The Gift of Being Known

The Gift of Being Known Given by Debbie Minke Jan 31/21 Who knows you? Who REALLY knows you? If you're blessed like I am to be married, perhaps you would say your spouse really knows you. My husband knows me quite well-my quirks, my weaknesses and idiosyncrasies-and amazingly he still loves me. For example, Craig knows that once I'm reading in bed, I'm no longer open to conversation as I'm trying to wind down my brain from the day's concerns and enter the mellow la-la land that lulls me into sleep. When I'm reading, I don't want to discuss politics, family matters or ideas for church. Craig knows me and MOST of the time he saves these conversations for a better time of day. Some of us have experienced deep friendships that have stood the test of time. I am so blessed to feel truly known by my special friend Denise. We've travelled through almost 30 years of life together, sharing joy and heartaches, prayers, laughter and a lot of tea and chocolate. She knows me. Sadly, a recent poll by a news station determined that 94% of participants agreed with the statement, "Nobody really knows me." In an age where the front porch has been replaced by a back deck hidden behind a wrap-around fence, our society seems bent on remaining "unknown." But this comes at a cost. All the technological advances to help people to stay connected have done little to offset the growing feelings of isolation and loneliness that are widespread in our culture. These feelings can be experienced by everyone, whether married or not, whether you have a close friend or not. Today we discover a breath of fresh air that comes to us from Psalm 139. This is a beloved favourite for many, as it reminds us that no matter how alone we may sometimes feel, there is One who knows us more deeply than we even know ourselves. The Psalmist finds this truth to be a marvelous reality to meditate on. He seems to take long strides in saying what could be said very quickly. He begins with "O Lord, you have searched me and known me." He could just end there but instead he goes to great lengths to make the same point over and over. This truth of being known by the Lord is like a diamond of great beauty that one wants to examine at every angle to capture all the sparkling interrelated facets. We will linger today with the Psalmist so we too can be dazzled by the glimmering beauty of being known by our gracious Lord. Before we start, it will be helpful to acknowledge that Psalm 139 seems to be written by someone seeking vindication-wanting to be cleared of blame or suspicion--possibly from false accusations. The writer is beseeching the one who knows the truth of his situation and knows his heart. He wants the Lord to weigh in and judge him and his situation according to his perfect knowledge. He is seeking refuge in the Lord's saving knowledge of himself. We may not feel we can be so bold in such a prayer. Do we really want God's all-seeing gaze to search our innermost thoughts? Do we really want him to search our hearts to the core? Surely it wouldn't take long for God to see that we have no grounds for vindication. Even we are aware that we have hidden sins. But for the believer, we must add to this the fact that we are hidden in Christ. Who we truly are is who we are BECOMING in Jesus. We do not fully know who we are yet, but the Father does, and when he searches us, he finds Jesus living in us. Did you catch that? When God searches us, he finds JESUS living in us. And there is our rock-solid vindication. Ultimately then, this Psalm points us to Jesus, in whom we have our life and our vindication, not on our righteousness but on his. So, with that in mind, let us continue, looking at God's insight, God's oversight and God's foresight as described in Psalm 139. The first 6 verses talk about his insight. God's Insight O Lord, you have searched me and known me. You know when I sit down and when I rise up; you discern my thoughts from far away. You search out my path and my lying down, and are acquainted with all my ways. Even before a word is on my tongue, O Lord, you know it completely. You hem me in, behind and before, and lay your hand upon me. Such knowledge is too wonderful for me; it is so high that I cannot attain it. (Psalm 139:1-6 NRSV) The first section of this Psalm highlights the INSIGHT that God has of his creatures. This insight is expressed in several ways, primarily by using opposites. The Lord knows when we sit down and when we rise up. This means he knows us for who we truly are whether we are inactive or active. There is a lie that goes around that what we do defines us. We are often told that our value is measured by what we can contribute or produce. As long as we are producing, we can be known to have some value. But God knows us beyond our utility. He knows us as his son or daughter, and his pleasure in us is NOT determined by our activity or inactivity. In this knowledge we can work and play and not fear that he turns his face from us when we grow too weary to do either. The Lord also knows us in our inward thoughts "from far away." The Lord is never so far as to not know what is going on inside us. In fact, he knows what is going on inside us even more than we do. There is no long-distance relationship with the Lord. This means we can always bring to him our inner conflicts, our unresolved tensions and questions. We never have to fear creating distance between us and the Lord by sharing too much. He already knows from afar. Verse 3 speaks of the Lord knowing our "path" and our "lying down." Whether we are on the go or are at rest, the Lord never loses sight of us. When our lives become hectic and frantic, we may lose sight of where we are going and who we are, but the Lord does not. When we reach the end of our rope and run out of energy or motivation, the Lord does not walk on without us. He has no problem with a change of pace. The Lord knows the words on our tongue. He doesn't control what we say (now wouldn't that be a dream come true if he did!), but he knows our heart, our motives, our intent. This is SO comforting, especially for an outspoken Dutch person like me! The psalmist writes, "You hem me in, behind and before, and lay your hand upon me." There are times in our walk with the Lord that we need his hands to give us a push from behind. There are other times when we need the Lord's hands to drag us forward. Either way, the Lord knows when to push and when to pull. We can trust that his nail-scarred hands do both out of his passionate love for us. All this language using extreme opposites are ways to express that the Lord knows us completely in the totality of our lives. As the psalmist confesses, this knowledge is "too wonderful for me." God's Oversight Carrying on in Psalm 139, verses 7 to 12 speak to us about God's oversight. Where can I go from your spirit? Or where can I flee from your presence? If I ascend to heaven, you are there; if I make my bed in Sheol, you are there. If I take the wings of the morning and settle at the farthest limits of the sea, even there your hand shall lead me, and your right hand shall hold me fast. If I say, "Surely the darkness shall cover me, and the light around me become night," even the darkness is not dark to you; the night is as bright as the day, for darkness is as light to you. (Psalm 139:7-12 NRSV) The second section of this Psalm describes God's divine OVERSIGHT that he has for his creatures. Here the psalmist lets us know that there is nowhere we can go to escape God's presence. Jonah would heartily agree. Some metaphorical language is used in this section to relay this truth-again using opposites. The psalmist covers all directions from up (heaven) to down (sheol) to east (winds of the morning) to the western horizon (sea). No matter what direction one takes, God will find us. I guess you could say the Lord never loses at hide and seek. How comforting it is to know that the Lord does not lose sight of us even when we may want him to. Verse 10 reminds us that no matter what direction our lives turn, Jesus will still be there to lead us and hold us to himself. God's Foresight Verses 13 to 18 remind us of God's foresight: For it was you who formed my inward parts; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; that I know very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes beheld my unformed substance. In your book were written all the days that were formed for me, when none of them as yet existed. How weighty to me are your thoughts, O God! How vast is the sum of them! I try to count them-they are more than the sand; I come to the end-I am still with you. (Psalm 139:13-18 NRSV) These verses describe God's foresight of his beloved creatures. We are not accidents of nature, a random collision of atoms, or arbitrary expressions of matter. We are "fearfully and wonderfully made." That is an amazing truth to meditate on. The infinite and almighty God thought you up so he could spend the rest of eternity with you. That's what you are created for. Not to be forgotten when your atoms and matter return to the dust, but to be re-membered in Christ, to be known and loved for all eternity. You were created to know God for who he is and to be known by him for whom he created you to be. This is a level of knowing and being known that is so complex, we have only scratched the surface today. Jesus knows the Father perfectly and the Father knows Jesus perfectly, and it is in Jesus that we are invited to participate in their perfect knowledge of one another. In Christ we will be known in a way that sets us free from all hiding and secrecy. We will be perfectly safe being known by the Father. In Jesus we will also know the Father in the same way the Son knows the Father, although not to the same extent. In his perfect knowledge of the Father, we will know we are safe and secure in his presence. We will know his amazing love for us in the same way the Son has experienced the Father's love for all eternity. We will find knowing the Father to be the absolute thrill of our existence. After contemplating the overwhelming beauty of God's knowledge of us, the Psalmist then proceeds to ask for God's vindication. On the assurance that God sees all with his perfect saving knowledge, we too can bring all our concerns to him, knowing he will search it out and set it right according to his insight, oversight, and foresight. All this is given to us in Jesus. In Jesus we never have to fear falling out of sight. In Jesus, the best gift, we are known and loved for all eternity. Prayer Heavenly Father, how precious is this gift of being known. Feelings of loneliness can overwhelm us even in close human relationships like marriage or friendship. It's easy to feel that no one really gets us, really knows us. Yet you are the one who made us, and YOU know us more deeply than we even know ourselves. You, the infinite and almighty God created us so you could spend the rest of eternity with us, knowing us, loving us. Thank you that you know us so well that you've given us the perfect gift-Jesus. As we come to know Jesus, we come to know ourselves the way you know us. Help us to fully receive the gift of Jesus so that we come to see that knowing you, our heavenly Father and being known by You is the life we are made for. Help us to thrive in your loving care. In Christ we pray. Amen