Principles Fathers Need to Teach Their Children
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Principles fathers teach their children to aim them toward success:
Text: Psalm 127:4–5
4 As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man;
So are children of the youth.
5 Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them:
They shall not be ashamed, But they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.
"Your job as a father is shaping, sharpening, and shooting the arrows that God put in your hands. Fathers who shoot straight will have kids who hid the mark." - Adrian Rodgers
* A father is supposed to train up a child in the way that the child should go in order to assure his success in life. This is called building character.
* Character building used to be one of the goals of schools, and was part of teaching children in this nation for 200 years, but character building is based on the morals and wisdom that are given to us by God in the Bible.
* Because we have as a nation rejected God and the Bible in the education process, the purpose of education is no longer to build character in our children, but only to elevate a child’s opinion of himself and teach him that he has the ability, within himself, outside of the help and wisdom of God, character, to lift himself up by his own bootstraps.
* It’s all about a child’s self-esteem now, and not about building his character and dependency on God.
* The result has been to create a generation of children, and adults, that feel that are filled with a sense of entitlement, thinking that success in the world is all about them and getting what they want and need the easiest way the can.
* This pattern is what the enemy had used to weaken America and turn us away from the strong resilient society that we used to be, into a nation of weak minded, self-centered, entitlement minded, welfare dependent, communist loving, government dependent, socialists sheep.
* Because, as a nation, we as fathers have forsaken the calling of God as fathers to train up our children with a sense of character, we have weakened our families, and by that we have weakened our nation.
* Young men don’t know what means to be a man anymore. If you don’t believe me, then what has been all over the news the past two weeks?
* I am so sick of hearing about how courageous Bruce Jenner is because he wants to wear a dress, receiving awards and accolades by the press, while our soldiers like Chris Kyle are ridiculed and called racists by the limp wristed, pervert loving wimp weanies of the liberal press. It just makes me sick!
*If our country were to have to face real hardship, and I believe it is coming, this wimpy, government dependent, generation would not have the resolve or grit to survive without falling apart, or surrendering to a foreign power.
"America is like a healthy body and its resistance is threefold:
its patriotism, its morality, and its spiritual life.
If we can undermine these three areas,
America will collapse from within." Joseph Stalin- communist
The Communist Rules of Revolution discovered may 1919 by allied forces:
1. Corrupt the young, get them away from religion. Get them interested in sex. Make them superficial. Destroy their ruggedness.
2. Get control of all means of publicity.
3. Get people's minds off their government by focusing their attention on athletics, sexy books and other trivialities.
4. Divide the people into hostile groups by constantly harping on controversial matters of no importance.
5. Destroy the people's faith in their natural leaders by holding the latter up to contempt, ridicule and obloquy.
6. Always preach true democracy, but seize power as fast and as ruthlessly as possible.
7. By encouraging government extravagance, destroy its credit and produce fear of inflation with rising prices and general discontent.
8. Foment unnecessary strikes in vital industries, encourage civil disorders, and foster a lenient and soft attitude on the part of government toward such disorders.
9. By specious argument cause the breakdown of the old moral virtues, honesty, sobriety, continence, faith in the pledged word, ruggedness.
10. Cause the registration of all firearms on some pretext, with a view to confiscating them and leaving the populace helpless.
1. Corrupt the young, get them away from religion. Get them interested in sex. Make them superficial. Destroy their ruggedness.
* In the past, our young men didn’t have the luxury to hang out in the hood with their pants down around their ankles and smoke pot.
* Right out of high school we sent them to the army, who sent them to boot camp and taught them how to endure hardship and get out of bed in the morning!
* The army taught the how to be men! They learned some basic character! They learned how to endure hardship; they taught them how to be self-sufficient!
* The army taught them how do fight for what is right and good! They learned to love their country and respect authority!
* Oh, how I wish it were still that way!
* There was a time when mother’s taught their daughters how to cook and clean and take care of their families! They taught their daughters character!
* My father taught me by example a right attitude to endure hardship. By example my father taught me how to fight to persevere through hardship without compromising my personal integrity and character.
* I remember starting out as a young man going through hard times. I remember being laid off from work, and the transmission went out on my old station wagon.
* Someone dropped my off at an old barn, and not knowing anything about working on cars, by myself during the night, I pulled the motor and transmission out, replaced the transmission with another used one, put the motor and transmission back in, and drove the car home the next morning.
* I remember another time, enduring hard times, no lights, no water, two kids, laying under and old Maveric, with cold rain water flooding my back, laying on my back and holding up a manual transmission with my stomach, installing that transmission in the middle of a winter night.
* I remember only having a few hand tools and no jacks. The old care had a shifter on the columb, but the transmission had a shifter in the floor. I didn’t have anything to cut a hole in the floor for the shifter, so I had to drill holes in a line and knock the hole for the shifter with a hammer.
* All in the cold of the night, by myself, with no friends, no family, just character.
* I remember in a snowstorm walking the railroad tracks across town to buy food, to feed my children.
* It’s the same way when it comes to church and spiritual matters. Christians have become spiritual wimps!
* I remember having no car, but refusing to miss Wednesday night services. On more than one occasion I walked from Jefferson City to Morristown, about 10 miles, just to keep from missing my church on Wednesday nights.
* I remember driving an old car to church that my dad gave me, that was smashed up so bad, I kept getting pulled over because the frame was be and the cops thought I was weaving.
* We live in a day that folks will miss church for the wimpiest of all reasons. I’ve got a snotty nose this morning; I don’t think I can make it!
* Society has softened our youth so much that they are willing to live together in sin, in order to keep their food stamps and government assistance. They are so corrupted and weak of mind that they have no idea that they can obey God and survive without the government.
* The only thing that will be able to save America and return us to a place of strength and honor among the nations of the world is Good fathers!
* Let me first give you an example of what a good father looks like from the oldest book in the Bible, the book of Job.
Job 1:1–5 (KJV 1900)
There was a man in the land of Uz, whose name was Job; and that man was perfect and upright, and one that feared God, and eschewed evil.
2 And there were born unto him seven sons and three daughters.
3 His substance also was seven thousand sheep, and three thousand camels, and five hundred yoke of oxen, and five hundred she asses, and a very great household; so that this man was the greatest of all the men of the east.
4 And his sons went and feasted in their houses, every one his day; and sent and called for their three sisters to eat and to drink with them.
5 And it was so, when the days of their feasting were gone about, that Job sent and sanctified them, and rose up early in the morning, and offered burnt offerings according to the number of them all: for Job said,
It may be that my sons have sinned, and cursed God in their hearts.
Thus did Job continually.
* The man Job was continuously concerned with the spiritual welfare of his children. So much so, that he prayed for them every day
I. Good fathers teach their children about financial matters.
Proverbs 6:1–2 (KJV 1900)
My son, if thou be surety for thy friend,
If thou hast stricken thy hand with a stranger,
2 Thou art snared with the words of thy mouth,
Thou art taken with the words of thy mouth.
II. Good fathers teach their children to not be lazy.
Proverbs 6:6–11 (KJV 1900)
6 Go to the ant, thou sluggard;
Consider her ways, and be wise:
7 Which having no guide, overseer, or ruler,
8 Provideth her meat in the summer,
And gathereth her food in the harvest.
9 How long wilt thou sleep, O sluggard?
When wilt thou arise out of thy sleep?
10 Yet a little sleep, a little slumber,
A little folding of the hands to sleep:
11 So shall thy poverty come as one that travelleth,
And thy want as an armed man.
* Do you know what the word sloth means? It is best described by picturing what men have named a sloth.
* It reminds us of a teenager when you tell them to do something- It moves very, very slow!
* There was an old saying that the farmers I worked with used to say about a lazy, slothful person- “You have to drive up a stob to tell if he is moving!”
Proverbs 12:24
The hand of the diligent shall bear rule: But the slothful shall be under tribute.
Proverbs 12:27
The slothful man roasteth not that which he took in hunting: But the substance of a diligent man is precious.
Proverbs 15:19
The way of the slothful man is as an hedge of thorns: But the way of the righteous is made plain.
Proverbs 18:9
He also that is slothful in his work Is brother to him that is a great waster.
Proverbs 19:24
A slothful man hideth his hand in his bosom, And will not so much as bring it to his mouth again.
Proverbs 21:25
The desire of the slothful killeth him; For his hands refuse to labour.
Proverbs 22:13
The slothful man saith, There is a lion without, I shall be slain in the streets.
Proverbs 24:30
I went by the field of the slothful, And by the vineyard of the man void of understanding;
Proverbs 26:13
The slothful man saith, There is a lion in the way; A lion is in the streets.
Proverbs 26:14
As the door turneth upon his hinges, So doth the slothful upon his bed.
Proverbs 26:15
The slothful hideth his hand in his bosom; It grieveth him to bring it again to his mouth.
Matthew 25:26
His lord answered and said unto him, Thou wicked and slothful servant, thou knewest that I reap where I sowed not, and gather where I have not strawed:
Romans 12:11
Not slothful in business; fervent in spirit; serving the Lord;
Hebrews 6:12
That ye be not slothful, but followers of them who through faith and patience inherit the promises.
Judges 18:9
And they said, Arise, that we may go up against them: for we have seen the land, and, behold, it is very good: and are ye still? be not slothful to go, and to enter to possess the land.
III. Good fathers teach their children to guard their mouth.
Proverbs 6:12–15 (KJV 1900)
12 A naughty person, a wicked man,
Walketh with a froward mouth.
13 He winketh with his eyes,
He speaketh with his feet,
He teacheth with his fingers;
14 Frowardness is in his heart,
* "Here is one for the daughters" God hates drama queens!
He deviseth mischief continually;
He soweth discord.
15 Therefore shall his calamity come suddenly;
Suddenly shall he be broken without remedy.
Proverbs 8:13 (KJV 1900)
13 The fear of the Lord is to hate evil:
Pride, and arrogancy, and the evil way,
And the froward mouth, do I hate.
IV. Good fathers teach their children to avoid the things that God hates in the human heart.
Proverbs 1:7–9 (KJV 1900)
7 The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge:
But fools despise wisdom and instruction.
8 My son, hear the instruction of thy father,
And forsake not the law of thy mother:
9 For they shall be an ornament of grace unto thy head,
And chains about thy neck.
Proverbs 8:13 (KJV 1900)
13 The fear of the Lord is to hate evil:
Pride, and arrogancy, and the evil way,
And the froward mouth, do I hate.
* Not only does the Lord hate forward mouth, bet there are several other things the Lord hates, and He is considerate enough to list them for us right here in our text this morning:
Proverbs 6:16–19 (KJV 1900)
16 These six things doth the Lord hate: Yea, seven are an abomination unto him:
17 A proud look, a lying tongue, And hands that shed innocent blood,
18 An heart that deviseth wicked imaginations, Feet that be swift in running to mischief,
19 A false witness that speaketh lies, And he that soweth discord among brethren.
* God says the following things in the human heart are disgusting to him- they make him sick...
1). A proud look. (eyes), (Looking down on others)
17 A proud look,
2). A lying tongue. (tongue)
a lying tongue,
3). A pre-tensity to violence and fighting. (hands)
And hands that shed innocent blood,
4). Wicked Imaginations- (heart)
18 An heart that deviseth wicked imaginations,
5). Pre-tensity to stir up trouble. (feet)
Feet that be swift in running to mischief,
6). Perjurer- Stirring up rumors and forwarding gossip. (mouth)
19 A false witness that speaketh lies,
7). Sowing discord- being a troublemaker, stirring up people against each other.
And he that soweth discord among brethren.
V. Fathers, teach your children not to buck-up against teaching and reproof.
* A good father will teach his teenagers that rebellion is evil and will destroy them.
Proverbs 6:20–23 (KJV 1900)
20 My son, keep thy father’s commandment,
And forsake not the law of thy mother:
21 Bind them continually upon thine heart,
And tie them about thy neck.
22 When thou goest, it shall lead thee;
When thou sleepest, it shall keep thee;
And when thou awakest, it shall talk with thee.
23 For the commandment is a lamp; and the law is light;
And reproofs of instruction are the way of life:
VI. Good fathers warn their children about the temptation by evil men and women.
Proverbs 6:24–29 (KJV 1900)
24 To keep thee from the evil woman,
From the flattery of the tongue of a strange woman.
25 Lust not after her beauty in thine heart; Neither let her take thee with her eyelids.
26 For by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread: And the adulteress will hunt for the precious life.
27 Can a man take fire in his bosom, And his clothes not be burned?
28 Can one go upon hot coals, And his feet not be burned?
29 So he that goeth in to his neighbour’s wife; Whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent.
VII. Good fathers will teach their children to respect the property of others.
Proverbs 6:30–35 (KJV 1900)
30 Men do not despise a thief, if he steal To satisfy his soul when he is hungry;
31 But if he be found, he shall restore sevenfold; He shall give all the substance of his house.
32 But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: He that doeth it destroyeth his own soul.
33 A wound and dishonour shall he get; And his reproach shall not be wiped away.
34 For jealousy is the rage of a man:Therefore he will not spare in the day of vengeance.
35 He will not regard any ransom; Neither will he rest content, though thou givest many gifts.
Conclusion:
* Fathers, if you will teach your children these principles form the Word of God, you will have given them the tools to arrows that will het the mark of God's will and blessing upon their lives- and it will last a lifetime!
Proverbs 6:20–23 (KJV 1900)
20 My son, keep thy father’s commandment, And forsake not the law of thy mother:
21 Bind them continually upon thine heart, And tie them about thy neck.
22 When thou goest, it shall lead thee; When thou sleepest, it shall keep thee; And when thou awakest, it shall talk with thee.
23 For the commandment is a lamp; and the law is light;
And reproofs of instruction are the way of life:
Proverbs 8:11–21 (KJV 1900)
11 For wisdom is better than rubies; And all the things that may be desired are not to be compared to it.
And those that seek me early shall find me.
18 Riches and honour are with me; Yea, durable riches and righteousness.
19 My fruit is better than gold, yea, than fine gold; And my revenue than choice silver.
20 I lead in the way of righteousness, In the midst of the paths of judgment:
21 That I may cause those that love me to inherit substance;
And I will fill their treasures.
* Fathers, if you sharpen shape your arrows, (sons and daughters), with the whetstone of wisdom, the mark of God's will and will receive blessing upon their lives that will follow them and their children for the rest of their life!