Raising Children (2)
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“Now this is the commandment, the statutes and the judgments which the Lord your God has commanded me to teach you, that you might do them in the land where you are going over to possess it, so that you and your son and your grandson might fear the Lord your God, to keep all His statutes and His commandments which I command you, all the days of your life, and that your days may be prolonged. O Israel, you should listen and be careful to do it, that it may be well with you and that you may multiply greatly, just as the Lord, the God of your fathers, has promised you, in a land flowing with milk and honey.
“Hear, O Israel! The Lord is our God, the Lord is one! You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. These words, which I am commanding you today, shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand and they shall be as frontals on your forehead. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.
Fathers, do not exasperate your children, so that they will not lose heart.
Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.
Discipline
Discipline
He who withholds his rod hates his son,
But he who loves him disciplines him diligently.
Do not hold back discipline from the child,
Although you strike him with the rod, he will not die.
You shall strike him with the rod
And rescue his soul from Sheol.
My son, if your heart is wise,
My own heart also will be glad;
Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge,
But he who hates reproof is stupid.
All discipline for the moment seems not to be joyful, but sorrowful; yet to those who have been trained by it, afterwards it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness.
Correct your son, and he will give you comfort;
He will also delight your soul.
Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child;
The rod of discipline will remove it far from him.
The rod and reproof give wisdom,
But a child who gets his own way brings shame to his mother.
For the commandment is a lamp and the teaching is light;
And reproofs for discipline are the way of life
Train up a child in the way he should go,
Even when he is old he will not depart from it.
From Age 5-12
From Age 5-12
The Purpose is the same Deuteronomy 6:1–9
The Purpose is the same Deuteronomy 6:1–9
What does it look like to love God with all your heart
God will not ask you why you didn't take him to...but why...
two tips:
1- the backdrop is God’s goodness (how do you get kids that know the gospel move away from the gospel)?
==> speak of God’s greatness… make God look appealing (the heavens declare)
2- when you discipline the child, don’t shy away from telling them the wrath of God.. but must begin with the goodness of God.
Make Sure Everything Points To Your Need And Their Need For A Saviour
Make Sure Everything Points To Your Need And Their Need For A Saviour
“What is important to you”,
AUTHORITY
AUTHORITY
What does God expect of children? how do children mostly glorify God?
What does God expect of children? how do children mostly glorify God?
Ephesians 6:1, Colossians 3:20
why? out of all problems with the children, why this?
Psalm 51:5
they’re sinners to the core… and the crown of sin is rebellion to God’s authority.
eg. try to say no to your toddler and see what happens… (baby tantrum)
therefore God commands them to obey their parents’ Authority
don’t shy away from that...
tips:
1. don’t ask please all the time… command them
2. don’t give them reasons prematurely (Because I said so, unless they say, Yes dad but)
Smacking
Smacking
two kinds of people "some treat kids as teenagers and.."Smacking reduces,
Sexual Development
Sexual Development
begin to talk about the sexual development,
Greatest Danger
Greatest Danger
"Emotional attachment",