Parenting In Perilous Times

Scripture

The Dangers of the Last Days

2 Timothy 3:1 You should know this, Timothy, that in the last days there will be very difficult times. 2 For people will love only themselves and their money. They will be boastful and proud, scoffing at God, disobedient to their parents, and ungrateful. They will consider nothing sacred. 3 They will be unloving and unforgiving; they will slander others and have no self-control. They will be cruel and hate what is good. 4 They will betray their friends, be reckless, be puffed up with pride, and love pleasure rather than God.

King James says Perilous - which means difficult and dangerous

there has been a surge and a up-kick in young people preceeding there parents in death

police using excessive force in dealing with black and or latino

systemic racism

youth have become increasingly violent and disrespectful

Do these things mirror the last days?

last days Refers to the period of time before Christ returns to establish His kingdom. Christians in the nt period believed they were already living in the last days (e.g., 1 Cor 10:11; 1 Pet 1:20; Heb 1:2).

The concept of the last days derives from the ot. The phrase and its variations (e.g., “latter days,” “day to come,” “that day”) were used to refer to a period of time in the future (e.g., Num 24:14; Deut 31:29), or to a period before the end of history (e.g., Hos 3:5; Mic 4:1). The last days were characterized by wickedness and unfaithfulness to God, and consequently, judgment (Jer 7:1–15); however, they were also characterized by restoration (Ezek 11:14–21; Zech 10:6–12). The disciples perceived a relationship between the last days and the life, death, and resurrection of Jesus Christ. For this reason, they asked Jesus about restoring the kingdom of Israel (Acts 1:6). The nt writers applied the phrase “last days” and its variations to the second coming of Christ.

Doctrine of Eschatology - ( FINAL THINGS )

Mathew Chapter 24:1-8

Jesus Speaks about the Future

As Jesus was leaving the Temple grounds, his disciples pointed out to him the various Temple buildings. 2 But he responded, “Do you see all these buildings? I tell you the truth, they will be completely demolished. Not one stone will be left on top of another!”

3 Later, Jesus sat on the Mount of Olives. His disciples came to him privately and said, “Tell us, when will all this happen? What sign will signal your return and the end of the world?”

4 Jesus told them, “Don’t let anyone mislead you, 5 for many will come in my name, claiming, ‘I am the Messiah.’ They will deceive many. 6 And you will hear of wars and threats of wars, but don’t panic. Yes, these things must take place, but the end won’t follow immediately. 7 Nation will go to war against nation, and kingdom against kingdom. There will be famines and earthquakes in many parts of the world. 8 But all this is only the first of the birth pains, with more to come.

And so what we are seeing and experiencing now , it’s going to get greater later but it’s going to get worse first.

So it is both difficult and dangerous to raise kids in this generation

So i want to have a discussion centered around this and i want to put this disclaimer out here that umm...

I don’t think its an open and shut case during the corse of one discussion, but i think multiple discussions need to be had as well as multiple commentative views on the subject of parenting during these times

The first view or though i want to put on the floor is

Tradition

an inherited, established, or customary pattern of thought, action, or behavior (such as a religious practice or social custom)

Baby Boomers - 1946 -1964

confrontational, disciplinarians, strict

When it came to raising kids Baby Boomers did not play about spiritual things. WE HAD TO GO TO CHURCH ON SUNDAY

THEY FAMOUSLY QUOTED (JOSHUA 24:15) “AS FOR ME AND MY HOUSE”

NOW BECAUSE WE WERE THE OFFSPRING OF THE BABY BOOMERS (GENERATION X ) WE WERE THE RECIPIENTS OF THERE TRADITIONS

WE DIDN’T GET STUFF LIKE FRUIT CUPS IN CHURCH, CRACKERS AND LUNCHABLES

THEY DIDN’T PUT A MOVIE ON THERE PHONE TO KEEP US OCCUPIED OR HELP US KEEP STILL

OUR PARENTS HAD NO FEAR OF ADD OR ADHD WHEN WE WERE IN CHURCH

IF WE COULDN’T KEEP STILL THEY HAD ONE REMEDY

AND THAT WAS YOU GOT ONE MORE TIME AND IMMA TKE YOU IN THE BATHROOM and if your mom was really bout it she would tag you right there

so they didn’t play , you had to go to Sunday school and tell what you learned

and you wasn’t showing too much of an attitude if you didn’t like it

if they did afternoon service so did you

YOU AIN’T HAVE NO CHOICES

YOU HAD TO SIT THROUGH THE WHOLE SERVICE (TELL STORY OF ME AND SHANNON)

AND NOT JUST IN THE SPIRITUAL SENCE, DO YOU REMEMBER WHEN, IF YOU DID SOMETHING IN THE NEIGHBORHOOD YOUR NEIGHBOR COULD CONFRONT OR IN SOME CASEDS TAG YOU AND THEN WHEN YOUR MOM GOT HOME YOU WOULD GET IT AGAIN .

AND WHAT THAT DID IT WAS CREATING HEALTHY BOUNDARIES FOR YOU AND I, AND IM GONNA TALK ABOUT THAT IN A MINUTE

LETS LOOK AT A COUPLE OF SCRIPTURES

PROVERBS 13:24 Those who spare the rod of discipline hate their children.

Those who love their children care enough to discipline them.

PROVERBS 23:13 Don’t fail to discipline your children.

The rod of punishment won’t kill them.

14 Physical discipline

may well save them from death.

15 My child, if your heart is wise,

my own heart will rejoice!

PROVERBS 22:6 Direct your children onto the right path,

and when they are older, they will not leave it.

Ephesians 6:4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord.

Generation X - 1965 - 1979 despised the tradition, tore it down, gave our kids everything felt we never had. We relaxed the rules and respect went out the window with it. Now we are dealing with a wild and out of control generation

Millennials - 1980 - 1994

When it comes to discipline and boundaries Generation X and the Millennials and generations after did not holt to the Traditions which enforced discipline and boundaries, but rather they started and adopted TRENDS.

TRENDS

Trend - a prevailing tendency or inclination; the general movement over time of a statistically detectable change : also a statistical curve reflecting such change

WHAT KIND OF CHANGES HAVE WE SEEN ACROSS DECADES AND GENERATIONS IN PARENTING?

HOW DOES THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN PARENT AND CHILD LOOK DIFFERENT FROM A HALF A CENTRY AGO?

WHAT ARE THE SENIORS THINKING AS THEY LOOK AT THE BEHAVIORS AND ACTIONS OF THE YOUTH OF THIS GENERATION.

i’m not saying that there was ever a perfect generation, but there were some principles and boundaries that we’ve gotten away from.

Jeremiah 5:22 Have you no respect for me?

Why don’t you tremble in my presence?

I, the Lord, define the ocean’s sandy shoreline

as an everlasting boundary that the waters cannot cross.

The waves may toss and roar,

but they can never pass the boundaries I set.

Expound!!!

What Boundaries have been crossed with TRENDS in this current generation?

Generation X and generations thereafter have relaxed and tried to live vicariously through their children ( we tend to give our children everything we didn’t get as children) expound Proverbs 29:15.. a child left to themselves will disgrace their parents

there was a time in parenting when parents were more concerned about your future than they were your feelings. expound

old school parents would speak the truth in love whether or not your feelings were hurt or not.

you couldn’t just slide anything past your parents.... Expound!!! only two things open after midnight.....

you didn’t dare talk back

raise up

no meant no

A Warning for Eli’s Family

1 Samuel 2:27 One day a man of God came to Eli and gave him this message from the Lord: “I revealed myself to your ancestors when they were Pharaoh’s slaves in Egypt. 28 I chose your ancestor Aaron from among all the tribes of Israel to be my priest, to offer sacrifices on my altar, to burn incense, and to wear the priestly vest as he served me. And I assigned the sacrificial offerings to you priests. 29 So why do you scorn my sacrifices and offerings? Why do you give your sons more honor than you give me—for you and they have become fat from the best offerings of my people Israel!

Jesus Blesses the Children

Mathew 19:13 One day some parents brought their children to Jesus so he could lay his hands on them and pray for them. But the disciples scolded the parents for bothering him.

14 But Jesus said, “Let the children come to me. Don’t stop them! For the Kingdom of Heaven belongs to those who are like these children.” 15 And he placed his hands on their heads and blessed them before he left.

they didn’t worship children in Palestine the way we do in our culture

Exodus 20:3 “You must not have any other god but me.

4 “You must not make for yourself an idol of any kind or an image of anything in the heavens or on the earth or in the sea

Transition

how do we transition in this generation as far as parenting goes, we’ve all fumbled.

the indictment isn’t just on one generation but we all have a responsibility to help reach this generation that were having to deal with now. (things shared today are just my observation)

i believe there needs to be a conversation with

baby boomers

generation x

millennials

and every other generation

kjv. Isaiah 1:18  Come now, and let us reason together, saith the Lord:

Though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow;

Though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool!.

Titus 2:1 As for you, Titus, promote the kind of living that reflects wholesome teaching. 2 Teach the older men to exercise self-control, to be worthy of respect, and to live wisely. They must have sound faith and be filled with love and patience.

3 Similarly, teach the older women to live in a way that honors God. They must not slander others or be heavy drinkers. Instead, they should teach others what is good. 4 These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, 5 to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes, to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God.

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