SF625 - REAL MEN DO DISHES ( 1 Peter 3 7)
SF625
REAL MEN DO DISHES
1 Peter 3:7
INTRODUCTION
Where have all the Men Gone?
How I learned to be a Man...
I learned to be a man from a man. He was a man of principle, a man of values, a man who could laugh at himself and cry with others. He was a man who could pray quietly and praise loudly. He was a man that knew the value of hard work and the importance a honest play. He was a man of great emotion but even greater commitment. He was a man who loved his children dearly, his wife openly and his Lord supremely. He was a real man, a man that was just as masculine in the kitchen as he was in the field. He was a real man, he did dishes and floors and beds and windows. He was a real man, he was my Dad. Tim McGhee
Our Land is in desperate need for some Real Men...
Will you accept the Challenge?
Simon Peter gives us a description of a Real Man...
1A. A REAL MAN WILL SEEK TO UNDERSTAND HIS WIFE
“Considerate” = “according to knowledge” - to have an intimate knowledge
“Watch a man who says he understands women. He will probably lie about other things too.”
1B. Understand What She Likes
2B. Understand How She Thinks
Men Women
Analytical Emotional
Doers Be-ers
Success Security
Results oriented Relationships
Thinkers Talkers
3B. Understand How She Communicates
More with what she does than what she says!
2A. A REAL MAN WILL SPEND TIME WITH HIS WIFE
“Live” = “dwell” - to reside together (as a family); Implies Intimacy!
1B. Prime Time
Not always the leftovers!
2B. Planned Time
You must plan to spend significant amounts of time with you spouse!
3B. Personal Time (1 Corinthians 7:1-5)
(Hebrews 13:4) "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral."
3A. A REAL MAN IS SENSITIVE TO HIS WIFE’S NEEDS
1B. She Needs to be Valued
“Respect...” = “honor” - to value, to esteem!
For who she is
“Honor (respect) is a decision we make to place a high value, worth, and importance on another person, viewing him or her as a priceless gift, and granting that person a position in our lives worthy of great respect. And love involves putting that decision into action.” Gary Smalley
For what she does...she’s a...
meal planner, a nurse, counselor, policeman, clothier, budget and financial planner, teacher, cheerleader, career woman, spiritual advisor, nursery worker, seamstress, cook, maid, linguistics expert. She has to understand how to decipher the dialect of a 2-year old, a gardener, administrator, schedule planner, interior decorator, chauffeur, environmentalist, historian, a confidant, a companion, a lover, an advisor, an encourager, a partner, a comforter, a hostess, an entertainer, a volunteer, a friend, a choir member, S.S. teacher, counselor, worker, soul winner.
Honor them...
Personally
Publicly
Frequently
2B. She Needs to be Treasured
“Weaker....” = delicate, like silk
Not of less value or use... but different
4A. A REAL MAN IS THE SPIRITUAL LEADER OF HIS HOME
1B. We are Equal not the Same
“As heirs...’
Equally Significant
(Galatians 3:28) "There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus."
Significantly different (Ephesians 5:21-33)
2B. We are One not Two
Physical union - “live, dwell”; “one flesh”
Emotional union - “considerate, knowledge”
Spiritual union - “prayers”
APPLICATION
Weirsbe’s Test (p. 411)
1. Am I a partner to or competitor with my mate?
2. Am I helping my mate become more spiritual?
3. Am I depending on the externals or the eternals? The artificial or the real?
4. Do I understand my mate better?
5. Am I sensitive to each my mate’s feelings and ideas, or am I taking them for granted?
6. Am I seeing God answer my prayers? Am I praying for and with my mate?
7. Is my mate enriched because of our marriage, or am I robbing them of God’s blessing?
Is Christ the central focus of my life and my marriage?