Sex, Love or Stability

Shanton Brown November 24, 2019 ·

1 Timothy 3:11 AMP

11 [The] women likewise must be worthy of respect and serious, not gossipers, but temperate and self-controlled, [thoroughly] trustworthy in all things.

1 Timothy 3:11 NLT

11 In the same way, their wives must be respected and must not slander others. They must exercise self-control and be faithful in everything they do.

From the Book Love & Respect

Whenever I teach that a man needs respect, I can be sure of hearing this from some women: “Dr. Emerson, I don’t feel any respect for my husband. It would be hypocritical for me to show him respect when I don’t feel it, and I don’t feel respect for him because he does not deserve it. He has not earned respect by loving me in meaningful ways, and everyone knows he must earn respect in order to get respect. Besides, respect is for our superiors, and my husband is not superior to me. I am not inferior to him. We are equals. So I am not going be treated like a doormat and subject myself to emotional abuse. Frankly, this call to respect is all about him, his ego, and his narcissism, and I’m not going to feed his chauvinistic tendencies. I am definitely not going to live in fear of his domination and set the feminist movement back fifty years. But other than that, I’m really open to hearing what you have to say about this.”

After listening to these comments, I ask, “Do you have a son?” Then I offer this explanation: If you do have a son, your future daughter-in-law, who does not have a mean bone in her body and is the epitome of sweetness, will have this same he-hasn’t-earned-my-respect attitude toward your precious baby boy. Consequently, he will shut down, close off, and withdraw in profound hurt. Then your daughter-in-law will label him unloving—and may even go on a talk show to tell the world!

Many a mouth drops open, and the women exclaim, “That daughter-in-law better not show such disrespect to my baby boy!”

Dr. Emerson. Love and Respect for a Lifetime:

LADIES PLEASE TAKE NOTE!!!!!

Men attend to Women for two reasons, SEX, and LOVE, but in most cases, men do not Marry for Sex or for Love, they marry for STABILITY. Let me explain

A man can Love you and not Marry you.

A man can have sex with you for years without marrying you.

But immediately he finds someone who brings stability in his life, he marries her. What I mean by Stability is "Peace of Mind"

I have seen some guys who made this statement "I love this lady but I don't think I can spend the rest of my life with her."

Men are visionaries when they think about marriage, they do not think about wedding dresses, bridesmaids, anything that most Ladies thinks is fanciful.

They think whether this woman can build me a home,Can she take care of my kids and I,

Can she give me PEACE of mind?.

Men don't like Ladies who gives them discomfort, This is why a man can stay with a woman for years and meet another in a month, then get married to her.

It's the comfort of having Peace of Mind they want.

Sex is a pleasure, love is an affection, RESPECT is Stability.