Sexual Faithfulness

Sexual Healing

1 Corinthians 7:3 TPT

3 A husband has the responsibility of meeting the sexual needs of his wife, and likewise a wife to her husband.

1 Corinthians 7:3 NLT

3 The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs.

1 Corinthians 7:3 AV

3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.

Sexual Faithfulness Defined: The condition or behavior of engaging in sex only with one's spouse or only with one's partner in a sexual relationship.

UnFaithfulness a. Not adhering to promises, obligations, or allegiances; disloyal. b. Breaking trust in a marriage or relationship by having sexual relations with someone other than one's spouse or sexual partner.

What are the top reasons why a Spouse can become unfaithful

Unhappiness/Dissatisfaction:

Dissatisfaction with the marriage either emotionally or sexually is common. Marriage is work, and without mutual nurturing couples may grow apart. A sexless marriage is often claimed as a reason for both men and women.

Feeling unappreciated:

Feeling undervalued or neglected can lead to infidelity. When both partners work, women often carry the brunt of the housework and childcare. In this case, the affair validates the person's sense of worth. On the flip side, however, feeling neglected may be related to unrealistic expectations of a partner rather than true neglect.

Lack of commitment:

Everything else aside, a 2018 study found that people who are less committed to their relationship are more likely to cheat.

Boredom:

Men and women looking for the thrill of the chase and the excitement of newfound love may be more likely to cheat. Rather than trying to find a substitute for their partner, some claim their fling is a way to spice up their marriage. Falling out of love is frequently cited as a reason for cheating This may involve a lack of understanding of how love matures in marriage.

Body image/aging:

Illustrated frequently by stories of middle-aged men having an affair with women the age of their daughters, cheating may sometimes be a way for a man (or woman) to prove that they still "have it." Hand in hand with these thoughts, a spouse may cast blame for their own indiscretions by claiming that their spouse has "let himself/herself go.

Revenge:

If one partner has had an affair or has damaged the partner in some way, the offended partner may feel a need for revenge resulting in an affair.

Secondary Reasons for Cheating

In addition to the primary reasons for cheating noted above, there are secondary reasons that may lead to an affair. Some of these include:

Internet:

Having an affair, especially an emotional affair, is much easier than in the past, and social media sites have been implicated in many affairs and divorces. Internet infidelity or "online cheating" is still cheating, even if the two people never met face to face.

Opportunity:

Periods of absence, whether traveling for work or serving in the military provide greater opportunities for affairs to occur. Absence allows a spouse to have an affair with little risk of being discovered or may lead to loneliness and resentment. While a long-distance marriage is not ideal, there are ways to keep your marriage strong when apart.

Poor boundaries:

Poor personal boundaries, or the limits we place on other people as to what we find acceptable or unacceptable, can also increase the chance that an affair will occur. People who find it hard to say no (being overly compliant or "people pleasers") may find themselves in an affair even if it wasn't what they desired in the first place.

Pornography:

While it's a role in marital infidelity has been downplayed, pornography is dangerous to marriage and has clearly been demonstrated to be a "gateway" for some people. Unfortunately, pornography has become much more accessible to the internet.

#3 What are the Top reasons why married Couples remain Faithful?

They’re Honest about what their sexual needs are.

"Couples who are open with each other create a more secure environment for their Spouse.” Open communication allows you and your spouse to know each other and to know each other’s wants, needs and desires

They Don’t Belittle One Another.

Don't ever use your spouse’s faults, flaws, or insecurities against them in any way, especially during disagreements.Opening up and being vulnerable is a risk. So, If your spouse asks for something, even if you are not willing to give that to them, don’t make the feel bad for asking and don’t hold it against them ever. If they know that telling you certain things could change the way you see them, they may shut down and be less willing to share with you in the future. Always make sure you're letting your spouse know you value them.

They Keep Their Relationship a Priority

People often cheat when they're in need of the validation. Usually, feelings of passion and desire are super prevalent in the beginning of the relationship, but tend to fade over time. If you want to limit the risk of your spouse cheating, maintain the passion in your relationship by making your spouse feel like they're a priority in your life. It’s also helpful to meet that need to be desired this will remove what is often cited as a reason for cheating.

They Put In the Work

Don’t ever assume everything is going great, and your spouse feels the same. From time to time talk about what's working and what, not working in your relationship. Assessment conversations needs to happen on a regular, and is critical after any major change i.e. a move, new job, or the birth of a child, sickness etc. Never stop putting in the effort to deepen and strengthen your relationship. Any relationship can become vulnerable to cheating. So, it’s important to never take your spouse or your relationship for granted. Life can get in the way and your relationship can be put on the back-burner. But if you make the commitment to stay connected and communicate well, you can reduce the risk of cheating.