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7 Warning Signs Your Marriage May be in Trouble

Matthew 19:5 NLT

5 And he said, ‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’

Matthew 19:3–4 NLT

3 Some Pharisees came and tried to trap him with this question: “Should a man be allowed to divorce his wife for just any reason?” 4 “Haven’t you read the Scriptures?” Jesus replied. “They record that from the beginning ‘God made them male and female.’

Matthew 19:6 AMP

6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder (separate).

7 Warning Signs Your marriage may be in trouble

You No Longer have anything in Common

Do you and your partner spend hours together under the same roof, at social engagements or performing routine errands, yet rarely engage in meaningful conversation? Living in silence is a primary symptom of major marital problems.

Communicating and sharing your day, thoughts and feelings creates a bond between spouses. If you are noticing a lot of silence, put some effort into filling that void.

Pray for help to you figure out why you no longer have a desire to communicate with your spouse.

2. You Can Do No Right

Do you feel like your every action is being watched and criticized by your partner? Can you do no right in their eyes? Do you feel intimidated or afraid because of your partners constant criticism? Too often partners will funnel larger relationship issues into negative criticism of day-to-day tasks.

Sit your spouse down and openly discuss what those larger issues may possibly be. Tackling and finding solutions to the larger problems in the marriage will help you both feel more secure in your roles.

It's also possible that you've married someone who needs to be in control. A control freak has to have things done their way which can cause them to chronically complain.

3. You are the Last to Know

Is your partner no longer sharing information with you about his or her career, personal problems or personal achievements? Is your partner sharing this information with a friend and you hear it second hand?

When you become the last to know important information there has been a huge breakdown in communication. Or a breakdown in the emotional bond that promotes sharing in marriage.

You both have to be willing to communicate but, great marital communication can begin with one.

4. A Change in Appearance

Over time, your comfort level will inevitably end that desire to look "perfect" for every encounter with your partner. However, a drastic decline in personal appearance and hygiene by your spouse could be a sign they no longer care or they are taking you and the marriage for granted.

If your spouse has begun to let their physical appearance go, gently discuss the problem and let them know you appreciate them and feel respected when they look their best.

5. Looking for Distractions from the Problems

If the television is on constantly, you both sit with your face buried in a book or you always have something else that needs to be done there may be a problem.

It is common for individuals to find such distractions to avoid dealing with a troubled marriage. If you don't take you heads out of the sand, you will find yourself facing each other in divorce court. And, that isn't a situation television or a book can distract you from.

6. Arguing over the Same Subject Repeatedly

If your arguments become routine with all the same issues and no resolution, then your marriage is either standing still or dying fast. You're in a cycle of conflict instead of problem-solving.

You may need the assistance of a professional counselor to help find solutions to the problems that don't seem to go away. Running in circles or creating a destructive cycle is a sure fire way to kill a marriage.

7. Intimacy Is a Thing of the Past

A considerable decline in physical affection is one of the most recognized symptoms of a failing relationship. Intimacy is the act that allows us to bond as husband and wife.

If your partner is showing no or very little interest in intimacy with you then they are showing little concern for their emotional bond with you as a husband/wife.

Or, there is a problem in the marriage that is keeping them from being able to feel intimately bonded to you. Lack of intimacy in a marriage is an issue that definitely should be investigated!