Healing Soul Hurts
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Healing Soul Hurts
Healing Soul Hurts
“The Spirit of the Lord is upon Me, Because He has anointed Me To preach the gospel to the poor; He has sent Me to heal the brokenhearted, To proclaim liberty to the captives And recovery of sight to the blind, To set at liberty those who are oppressed;
He restores my soul; He leads me in the paths of righteousness For His name’s sake.
I said, “Lord, be merciful to me; Heal my soul, for I have sinned against You.”
He heals the brokenhearted And binds up their wounds.
What are “Soul Hurts”?
What are “Soul Hurts”?
Soul hurts are open wounds and bruises which are carried and experienced within the person.
Souls hurts are invisible.
Like infection in a wound, soul hurts can “fester” until a person is rendered unable to function
Soul hurts can handicap a person’s inner potential just as a debilitating disease can do to our body
Situations that Cause Hurt
Situations that Cause Hurt
Death of a loved one, close friend
Divorce
Abortion
Abuse
Physical
Emotional
Verbal
Sexual
War memories
Disability
Job loss
Accidents
Failures
Childlessness
Abandonment
Neglect or rejection
Betrayal of a friend
Slander and false accusation
The above lead to any of the “Surface Causes” listed on Discerning Levels of Conflict
Facts and Consequences of Soul Hurts
Facts and Consequences of Soul Hurts
They begin in the family
They affect the entire person
They cause restricted emotional growth
They cause ongoing vulnerability due to their sensitivity
They lead to the Control, Rebellion, and Rejection Cycle
This cycle occurs when “one person controls another, the second person reacts with rebellion and with feelings of rejection. These in turn cause the second person to become a controller, either repeating the cycle with the first person and/or with others. We frequently see this cycle continuing down through generations in families, as the parent’s excessive control provokes rebellion and rejection in their children, and then the children become controlling parents with their children. All three parts of the cycle operate within the same person.” Restoring the Foundations by Chester and Betsy Kylstra (Proclaiming His Word, Santa Rosa Beach, Florida, 1996)
People control for two reasons
Power: This is the rarest of the two
Avoiding Pain: 90-95% of people control for this reason.
Most people in this category will do almost anything to hide from pain, prevent potential pain, or divert pain. They will control, strategize, manipulate, reason, argue, etc.
Rebellion can be active or passive.
Some actively say “No” in a very visible and open way. This is active rebellion. Others say “yes” but then do “no”, doing what they originally wanted to do anyway. Passive rebellion is the worst since it can build up like a volcano waiting to erupt.
Rejection occurs in the same person who is rebelling because he or she feels separated from the controller because of the deteriorating relationship. Rejected people feel hurt and are hurt.
Consequences of the Control, Rebellion, and Rejection Cycle
Produces a new crop of controllers, rebels, and rejected people generation after generation
Isolates parents from children, children from each other, and promotes wars
Isolates husbands and wives and promotes wars
Brings division and strife as one attempts to protect himself
Distorts our view of God as we project our experience with our father onto Him
Produces people that rebel against authority, both secular and spiritual, and God.
Allows Satan to do his work of stealing, killing, and destroying
Causes people to give up, to become victims: “I can never please,” “I am always rejected,” “I have no power,” etc.
Causes stifled emotional development. A portion of the person’s emotional personality may be stifled or shut down because of trauma.
They cause anger / disappointment with God
They affect the entire family
They distort identity and purpose
They cause shame
They cause hurt to others (Hurting people hurt others)
Pouring Out Your Complaint
Pouring Out Your Complaint
Psalm 142
God has given us permission to be real with Him
God already knows how we feel
Anger itself is not sin, but how we use it can result in sin
“Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath,
God is a safe refuge to pour out and release our negative emotions without hurting anyone else
Healing Soul Hurts
Healing Soul Hurts
Ask God to help you identify the source of your hurt through prayer
“Father, I choose to be open and submitted to You today. Like David, I come to You as a refuge for protection and recovery from pain. I can and do trust You to be my protector, my shield, and the revealer of my hurts. I will cry out to You and tell You my troubles. I ask You to bring my soul out of prison so that I may praise Your name.
Father, only You know what lies in the darkness, the deepest secrets inside of me. I ask that You reveal the deep and hidden things to me and to those who are Your instruments of healing and covering in my life. Search me, and show us the hurts that You want to heal today. I trust You not to reveal more than I can bear.
I give You permission to dig deep for the roots of any hidden memories that are affecting my life. I ask You to take the keys to my heart now, and unlock the doors. By-pass any denial or deception that may block my memory. By-pass anything that hinders me from receiving my healing.
Father, I ask You to bring those things to the surface that You want to heal. I ask You to be with me as I re-experience any past hurt and pain. I want to be set free by the power of the Cross and shed Blood of Jesus.
In the name of Jesus Christ I pray. Amen!”
Stop now and in the quietness of your soul, allow the Holy Spirit to bring to the surface areas that the Father wants to heal today.
Once the area of hurt has been identified, pray:
“Father, I submit to You now this hurt inside of me which is ___________________ . I choose now to forgive _______________ for causing me this frustration and pain. I ask You to forgive me, for hurting myself and others out of my hurt. I repent of this behavior, and my attitude. I receive Your forgiveness now and on this basis I choose to forgive myself for allowing this hurt to control me. I release and give this hurt and frustration to You, Father. I ask You now to pour in Your oil and wine to heal my wounds and to wrap my soul in Your mercy and love. Thank You, Father. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.” (Stop now and take time to receive His healing as the Holy Spirit releases it in your life)