak with their enemies in the gate.