Part 5 - How to Raise Godly Parents (and Children)

Deuteronomy 6:4–7 ESV

4 “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. 5 You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. 6 And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. 7 You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.

(1) The most important relationship in parenting is the husband wife relationship (Ephesians 5:22-33)

(2) Of all the things you think your child should be, the Lord says, “be obedient” (Ephesians 6:1-3)

Don’t give up, don’t stop praying, don’t stop loving, don’t stop standing for truth, don’t stop saying no

(3) Children learn to do what is right from their parents (Ephesians 6:4)

Ephesians 6:4 ESV

4 Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

Four kinds of parents in today’s culture. You might one or two in your home.

Frustrated

Fearful

Angry

Passive

While these are four categories, they can be put together. Frustrated and angry, fearful and angry, fearful and passive, passive and angry. You can have tow parents who are completely different. A passive parent and a frustrated parent. An angry parent and a fearful parent. But we don’t want to focus so much on what not be but on what the Lord says you should be striving to be IN CHRIST

Proverbs 22:6 ESV

6 Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.

How to prevent juvenile delinquency:

The key to parent child relationships

Provoke: to irritate, to make mad or angry

How to provoke your child:

Proverbs 22:24 ESV

24 Make no friendship with a man given to anger, nor go with a wrathful man,

James 1:20 ESV

20 for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.

Men - provide, initiate, model, encourage Women - Supervise, love

We live in a culture of overt praise, but not for character - the I can do anything (but lose) culture, (this attitude then partners with the you should share everything on social media. You don’t need to share everything!

The father of Proverbs - look at them, look at me

Proverbs 7:1 ESV

1 My son, keep my words and treasure up my commandments with you;

Eli and his sons - he did not rebuke or restrain

1 Samuel 2:25 ESV

25 If someone sins against a man, God will mediate for him, but if someone sins against the Lord, who can intercede for him?” But they would not listen to the voice of their father, for it was the will of the Lord to put them to death.

1 Samuel 3:13 ESV

13 And I declare to him that I am about to punish his house forever, for the iniquity that he knew, because his sons were blaspheming God, and he did not restrain them.

Paul in Colossians

1 Thessalonians 2:7–12 ESV

7 But we were gentle among you, like a nursing mother taking care of her own children. 8 So, being affectionately desirous of you, we were ready to share with you not only the gospel of God but also our own selves, because you had become very dear to us. 9 For you remember, brothers, our labor and toil: we worked night and day, that we might not be a burden to any of you, while we proclaimed to you the gospel of God. 10 You are witnesses, and God also, how holy and righteous and blameless was our conduct toward you believers. 11 For you know how, like a father with his children, 12 we exhorted each one of you and encouraged you and charged you to walk in a manner worthy of God, who calls you into his own kingdom and glory.

God the Father at the baptism of Jesus - This is my son whom I love

Matthew 3:17 ESV

17 and behold, a voice from heaven said, “This is my beloved Son, with whom I am well pleased.”

The public proclamation of godly behavior - the obedience of the Lord Jesus to the law

It’s very easy to go home and crack the whip, things are going to change around here. But may I suggest prayer and self examination and a gradual gently approach?

Luke 2:22–24 ESV

22 And when the time came for their purification according to the Law of Moses, they brought him up to Jerusalem to present him to the Lord 23 (as it is written in the Law of the Lord, “Every male who first opens the womb shall be called holy to the Lord”) 24 and to offer a sacrifice according to what is said in the Law of the Lord, “a pair of turtledoves, or two young pigeons.”

4 principles from Luke 2:22-24

It is a family event

It is a total obedience event

It is a word of God event

It is an everyone is responsible event