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Self Control

Self-control is listed in the Bible as one of the Fruits of the Spirit – a sign that Christ is in us.

If we let our desires lead our decisions, our lives (and our bodies) can quickly spin out of control.

Self-control is a discipline that God grows in us when we continually choose to die to our flesh and live in Him.

Emphasis on dying to the flesh.

A lack of self-control, then, leads to the free reign of fleshly, worldly patterns that end up exercising control over us.

What is one area of your life that is succeeding in the exercise of self-control? Praise God for that!

What is one area that is lacking self-control, in which you desire to grow? Thank God for his Word, which convicts us of the truth, and for his divine power, which is everything we need for life and godliness.

Lets see what the Bible says about self-control:

A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls. (Proverbs 25:28)

Meaning he who cannot bridle his passions and emotions is like a ruined city without walls, everything, and everyone has access.

Self-control is one part of the fruit of the Holy Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23), so exercising it means reflecting the Spirit of God.

Throughout the Bible, there are lists of attributes describing godly men and women, and most of them include the faith-filled trait of self-control.

When we exercise self-control, we pursue a holy life that is glorifying to the Lord who made us in his image, redeemed us through his gospel, and gave his indwelling Spirit to live within us.

Self-control displays our God because our God is self-controlled.

This is no more evident than in the gospel!

He is patient toward sinners, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should reach repentance (2 Peter 3:9). All his words are perfect, sure, right, pure, clean, and true (Psalm 19:7-9); the Lord needs no guard set over his mouth to keep watch over the door of his lips (Psalm 141:3). God’s heart never inclines to any evil, to busy himself with wicked deeds (v. 4); rather, there is no unrighteousness in him (Psalm 92:15). The unrighteous man must forsake his thoughts, but God never does, for his thoughts are not our thoughts (Isaiah 55:9). Similarly, God is never anxious about anything, so we can come to him for his peace, which surpasses understanding and guards our hearts and minds in Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:7).

God is a God of self-control, and we bear his image and magnify his gospel-work when we pursue exercising this aspect of godliness.

Exercising self-control keeps our enemy from gaining a foothold over us, and it keeps sin from having the upper-hand in our thoughts, words, and actions.

If we do not discipline ourselves and rule over our own actions, we leave ourselves vulnerable to temptation, the influence of the world and the enemy, and, consequently, sin.

We pursue a greater, eternal good when we are self-controlled.

Watchfulness is to keep the eyes of our hearts fixed on eternal matters; to store up treasures in heaven, rather than on earth; and to demonstrate through our spiritual groaning a deep desire to be with Jesus once and for all time.

Ruling over our impulses and actions is one way we remain watchful, sober-minded, and readied for Christ.

By exercising self-control, we are valuing greater, eternal good over immediate gratification.

Through self-control, we take captive every thought and make it obedient to Christ; we set our minds on things above; we flee from sin; and we do battle against it through prayer.

Pursue a greater, eternal good through self-control because Jesus is coming back!

Six Steps to Exercising Self-Control

The gospel is the motivation we need to overcome anything that has threatened to overcome us. Christ is glorified when we exercise self-control because we seek an imperishable prize that only he can give us, rather than a perishable one, which we give ourselves through fleshly indulgence and immediate gratification. These suggestions are not exhaustive, but here are a few practical ideas for exercising godly self-control, as seen in Scripture:

Step 1. Renew your mind through God’s Word. “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect” (Romans 12:2).

Step 2. Pray for the Holy Spirit’s help. “I do not cease to give thanks for you, remembering you in my prayers, that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give you the Spirit of wisdom and of revelation in the knowledge of him…and what is the immeasurable greatness of his power toward us who believe” (Ephesians 1:16,17-19).

Step 3. Confess your habits to God and others. “But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus his Son cleanses us from all sin” (1 John 1:7).

Step 4. Identify and remove your triggers. “…put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness” (Ephesians 4:22-24).

Step 5. Remember the gospel when you fail. “Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need” (Hebrews 4:16).

Praise God for the magnification of his grace in our weakness, as we pursue the important exercise of self-control, which is highly glorifying to him and the wonder of his eternal gospel!