Parenting as the Father Intends
Notes
Transcript
“Now this is the commandment—the statutes and the rules—that the Lord your God commanded me to teach you, that you may do them in the land to which you are going over, to possess it, that you may fear the Lord your God, you and your son and your son’s son, by keeping all his statutes and his commandments, which I command you, all the days of your life, and that your days may be long. Hear therefore, O Israel, and be careful to do them, that it may go well with you, and that you may multiply greatly, as the Lord, the God of your fathers, has promised you, in a land flowing with milk and honey. “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.
Evangelism
Evangelism
Primary Responsibility
Primary Responsibility
I am reminded of your sincere faith, a faith that dwelt first in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice and now, I am sure, dwells in you as well.
You are NOT your child’s savior
You are NOT your child’s savior
The wind blows where it wishes, and you hear its sound, but you do not know where it comes from or where it goes. So it is with everyone who is born of the Spirit.”
You cannot purchase your child’s salvation with emotion
You cannot purchase your child’s salvation with # of prayers
You cannot purchase your child’s salvation with enough good deeds or your own repentance
You cannot purchase your child’s salvation with pressuring them / scaring them
You cannot purchase your child’s salvation with comfort
I, I am the Lord, and besides me there is no savior.
No Fire Insurance
No Fire Insurance
And you, who once were alienated and hostile in mind, doing evil deeds, he has now reconciled in his body of flesh by his death, in order to present you holy and blameless and above reproach before him, if indeed you continue in the faith, stable and steadfast, not shifting from the hope of the gospel that you heard, which has been proclaimed in all creation under heaven, and of which I, Paul, became a minister.
The best way to ensure continued faithfulness of your child is to ensure faithfulness by the parents. Bring, don’t send kids to church.
Discipling
Discipling
Positive
Positive
And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.
Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
Compare the time you spend with your children compared to the time they have at school, with friends, online...
Corrective
Corrective
For the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and chastises every son whom he receives.”
Distinction - sons
Action - correction
Purpose - love
“Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.
Cooperation
Cooperation
It takes a village to raise an idiot
It takes a church family to raise a proper Christian
Commitment from parents
For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.
commit and submit to the local church
submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ.
This requires much more than regular attendance, but not less
This is why I prefer the term participation; true participation IS membership, not only includes
What is the difference between a chicken and a hog in breakfast? - the chicken was involved; the hog was committed
Commitment from church
When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all the truth, for he will not speak on his own authority, but whatever he hears he will speak, and he will declare to you the things that are to come.
So then, as we have opportunity, let us do good to everyone, and especially to those who are of the household of faith.
And Peter said to them, “Repent and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins, and you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit. For the promise is for you and for your children and for all who are far off, everyone whom the Lord our God calls to himself.”
Church Family, it is our duty and delight to affirm that parents have the primary responsibility for evangelizing and discipling their children, but as the family of God it is also our duty and delight to come along side and reinforce and support the teaching of God’s Law of justice and Gospel of grace to all children.