SF297 - WHAT TO DO WHEN IT HURTS PART FIVE HOW TO HELP THE HURTING (2 Corinthians 1 3-11)

@PAGE NUMBER = SF297

@TITLE = WHAT TO DO WHEN IT HURTS <R>PART FIVE:<R>HOW TO HELP THE HURTING

@LEVEL ONE = 2 CORINTHIANS 1:3‑11

@LEVEL ONE = INTRODUCTION

@LEVEL TWO = Suffering Will Either...

@LEVEL THREE = Make you bitter or better

@LEVEL THREE = Make you a burden or a blessing

@LEVEL THREE = Involve you with others or isolate you from others.

@LEVEL TWO = It all depends on our attitude

@ILL TITLE = HELEN KELLER

@ILL TEXT = We bereaved are not alone, We belong to the largest company in all the world‑the company of those who have known suffering... So long as you can sweeten another's pain, life is not in vain...

@LEVEL TWO = Paul Was Tempted To Quit (v.8)

@LEVEL THREE = God's presence and the Saint's prayer sustained him.

@LEVEL TWO = Paul Learned To Comfort Others (v.4)

@LEVEL THREE = We can share pleasure easier than pain.

@LEVEL THREE = Danger of becoming isolated

@LEVEL THREE = We must comfort others

@LEVEL TWO = Beware Of Becoming The Wrong Kind Of Comforters

@LEVEL THREE = Job's Friends

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@SCRIPTURE = JOB 16:2<R> "I have heard many things like these; miserable comforters are you all!

@LEVEL TWO = What Went Wrong?

@LEVEL ONE = 1A. THEY POSSESSED THE WRONG MOTIVES

@LEVEL TWO = 1B. They Sought A Sinful Man

@LEVEL FOUR = They reacted to Job's words instead of responding to Job's feelings.

@LEVEL TWO = 2B. They Found A Broken Man

@LEVEL THREE = 1C. His resistance was broken = fear.

@LEVEL THREE = 2C. His fear lead to insecurity

@LEVEL TWO = 3B. They Failed A Spiritual Test

@LEVEL THREE = 1C. Job was a threat to their theology.

@LEVEL THREE = 2C. Job was a challenge to their philosophy

@LEVEL ONE = 2A. THE PRACTICED THE WRONG METHODS

@LEVEL TWO = 1B. They Tried To Explained When They Should Have Encouraged

@LEVEL THREE = 1C. People live on promises not explanations

@LEVEL THREE = 2C. People need God more than explanations

@LEVEL TWO = 2B. They Condemned When They Should Have Comforted

@LEVEL THREE = 1C. God must first comfort you (v.4)

@SCRIPTURE = "comfort" = to come alongside to help

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@LEVEL THREE = 2C. God's comfort is the key (v.4)

@SCRIPTURE = "in all our troubles..."

@LEVEL ONE = 3A. THEY PRESENTED THE WRONG MEANS

@LEVEL TWO = 1B. They Focused On Man When They Should Have Focused On God

@LEVEL THREE = We are not to defend God, we are to demonstrate God

@LEVEL TWO = 2B. They Gave Pat Answers To Complex Questions

@LEVEL THREE = Remember "I don't know" is always better than pat answers.

@LEVEL THREE = Like:

@LEVEL FOUR = "Things could be worse," ‑Could they?  They seem pretty bad right now.

@LEVEL FOUR = "Other people have it worse than you do!" ‑ Do they?  How do you know?  Anyway, should it make me feel better to know that others hurt worse than I do?

@LEVEL FOUR = "Just think of the wonderful memories you have!" ‑ Have you ever tried to live on memories?  Sometimes my past joys only magnify my present pain.

@LEVEL THREE = Job called these "proverbs of ashes" (Job 13:12)

@LEVEL ONE = CONCLUSION

@LEVEL THREE = People Need Real Comfort From Real People Who Have Been Comforted By A Real God.

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@LEVEL TWO = Five Steps

@LEVEL THREE = 1. Meet the sufferer where they are

@LEVEL THREE = 2. Avoid a "holier‑than‑thou" attitude

@LEVEL THREE = 3. Encourage don't explain

@LEVEL THREE = 4. Be a channel of God's comfort

@LEVEL THREE = 5. Listen to them and live Christ before them