Conflicts in relationship

Matthew 18:15–20 NKJV

15 “Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother. 16 But if he will not hear, take with you one or two more, that ‘by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.’ 17 And if he refuses to hear them, tell it to the church. But if he refuses even to hear the church, let him be to you like a heathen and a tax collector. 18 “Assuredly, I say to you, whatever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven, and whatever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven. 19 “Again I say to you that if two of you agree on earth concerning anything that they ask, it will be done for them by My Father in heaven. 20 For where two or three are gathered together in My name, I am there in the midst of them.”

introduction:

1. Conflict is part of relationships.

the conflict that comes from relationships doesn’t have to be ugly.

truth and transparency are going to from time to time cause conflict.

Growth and Christian fellowship come often from some sort of argument.

Proverbs 27:17 NKJV

17 As iron sharpens iron, So a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.

2. Conflict is personal, solutions should also be personal.

Matthew 18:15 NKJV

15 “Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone. If he hears you, you have gained your brother.

let’s notice the person that has sinned against you is your brother.

this makes the relationship a priority! it is easy to just move people back and forth out of your life, but when your brother sins against you, we are to go to them.

notice that we are called to go alone… not after going to 5 or six others.

one reason this might be what if we miss read the situation and we have spreed it all around.

we have spreed our drama all around?

have you ever noticed that we tend to talk up the offence but not the solution.

3. After we have tried to resolve it personally to know avail, we should take two are three people with us to establish the truth.

Matthew 18:16 NKJV

16 But if he will not hear, take with you one or two more, that ‘by the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established.’

Proverbs 11:14 NKJV

14 Where there is no counsel, the people fall; But in the multitude of counselors there is safety.

Proverbs 24:6 NKJV

6 For by wise counsel you will wage your own war, And in a multitude of counselors there is safety.

notice it does not say there is safety in a multitude of opinions.

in order to be a counselor one needs to be a person of wisdom.

the last thing i need in my life is more ideas. what i need rather than more ideas is solution. wisdom brings solution. solutions brings resolution.

you know this to be true in your own life!

as you started life over, you came to understand that the addictive behavior was more than the substance abuse:

we often find that we are left behind on the maturity scale.

we sometimes have to catch up in our professional lives.

what if when we where confronted with the truth we are confronted in love? in faith (expand on what that means).

3. Finally sometimes we have to let relationships go because they are not healthy.

Matthew 18:17 NKJV

17 And if he refuses to hear them, tell it to the church. But if he refuses even to hear the church, let him be to you like a heathen and a tax collector.

this situation is about church discipline. specifically it deals with unrepentant attitude in their own lives.

as it relates to relationships sometimes the best thing you can do is walk away.

let’s say that you where the one who is wrong in a situation.

there comes a time when there is nothing that we can do about what we have done.

if there is nothing more that I can do. and the offended person cant let it go you have to remove yourself.