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So this first page here, this is going to be a survey. And I want you guys to fill out a survey and when you when you're done with them just leave them on your bench will collect them after service. Don't write your name on it or nothing. Okay, so this is the first one this is the survey.

Hopefully I'll print it out it off.

One of those come back to the survey. Is basically talking about conflict cuz I realized the number one issue in marriage and friendship and family and how many people know in church to is conflict. What do you do when you have conflict? How do you respond? How do you act what how do you feel in Conflict wants to be in conflict with another person?

Like I don't know about you, but for me, I'm like mad and just like that picture up there. I'm like wow.

We'll see more like talking there's anger there. Do you know most conflict is miscommunication? We're allowed to have to get more.

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Thank you so much. So most conflicts are because of miscommunication not only miscommunication, but there's also this other thing called misinterpretation. You ever interpret someone's action and you you enter personalized it and immediately you made an offensive thing against you and it's not even inoffensive thing. What you did that did that and show times why we do that is because of what happened to us in the past triggers another memory. Another thing that happened to us a long time ago and someone someone else this something similar or said something similar. We immediately become triggered in Word.

And you end up fighting with ghosts? And I'm not talking about with the Holy Ghost either. I'm talking about you end up fighting with ghosts of the past of what what someone else did or said and you're in that battle your sucked in it in that moment. How many people ever been there?

Do you know how you know you're there immediately? What you'll do is say do you know what that person did that and you said that that's how you know, you're there and next thing, you know, you're not even fighting with the person in front of you. You're fighting with the past thing that happened.

Those are some of the reasons why we have the most conflict. Who has had conflict in the last couple days? I have you can ask my wife.

I realize in church is we talked about the main conflict, but sometimes we don't go and talk about these other relational conflict because how many people know God's relational. It's amazing that he would make human beings for relationship. Like that's really cool. You made in His image and likeness and we must act in like like him. Do you know so cool God is in communion with himself? He's in Perfect Harmony the Father the Son and the Holy Spirit. They're all in relationship with each other and Oneness and God's I do that. I want everyone around me to be in the same type of community and the same type of family in the same tab the same type of connection.

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This one right here is your sermon notes. I hope you're ready. Cuz we're going to be talking a lot about Conflict for the next couple months.

It is so important. For us as a community of Believers to learn how to manage conflict.

Is there conflict in scripture? Absolutely, the whole Bible the book of conflict. What is also a book of opportunity it's also a book of restoration. It is also a book of seeing how God had reconciled brought people back to himself and to Perfect Harmony and a lot of times and our life. We're going to find ourselves out of sync with each other. And if we don't know how to work through it, it will lead to a bigger conflicts that will lead to separation.

How many people have family members that they don't talk to anymore? Let me see those hands.

Why is it?

conflict how many of you people here seen your parents argue before?

How did they handle it? Who did horribly poorly?

Do you know whether you like it or not? The people that you saw in Conflict when you were younger and growing up because your family is the culture that you're raised you would instinctively pick up on those same time of traits. So when you find yourself in Conflict whether you like or not because you got imprinted you react the same way.

How many people have parents who did argue in front of them in just went to another room and act like it didn't exist.

How did that help you manage conflict?

Imagine that like I'm not beat you guys down. I'm thirsty options here. But if you don't see your parents go through conflict, right and manage it right? You won't learn how you won't have the skills to do it instead the minute. Something goes all red. You'll be like

And all the sudden you'll be and you'll be stuck and it responds and your response could be simple. It could be maybe your passive. Maybe your pee cheaper. That's what passes people do like me and RJ have an issue is he doesn't have long hair like me. He's working on it though.

If I'm in conflict with r.g. Over long hair, and I'm like it was really good man. I got to go back. My roots are showing

We go to the same hairdresser. Call me, Remember those nice. I'm grazing them glazing over it. I'm not really bringing up bringing it up because I'm scared of how you might receive it or take it that's called being passive need a peacekeeper. God didn't call us to be peacekeepers.

He called us to be peace makers.

The next one that you would probably move you made is more of a different one which is which is simple you may want to be more aggressive. You know, you ain't want to be aggressive with it. Like oh my gosh. I have an issue and immediately your emotions rise you feel this pink?

You're been there I have. absolutely, I've

I tell my wife sometimes it too sweetie. I'm sorry. Agar, she grows back at me. Pretty cool kind of like our communication right there.

Maybe you're not aggressive. Maybe you are evasive. You know what? That means right that means you hide you run and avoid you ever do that. Come on, I've been there. So when I was when I was younger, I visit another church. I really love these people but there was like a control issue like crazy control issue. So I was just like until I saw them at Walmart, right? And because your control issues they see me they walk up. How's it going? Immediately? I cannot in my stomach, but I just want to get away get away get away and avoid Have you ever felt that way? That's called being evasive. You're not really going into the conflict. You're not really saying. Hey, this was the issue when you started telling me I had to cut my hair to be righteous we had issues. That really happen.

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finally defensive now. This defensive one is the most deceptive of all because in defense you always blame someone else for the conflict you're in you never take responsibility. It will always be I am the victim here. It's it's their fault. They did it if they wouldn't have and you will never take responsibility. You're always in defensive and you're always finger-pointing instead of saying what part did I do to cause or help Elevate this conflict?

you see all those responses are negative.

my little buddy every last one of those responses are bad. Because they don't resolve anything. They keep it going and going and going and finally what you're left with is broken relationships.

Feel like dang. That was an opener. Yeah. I know I was get to the servant.

Broken relationships only occur because of the Brokenness inside of us.

I must say that again. Broken relationships only occurred because of the Brokenness and side of us and areas that the spirit of God has not illuminated to us that he wants to work on and work through the bring life to you and others around you.

Those family members that you're not talking to you because of Brokenness and them and broken missing you. ouch

immediately some of you probably felt but you don't know what they said and did. How many people felt that immediately when I said that cuz I felt that in my spirit.

How do we overcome this? How do we overcome because I don't care how small or how big your relationships are like if you struggle with relationship with yourself you guys over yourself over cheesecake man?

Over cheesecake dude, and it was so good. You know what? I mean? They could cheesecake from the Cheesecake Factory. You guys been there before. Some really good chick flicks it you guys. Let me tell you guys a secret. So these two here? They did a thing.

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But they got some good cheesecake and you know when you're trying to lose weight and that cheesecakes looks really good and they offer it to you and you're like, no but didn't I really want a piece. I mean, I have a sweet tooth goodness gracious.

It is good. I was wrong, dude.

A drink called liquid yourself. Imagine how you'll be with someone else and then imagine how you can be in a group setting. Do you know what a group setting that's where most of hurt happens. It happens at home. But yet it happens. It happens in a group setting and it will lead to divide and families division within yourself Division and Nations.

I mean for crying out loud. Just wait for the next election.

Your notes you should have this is his conflict occurs, when people says they have completely different priorities values and goals.

The Bible says it like this in Amos 3 + 3. Do two walk together, except they make an appointment and have agreed.

Do you know it's hard to walk with someone you don't agree with?

How do you walk with people who you are? Not in agreement with?

What you say? Oh, yeah, it takes a lot of humility.

Got to be truthful. Yeah. Oh, yes, you're not you hide it that's going to be an evasive a very sad. You're going to hide the truth. You don't want to talk about it. You just want to keep the peace.

I remember there was a time where you can have a healthy debate with someone and still be okay with each other. But you don't see it my way, but now you can't do that. What happened? I wonder if it's because a whole generation never saw how to manage conflict how to manage things the proper way and maybe we just didn't give them the tools like some of us may not have the tools growing up. Only found that person we said I do too. Then everything came out. As much as we want to be like Jesus.

Sometimes we can squeeze it Jesus nowhere to be found.

I don't know why you have your friend Lawrence and thank you for the Holy Spirit. Send the dog and then someone gives you the bird. That's not what I was talking about.

What has happened to me mad? I'm fresh.

conflicts man But what are you do when you don't agree with someone how do you manage to make peace and walk together and still have Unity because the Bible because Jesus tells us to keep the unity of the face. That means we have to be United and I'm not going to go to denominationalism because that's a lot of division. I'm not going to go there because it's already there. But but how do we walk with people don't have the same beliefs as lost or see things the same way as us.

It takes from bility in love. In your fill in the blanks. I want you to know something. I need you guys to get on page with this. Next line it says that there will be conflict. You need to get that in you through you so you can know that there's going to be conflict. I don't care how good the roses smell there is some thorns.

You're going to have conflict everywhere you go. What is how you respond to it? Is what matters? I didn't want you to still deal with this. You would have took you out of the road when you got born again, you're going with me. You're being dumped no more than this, but he left you in the world and he gave you a problem is found in Matthew 5 blessed are the peacemakers for they will be called the what?

and they that are led by the spirit of God are the

to God wants to teach us as a community how to beat his children and how to walk and talk and think and act like that.

Secondly conflict is broken relationship. It's a break-in relationship math. You have to have you ever had a heart ache after a broken relationship and I don't mean like, you know, you were dating someone I meant like a friendship. You have a friendship broken and your heart aches like man. I miss them. I love them. I need to start playing what could I have done differently? What could they have done differently if it's already broken two caps already there.

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Oh, no, no, no, no. No, it can't be spiritual top absolutely not spiritual at all.

I promise you this.

Number for conflict is an opportunity.

If you would change your perspective on how you see conflict like some people see problem Unity.

Because they problems off. What's a McDonald's for instance? Right? We're going to Mickey D's. I really go to Mickey D's we'll go there. What is the problem people want food fast? What's the solution make fast food? problem solved there was a problem. They saw opportunity in the conflicts in your life is you can think more business. business like when you come into conflict, you'll see opportunity.

And that's I'm not telling you that's easy to do because I'll make you know conflict the minute. There's conflict theme called the emotional switch clicks on. you guys know what I mean that most of the switch click sound like maybe you're different. Maybe the emotional switch doesn't click on maybe it shuts off. and you become just

Are you okay? I'm fine anything Bobby? Nope.

We'll talk about it. I'm over it.

And down down down in the drawer goes another memory and another hurt.

And got wants to get rid of that file cabinet that you've been carrying around.

next sermon note There are six major areas of conflict.

They're six areas guys. We're going to look at them. So yeah that little box. I want you to fill this out the first one God and man. That is the one that the church really does. Well, we have great books great. Theologians have talked about it and talked about the the conflict of God and man, but you didn't you go into another room and you find a psychologist really understand man and self.

Man being in conflict with himself. God also knows about that. They're just discovering what God already said in his word Paul wrote about he says that he says the good things that I would do. I don't do and the things that I hate that's what I end up doing. Oh Wretched Man that I am. conflict with self number three man and man conflict with another person

number for man in society you ever been in conflict with the way Society views things. I have. No. Yeah.

Number 5 man and nature that can look at the climate, but that could also mean animals, but I don't know about you missing my sister in a while. I go swimming with sharks. She still has videos of it. No, I don't know about you. I grew up watching Jaws.

It just told me you don't swim with sharks.

Because I don't know where your sharks don't have my best interest in mind.

But I thought about this one is it? Okay. Let me think about this when we were sharks. What do sharks eat seals?

So we were thinking I don't know if that's racist to laugh or not.

Lord I let it out.

I'm finally number 6 man in the demonic.

Man In conflict with the Demonic and I'm going to show you the first areas of conflict ever happened at in Scripture.

The first error is ever happened with is found in Genesis 3. I'm laying the groundwork because we're going to be working here for the next couple months and it's very important.

So your bi was turn the Genesis 3. If not, it's going to be up there and it says this I want to live so God made a beautiful paradise place for history ation. And the crown jewel of creation is man time. And so Adam, he's in the garden and God sent is not good for man to be alone. So God said it wasn't good for man to be alone. And made woman because out of the womb of man she came.

So so men if your wives ever say you don't know how it is to burst my grandfather.

And so they're living in Harmony and this serpent being a snake. Be a little lucy. Possessed by Lucy or be a little lucy. We're still looking for but anyway, he's there and he sees that Harmony and he's like, how can I disrupt it? How can I cause them to lose their relationship with God and so that I can be in control of this Earth down here and this is where it picks it up at. Genesis Teresa's this was the crappiest of All Creatures the Lord God had made so the serpent came to the woman really. He asked none of the fruit in the garden. God says You must eat any of it. Of course, we may eat the woman told him. It is only the fruit from the tree at the center of the garden that we are not to eat. God says we mustn't eat it or even touch it or we will die. That's a lie the serpent his you'll not die. God knows very well that the instant you eat you will become like him for your eyes will be open you'll be able to distinguish good from evil. The woman was convinced how lovely and fresh looking it was and it would make her so wise so she ate some of the fruit and gave some to her husband and he ate two

And as the agent suddenly they became aware of their nakedness and they were embarrassed. So they strong fig leaves together to cover themselves around the hips.

That evening to hear the sound of the Lord God walking in the garden and they hid themselves among the trees.

Go back one. The Lord called Adam. Why are you hiding?

Adam reply I heard you coming and didn't want you to see me naked. So I hid.

Who told you you were naked the Lord God ask have you eaten from the fruit? Have you eaten the fruit from the tree? I warned you about. Yes, Adam admitted but it was a woman you gave me you brought me some and I ate it blame game. It's your fault. Littlewood assawoman, how could you do such a thing? The serpent tricked me she replied. So the Lord God said to the serpent, this is your punishment you will you are singled out from among all the domestic and wild animals of the whole earth to be cursed you shall grovel in the dust. As long as you live crawling along on your belly. From now on you and the woman will be enemies conflict. As will your Offspring and in hers and and you will strike his heel but he will crush your head.

Then God said to the woman you shall bear children and intense pain and suffering. Welcome your husband's affection, and he shall be your How many women don't like that verse?

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a scripture an atom inside of God said because you listened to your wife and ate the fruit when I told you not to I have placed a curse upon the soil all your life you will struggle to extract a living from it conflict vehicle Zack and maybe you're there working on this vehicle and just the bolt doesn't want to turn. You ever been there, You guys can leave you ever been there. You're trying to fix this thing doesn't turn on it.

Jerry conflict, man. You've been conflict with something that isn't living and you start talking to it like it's alive. Yeah.

All your life you struggle to extract a living from it next flight. It will grow thorns and thistles for you and you shall eat its grasses. But isn't a cola vegan. Have you read that may run over?

If you are, it's okay. I'm praying for you silently. You will sweat until your dying day. Then you will return to the ground from which you came where you were made from the ground into the ground. You will return. The man named this white Eve meaning the life-giving 14. He said she shall become the mother of all mankind. And the Lord called Adam and his wife with garments and made from made from animals made from the skin of animals. Then the Lord said now that man has become as we are knowing good from bad. What if he eats the fruit of the tree of life and live forever? He lives forever in a damned State because to know bad means you have to experience it when it says to know it means to a. Do you have experience or knowledge to it's one thing to read a book about doing the house? It's another thing to actually build a house. I want you to actually build a house. That's how you gain knowledge go.

So the Lord God banished him forever from the Garden of Eden and send them out to the farm to find the ground which he had been taken. That's got expelled him and play some mighty Angel at the east of the Garden of Eden with a flaming sword to guard the interests of the Tree of Life. This is the first place in human history that conflict arose.

The first place conflict came in from was between God and man.

That is the first place of conflict got it, man had conflict because men simply rebelled against God.

And when you were built by breaking God's command it brought a rift in the relationship and the dude walking around his birthday suit not carrying all the sudden. He's like

How come you didn't have that response when she ate first everything about that? How come it took Adam to eat for her eyes to be open whole goddamn Drake preach to you, man. You guys ready? I'm not going to be brutal to you, man. And we loving cuz it might have been preaching to myself.

Woman already ate her eyes. Was it open? But it's one mayonnaise Adam her eyes became open.

The word was given to Adam and Adam gave the word to Eve. men The word of God commands you to be the priest in your home. Not be mean here. Sometimes the blindness that your spouse has if you cuz you're nice aren't open yet snaps.

You're called to lead.

What would it look like?

If the co of a business was confused all the time. You said wow, go with you. How would you how would his business function?

Patriotic wouldn't it be nice. Give me like, I don't know what I'm doing. I don't know what I don't know what to do either. He's running around in circles. Right to God wants to deal with the head. Come on, dude. Talking to you man. What's the deal with the head of the home? I'll bring structure and government to the house.

Oh snaps cuz want me to use off that said first down a little more. All right. I like Tokyo Drift, dude.

He wants to deal with the head so he's eyes are open. But when adding meat into your personal house, but he wants to use you. You can give it to your spouse that you both can inherit more as much as it worked for the negative. It works also for the positive.

Is there a scripture about like dude husband, you know love your wise and sanctify them by the reading of the washing of the w. Oh good God man. Who's the who's responsible to bring the word of God into your home?

Men you are.

You're responsible for the spiritual state of your family. Some of you have conflict with me just over that.

I talked this way to men and trust me you guys might want to talk to myself this way because inside of every man is a king and if he doesn't know. His family is his first Kingdom will never manage it as a kingdom.

Because you were made in God's image.

That's my check. God is a king. I'm not funny. I just got the title king of. Let me change that to another word leader of leaders.

We're going to die more into this one. We talked about marriage conflict.

But I can't load it didn't I excited excited we're headed. So what happened Paradise got lost rebelled against God. So God is the first one to make peace God the one who created everything says there's a problem, but I see an opportunity. Member bailed. Reaches his hand out. Even though man ravel's. Never takes his hands away from mint. Listen when you're in Conflict. The only reason why things don't get mad because someone pulls back. Come on, man. Someone pulls back. It says no, forget it not worth it. It's hardened inside. I've been there man tell on myself. Iran conflict

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emotional switch off

Sick, are you okay? I'm fine. Going to talk. Nope. What you going to do? I'm going to go lift weights. Why because weights don't talk back.

once I click.

Meet you know, that's wrong. I'm wrong. So wrong. Do you know no charge needed space? It's just hard on myself and said I don't care became indifferent. You have the worst place somewhere to be as indifferent.

Indifferent doesn't matter.

God leads his hands out. He's like come, I'm calling out to you come in the wall for living. I'm giving you the Bible in a nutshell right here and Five Points Wi-Fi because of the number of Grace. Bald living with the Ten Commandment that or he's like listen, I want to set Israel up as a priesthood. I'm going to give you guys a law if you're going to be a light to the whole world and number three they sailed miserably.

For God's sake dude. We need a mediator. We need someone to help bridge the gap here. So he calls and mediator. Jesus Jesus calms the mediator and he's like dude. I'm going to bring peace. I'm going to fulfill the wall requirement that's against all of mankind because of Adam screw up and I'm going to walk this out perfectly and he comes if you need people to fill the requirement that God has and all of a sudden we become reunited with God.

Sometimes in your personal conflict you need to invite someone else to help mediate between two parties. I'm giving you the eyes. I didn't make this up. Did.

Comfort someone has to keep their hand out who something mediator God or man.

God got something mediator. I'm sorry guys. I got a really hit on us man head of the home. It is your job your responsibility to bring peace to your home.

It is your responsibility to look for a mediator. Oh. If there's conflict in your home, then it's your job to look for the opportunity of a solution. that's in your spouse doesn't But who started the process of conflict resolution? The head dead and who's the head of the church? Who's the head of Christ?

Tim teaching you but I'm also giving you a kingdom order.

And then it becomes reunited with God.

Your last note. Paradise Paradise is perfect relationship.

When me and my wife are in Perfect Harmony, it's like paradise. She thinking what I'm thinking I'm thinking what she's thinking. Her needs are met my needs or match. We're living in La Di Da Di but all of a sudden you ever had.

Is there a in Paradise?

That is what happened to relationships. When you're in unity, it's Tara. I'll prove it because in the Garden of Eden it was Paradise said it was literally Heaven on Earth.

Because of broken relationship they say Paradise was lost but Jesus came to give you back paradise and that's why he says Paradise is inside of let me use the scriptural term. Heaven is inside of Let me say it again the kingdom of God is within. The kingdom of God is righteousness. That means a right way of being thinking and living piece. That means I'm Not In conflict with anyone. I have peace because I am a peacemaker because I got a piece of God living in me and finally join me with joy.

How many people watch Despicable Me? Despicable Me people best scene in the movie That little girl picks up that stuff animal. You guys know what I'm talking about? I want to see say

exactly It's so fluffy. I'm excited about that thing. That was awesome.

Joy is contagious.

It only comes when you realize. The kingdom is in you the spirit of God's in you. He dwells among you and you start living by the spirit, but you also need tools to manage daily conflict. That way you stay centered on Christ.

I'm leaving you with this.

You it takes a willing person to manage conflict.

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Someone has to start it.

Now, I'll talk to you later. Yes. I'm not telling you ladies that you guys can start the process that at all. how to tell the men that responsible to you

If it works that way at homes, and it works that way in church.

give a Spider-Man great Spider-Man Spider-Man Who said I heard someone mobile who said it did you?

Yes with great power comes great. What's looked at? With great responsibility comes great.

We're still going to church too. Jesus is like this.

Compare freezing him that has and doesn't use what are you doesn't use cuz you're not being responsible can be taken from him.

But him that has and uses wisely. More will be given.

It works in a church. It works in your personal family life.

Let's pray.

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