Marriage Secrets Part 3 Honesty

Part 3 MARRIAGE SECRETS  

Honesty

1. MARRIAGE IS A REFLECTION OF CHRIST AND THE CHURCH

Eph 5:25,32 Husbands love your wives just as Christ...

Ephesians 5:25 NIV - Anglicised

25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

Ephesians 5:32 NIV - Anglicised

32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.

This is a profound mystery-- but I am talking about Christ and the Church

Everything about marriage relates to our relationship with Christ.

Courtship and Dating

Kissing & Hugging

Intercourse

Producing life and having a family

2. Honesty is a requirement for relationship with God

Isa 59:2 Your sins have separated you from God

1Jn 1:9 If you confess your sin

without honesty you never make a connection

3. GOD IS TRUTH

Jn 1:14 Full of grace and truth

John 1:14 NIV - Anglicised

14 The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us. We have seen his glory, the glory of the One and Only, who came from the Father, full of grace and truth.

Tit 1:2 God cannot lie

Titus 1:2 NIV - Anglicised

2 a faith and knowledge resting on the hope of eternal life, which God, who does not lie, promised before the beginning of time,

Jn 14:6 The Way, the Truth and the Life

John 14:6 NIV - Anglicised

6 Jesus answered, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No-one comes to the Father except through me.

Honesty is a co-partner with Truth

Truth = male Honesty = female

Ps 51:6 You desire truth in the inner parts

Psalm 51:6 NIV - Anglicised

6 Surely you desire truth in the inner parts; you teach me wisdom in the inmost place.

Satan Is the Father of Lies

4. Satan Is the Father of Lies

Jn 8:44 Satan, the father of lies

John 8:44 NIV - Anglicised

44 You belong to your father, the devil, and you want to carry out your father’s desire. He was a murderer from the beginning, not holding to the truth, for there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies.

The First Temptation Was a Lie

Gen 3:1- 5 The first words of Satan were lies

Genesis 3:1–5 NIV - Anglicised

1 Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?” 2 The woman said to the serpent, “We may eat fruit from the trees in the garden, 3 but God did say, ‘You must not eat fruit from the tree that is in the middle of the garden, and you must not touch it, or you will die.’ ” 4 “You will not surely die,” the serpent said to the woman. 5 “For God knows that when you eat of it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God, knowing good and evil.”

Lying is something God really hates

Rev 21:8 All liars shall have their part in the lake of fire

Revelation 21:8 NIV - Anglicised

8 But the cowardly, the unbelieving, the vile, the murderers, the sexually immoral, those who practise magic arts, the idolaters and all liars—their place will be in the fiery lake of burning sulphur. This is the second death.”

Lying is something God really hates

WHY?

Because it destroys intimacy

5. Real Honesty Is Required for Real Intimacy

Without honesty you cannot have real intimacy

Hidden offenses are a cancer

I’m honest with you because I’m honest with God

I’m committed to you because I’m committed to God

6. Transparency And Honesty Are Inseparable

Intimacy = In -To – Me – See

God is light Everything is visible

Satan is darkness Everything is hidden

Secret societies… Darkness thrives

Mold thrives in darkness

Many people come into marriage thinking they can hide things and then wonder why they

Transparency means God sees me

I should have nothing to hide

Honesty Is Co-partner with Vulnerability

Your Marriage Can Only Be As Deep As You Allow Your Spouse to See You

The Night in Shining Armor Fallacy

There is no perfect spouse!

Everyone has issues!

If Show You Who I Really Am Will You Still Love Me?

Will you love me if I tell you who I really am?

Can you know you know your partners deepest ugly’s and still love them???

God Is the Epitome of Intimacy and Honesty Because He Is Light

1Jn 1:5 In him is no darkness at all

1 John 1:5 NIV - Anglicised

5 This is the message we have heard from him and declare to you: God is light; in him there is no darkness at all.

In A Marriage, Secrecy Produces the Works of Darkness

A person may think that it is hidden but it is always producing

The Principle of the Seed and Sower

Mk 4:26-29 All by itself the soil produces

Mark 4:26–29 NIV - Anglicised

26 He also said, “This is what the kingdom of God is like. A man scatters seed on the ground. 27 Night and day, whether he sleeps or gets up, the seed sprouts and grows, though he does not know how. 28 All by itself the soil produces corn—first the stalk, then the ear, then the full grain in the ear. 29 As soon as the grain is ripe, he puts the sickle to it, because the harvest has come.”

You Are the Gardener of Your Marriage Always Sow Good Seed

Sow What Is Genuine

Sow What Is Real

is real

1 Tim 1:18-19 Some Have Rejected a Clear Conscience and so Have Shipwrecked the Faith

Make Room for Your Spouse to Be Honest

Last but not least.... Benefits Of honesty

7. Benefits of Honesty

Honesty Produces Real intimacy

Honesty Promotes Trust

Honesty Nurtures Unity

People don't have a good relationship because they haven't felt safe enough to be honest

Real Relationship Requires Real Honesty

Those who keep secrets will not go unpunished

Proverbs 19:5 a liar will not go unpunished

Proverbs 19:5a NIV - Anglicised

5 A false witness will not go unpunished, and he who pours out lies will not go free.

Marriage Is a Reflection of Christ and the Church

Real Relationship Requires Real Honesty