2016-01-24 Luke 14:25-35 Counting the Cost (1): Second to None

FAMILY TECHNOLOGY AND INTERNET SAFETY THE WONDERS AND THE DANGERS OF THE INTERNET WONDERS: • Great way to share information • Great way to research and find things quickly • Communicating • Great way to connect and spread the Gospel • Education/growth • School work DANGERS: • Great way to share information! • Great way to research and find things quickly! • Communicating! • Impersonation • Sexting • Inappropriate content/Pornagraphy • Fake accounts/links DANGERS: CYBER BULLYING • Cyber Bullying (“Electronic Aggression”): Electronic Aggression is any type of harassment or bullying that occurs through e-mail, a chat room, instant messaging, a website (including blogs), or text messaging. • Research suggest that approximately 35% of young people report being victims of this type of harassment. • Can lead to great embarrassment, low self esteem, depression, and unfortunately possibly death. • This is real, this is happening here! DANGERS: SEXTING • Sexting • Headlines: “Teens Who Take Nude Photos Of Themselves Can Be Treated As Sex Offenders” • “It is important to discuss severe consequences of sexting with teens before their lives are changed forever” • Class 3 Felony • Teens convicted of this Class 3 Felony will have to register as a “Sex Offender”. • It is not only sending sexual pictures or content, but also “keeping” it on your device! 11 FACTS ABOUT SEXTING 1.Teenage girls have a few reasons for why they participate in sexting: 40 percent do it as a joke, 34 percent do it to feel sexy, and 12 percent feel pressured to do it. 2.Who will see your sext? 17% of sexters share the messages they receive with others, and 55% of those share them with more than one person. 3.While nearly 70% of teen boys and girls who sext do so with their girlfriend or boyfriend, 61% of all sexters who have sent nude images admit that they were pressured to do it at least once. 4.Nearly 40% of all teenagers have posted or sent sexually suggestive messages, but this practice is more common among boys than girls. 5.Sending semi-nude or nude photos is more common among teens girls. 22% of teen girls report sending images of this nature, while only 18% of same-age boys have. 6.15% of teens who have sent or posted nude/semi-nude images of themselves send these messages to people they have never met, but know from the Internet. 7.Sending or receiving a sexually suggestive text or image under the age of 18 is considered child pornography and can result in criminal charges. 8.24% of high-school age teens (ages 14 to 17) and 33% of college-age students (ages 18 to 24) have been involved in a form of nude sexting. 9.Sexting is defined by the U.S. court system as “an act of sending sexually explicit materials through mobile phones.” The messages may be text, photo, or video. 10.In the U.S., 8 states have enacted bills to protect minors from sexting, and an additional 13 states have proposed bills to legislation. 11.11% of teen girls ages 13 to 16 have been involved with sending or receiving sexually explicit messages. DANGERS: PORNAGRAPHY • Headlines: “Porn Sites Get More Visitors Than Netflix, Amazon And Twitt er Combined” • Online Porn Stats That Will Make Your Head Spin (IN FOGRAPHIC) • http://internet-filter-review.toptenreviews.com/intern et-pornography-statistics.html WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAY? • End Times: Increase of knowledge • Daniel 12:3-7 • In 1900 the human knowledge base doubled approximately every century (100 years). • In 2013 the human knowledge base was doubling every 12 months. • According to IBM, the build out of the “internet of things” will lead to the doubling of knowledge every 12 hours. • A transition from the linear growth of human knowledge to the exponential growth of human knowledge has taken place. According to researchers dealing with this information will necessitate the development of vastly more complex software, shareability, and artificial intelligence. COMPARISON OF SCALE BIBLE SAYS: BE CARFUL! • Job 31:1 “I have made a covenant with my eyes; how then could I gaze at a virgin? • 1 John 4:1 Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, for many false prophets have gone out into the world. • Colossians 2:8-10 See to it that no one takes you captive by philosophy and empty deceit, according to human tradition, according to the elemental spirits of the world, and not according to Christ. For in him the whole fullness of deity dwells bodily, and you have been filled in him, who is the head of all rule and authority. • 1 Timothy 6:20 O Timothy, guard the deposit entrusted to you. Avoid the irreverent babble and contradictions of what is falsely called “knowledge,” BIBLE SAYS: BE SET APART • 5. Romans 12:1-2 Christian brothers, I ask you from my heart to give your bodies to God because of His loving-kindness to us. Let your bodies be a living and holy gift given to God. He is pleased with this kind of gift. This is the true worship that you should give Him. Do not act like the sinful people of the world. Let God change your life. First of all, let Him give you a new mind. Then you will know what God wants you to do. And the things you do will be good and pleasing and perfect. • 6. 1 John 2:15-18 Do not love this world nor the things it offers you, for when you love the world, you do not have the love of the Father in you. For the world offers only a craving for physical pleasure, a craving for everything we see, and pride in our achievements and possessions. These are not from the Father, but are from this world. And this world is fading away, along with everything that people crave. But anyone who does what pleases God will live forever. • 7. Psalm 119:37 Turn my eyes from looking at worthless things; and give me life in your ways. • 8. Romans 6:12-15 Therefore do not let sin reign in your mortal body so that you obey its evil desires. Do not offer any part of yourself to sin as an instrument of wickedness, but rather offer yourselves to God as those who have been brought from death to life; and offer every part of yourself to him as an instrument of righteousness. For sin shall no longer be your master, because you are not under the law, but under grace. • 9. Psalm 101:3-4 I will set no wicked thing before mine eyes: I hate the work of them that turn aside; it shall not cleave to me. A froward heart shall depart from me: I will not know a wicked person. BIBLE SAYS: DO EVERYTHING FOR THE GLORY OF GOD • 10. 1 Corinthians 10:31 So, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God. • 11. Colossians 3:17 And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him. REMINDERS • 12. Colossians 3:10 and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its Creator. • 13. Proverbs 4:23 Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it. • 14. Ephesians 5:1 Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children. • 15. Ephesians 5:10 and find out what pleases the Lord. • 16. Ephesians 5:17 Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is. • 17. Romans 1:29-30 Their lives became full of every kind of wickedness, sin, greed, hate, envy, murder, quarreling, deception, malicious behavior, and gossip. They are backstabbers, haters of God, insolent, proud, and boastful. They invent new ways of sinning, and they disobey their parents. ADVICE • 18. Philippians 4:8-9 Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy– think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me–put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you. • 19. 1 Timothy 4:12 Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity. • 20. 2 Corinthians 8:21 For we are taking pains to do what is right, not only in the eyes of the Lord but also in the eyes of man. TAKE IT TO HEART • It is important for us to know and take these scriptures to heart. These are the words that God gave us to protect ourselves from our self. They serve as our shield and our sword against the ways of the world. • 21. Hebrews 4:12 For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two edge sword, piercing to the division of the soul and of spirit, of joints and marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart. PRACTICAL ADVICE: Get Help! • If you are unable to stay up with the technology, find friends or family that do or can. • They can help keep you “in the know”. • Keep up to date with protective solutions to help manage dangers; i.e. software, hardware solutions. PRACTICAL ADVICE: Plan: • Family Meeting: Make a Family plan on the use of Internet, Social Media, and Technology. • Plan should include Everybody in the family and what is acceptable. • Consider “Open Device” policy. • Amount of Screen time, and acceptable times to use. • Plan should extend beyond the computer or household. • Make sure the plan is comprehensive. Should include all “screens”. (i.e.: Ipods, Ipads, Tablets, Phones, Gaming devices/consoles, TV’s, etc.) PRACTICAL ADVICE: • Resources and books: • Love and Logic • Technology and Kids • 52 discussion topics-One per week • Avoiding power-struggles while discussing • • • • tough issues. What to do if your child doesn’t want to talk. How to share your concerns without coming across as nagging or lecturing. How to help your kids feel comfortable talking with you about anything. By Dr. Charles Fay • iSnooping on your Kid Handbook PRACTICAL ADVICE: • Software Help: • Open DNS (www.opendns.com/familyshield ) Covers all internet connected devices in your home connected to your Wi-Fi router. • Restricts websites on your entire network. • Blocks proxy sites-inappropriate websites that do not leave a trace history behind. Can also consider adding a parental filter offered by your Internet Provider (IP). PRACTICAL ADVICE: • Safe Browsing and tracking software: •NetNanny • • • • • • • • • • Effectively regulates: Access to online games Social media sites Proxy sites and age-inappropriate internet content Keyword alerts Monitor other devices remotely Also create personalized browsing limits and schedules. Monitor live chat and emails Available for: Windows®, Mac® OS, iPhone®, iPad®, iPod touch®, and Android™ phones and tablets $28.99/year subscription. PRACTICAL ADVICE: • Covenant Eyes-http://www.covenanteyes.com/ • Internet Accountability monitors the websites visited, the search terms used, and the YouTube videos watched, and lists them in an easy-to-read Report that is designed to start a conversation about healthy online habits. • Parents, see where your kids go online. Adults, reduce Internet temptations and protect the relationships you value most. • Available for: Windows®, Mac® OS, iPhone®, iPad®, iPod touch®, and Android™ phones and tablets, including Kindle Fire and Kindle Fire HD (Filtering is not available for Android) • 13.99/month PRACTICAL ADVICE: • CyberPatrol-www.cyberpatrol.com • CyberPatrol Parental Controls give you total control over what your kids may and may not do when they’re • • • • • • • • • online. But because no two families are alike, CyberPatrol also lets you set up and manage multiple user profiles so you can customize permissible online activities according to your kids’ ages and maturity levels. Mainly for management of your computer. Control who sees what on your home computers Protect kids from predators and cyber bullies Block porn and other inappropriate web sites Set time limits on computer and Internet use Manage access to applications like games and chat Monitor who goes where online and for how long Use the built-in reports to change the rules if need be $39.95/year subscription OTHER POTENTIAL PROGRAMS • Web watcher-www.webwatcher.com • Mcfee Safe Eyes-http://www.internetsafety.com/safe-eyes-parentalcontrol-software.php • Find other options, comparisons, and reviews at: • http://parental-software-review.toptenreviews.com/ MOBILE APPS • 4Parents-www.4parents.com • • Mobile phone control app-Iphone and Android $19.99/year full protection • Parental Board-www.parentalboard.com • • Mobile phone control app-Iphone and Android $12.00/year OTHER “DO’S” • Restrict Time Usage • Monitor Social Media sites • Frequently look at your kids accounts, friends accounts. • Set privacy settings in sites like facebook to “Friends Only” • Insist on having their log in passwords or don’t allow access. (i.e. Family Plan) • Keep testing your protection • Be wise concerning sleep overs • Monitor video communications-(i.e. Skype, Facetime, snapchat, etc) TAKE ACTION • Start your plan today, and continually update that plan as appropriate • Start your protection immediately • Start the conversation with your kids or grandkids • Monitor, Monitor, Monitor • Keep the conversation going and open about these issues going forward