Holy Sex: Why does it really matter that sex and marriage is to be between 1 man and 1 woman? or Why Does all this talk about homosexuality matter?
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the plan:
May 2nd— practical how I minister
May 9 - why does gender matter so much in marriage? (this will help us transition to transgender issues next week)
I want to end with one last objection--
we have looked at — “it’s not fair” argument
by looking at the idea of
being born this way—I didn’t ask for this. or I can’t help it.
singleness—are you confining me to a life of singleness
and the idea that you need romance and sex to be fully fulfilled
so why is this such a big deal? why? why is marriage limited to just a man and a woman in Scripture—what is the bigger picture?
Let me read Genesis 2:18-25
18 The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”
19 Now the Lord God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name.
20 So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals. But for Adam no suitable helper was found.
21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh.
22 Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
23 The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”
24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
25 Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.
why does this matter that marriage and sexual activity is confined to a man and woman in marriage? why?
Here’s what the Bible says:
A man and woman in marriage provides the context for having children and filling the earth with His image bearers.
27 So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.
28 God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground.”
notice God made them male and female. He created them that way.
being male and female is part of what it means to be created in the image of God.
and their life together as male and female expresses that image of God.
If society was only men, we would be missing out on who God is and reflecting his image because we would have no women.
If society was only women, we would be missing out on who God is and reflecting His image because we would have no men.
We need both men and women together to fully express the image of God as He created and intended. to fully image Him, reflect Him.
in Genesis 2—we see that part of what it means for men and women to come together is found in marriage—1 man and 1 woman together in the holy covenant of marriage.
and so...only 2 people of the opposite sex can fulfill God’s command to be fruitful and multiply. 2 men cannot. 2 women cannot. (also 1 man cannot; nor can 1 woman)
God made it so a man and a woman in marriage could fulfill this divine command to go forth and fill this earth—not just biologically—but spiritually—that our children become image bearers, disciples of Jesus christ.
God could have designed child producing in so many other ways...
storks delivering babies
go to walmart or order one on Amazon
but no—he made it so a man cannot have a child on his own and a woman cannot.
only in their sexual union can they produce children.
and this is why marriage and romance and sex is only to be between 1 biological man and 1 biological woman in the context of marriage. b/c God designed marriage and sex as the place where couples can produce godly children, godly image bearers.
BTW—this doesn’t mean that if you are married and can’t or didn’t have children that you are somehow less or not fulfilling God’s command b/c you may not be able to have children—but a man and woman provide the opportunity in marriage to fulfill God’s command to fill the earth with his image bearers.
15 Has not the one God made you? You belong to him in body and spirit. And what does the one God seek? Godly offspring. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful to the wife of your youth.
BTW—parents this is why you are not just raising kids to get good grades, or be good at sports or be normal or independent—you are raising them to be godly offspring, reflective of the image of God Himself.
the 2nd reason why marriage and sex is only designed for 1 man and 1 woman...
2. The sexual union in marriage—the “one flesh” union--is a reminder of how God created the first man and woman.
the reason that sex and marriage is only heterosexual—1 man and 1 woman because it points to God designed us from creation.
Since Eve was made from Adam—from his side—when they come together in marriage in the sexual act—it points to God’s design for sex.
23 The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”
24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
their sexual union is a reunion of sorts and points to God’s design of man and woman, God’s design of marriage, and God’s design of sex. In other words, it’s about God.
In the one flesh union of sex as God designed, only a man and a woman can physically fit together as God designed. 2 men having sex cannot. 2 women having sex cannot.
because Eve was taken out of Adam, every time they unite in sexual union it is a reminder of God’s created design.
3. the 3rd reason why this is a big deal that marriage and sex are for 1 man and 1 woman is because it points to the very nature of God Himself as one.
Deut. 6:4 says this
4 Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one.
God is one yet..
and then Matthew 3:16-17
16 As soon as Jesus was baptized, he went up out of the water. At that moment heaven was opened, and he saw the Spirit of God descending like a dove and alighting on him.
17 And a voice from heaven said, “This is my Son, whom I love; with him I am well pleased.”
Our God exists as the most complicated math problem.
He is the Trinity—God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit, but He is one.
Unity amidst diversity.
that word for one is also the same word as describes “one” flesh in Genesis 2:24.
in other words—marriage and the one flesh union between a husband and wife at some level points to the unity and diversity of God.
Eve was like Adam—both human, but different.
Sam Allberry says, “The same is not true of gay sex. Two men, or two women, cannot become one flesh. They cannot become one in the way that God is one, and in the way that a man and a woman are one.”
quote more from Sam Allberry?
God gives a man and a woman a unique one flesh union in marriage to point to the oneness of God.
He gives us sex to point to the very essence and character of God himself.
Our sexual union in marriage is a reminder of who God is. Now, you may not have ever connected that thought, nor you may not have ever focused on that thought…but sex in marriage is a sermon. It should be reminding you theologically something of the very nature of God himself.
4. the final reason that this is a big deal that romance, marriage, and sex be confined to a man and a woman in marriage…is it reflects Jesus Christ’s relationship with the Church
21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.
24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
26 to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word,
27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.
28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—
30 for we are members of his body.
31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”
32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.
A marriage between a man and a woman, Paul says, points to the relationship that Jesus has with the church.
talk about Sam Allberry’s a better and bigger story--
Jesus the bridegroom
from the OT to now.
similarities between human marriage and our relationship with Jesus
our longing for romance, intimacy and sexual fulfillment are pointing to something deeper, greater—our intimacy and union with Jesus Christ.
there is no marriage in heaven
Jesus and the church are different — they are not interchangeable—yet they are one and complementary. Jesus died for his bride, the church who needed Jesus.
and the Bible says that only a man and a woman can point to the greater marriage of Jesus and the church. a man and a man cannot, and a woman and a woman cannot. This is one of the biggest reasons we can’t redefine marriage and sexuality.
because the complementary relationship of man and woman points to the complentary relationship between Jesus and the church. they are not interchangeable parts—.
Deyoung says this: Think about the complementary nature of creation itself. In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth (Gen. 1: 1). And not only that, but within this cosmic pairing, we find other “couples”: the sun and the moon, morning and evening, day and night, the sea and the dry land, plants and animals, and finally, at the apex of the creation, the man and his wife. In every pairing, each part belongs with the other but neither is interchangeable. Just as heaven and earth were created to be together— and, indeed, that’s how the whole story of the Bible ends— so marriage is to be a symbol of this divine design: two differentiated entities uniquely fitted for one another.
7 It makes perfect sense, then, that the coming together of heaven and earth in Revelation 21– 22 is preceded by the marriage supper of the Lamb in Revelation 19. Marriage was created as a picture of the fittedness of heaven and earth, or as Ephesians 5 puts it, of Christ and the church (vv. 31– 32). ... Marriage, by its very nature, requires complementarity. The mystical union of Christ and the church— each “part” belonging to the other but neither interchangeable— cannot be pictured in marital union without the differentiation of male and female.
DeYoung, Kevin. What Does the Bible Really Teach about Homosexuality? (p. 32). Crossway. Kindle Edition.
this is good news. why?
great for singles — you don’t have to be married to find ultimate joy or satisfaction. you don’t have to find human romance or sex. b/c those point to the greater satisfaction.
great for married people — b/c there is more to life than marriage. there will be no marriage in heaven.