Biblical Wives
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Transcript
Introduction
Introduction
Greetings…
We have been studying through the theme “Fundamentals” with the express desire to draw closer to God through his word by way of the pure spiritual milk that allows us to grow into salvation.
2 Like newborn infants, long for the pure spiritual milk, that by it you may grow up into salvation—
Today we will continue the “sub-theme” of “families” by looking at what it means to be a “Biblical Wife.”
In other words, what it means to be a wife that is pleasing to God.
King Lemuel once wrote concerning “excellent wives…”
10 An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels.
Our lesson today is one that many, both in and out of the church, do not like considered much less talked about.
The feminist movement or as I like to call it the “femi-nazi” movement has destroyed the concept of what God deems a biblical wife.
Almost to the point wherein many men and women in the church can’t grasp the concept and balk at God’s word.
So today we are going to focus on the scripture concerning “Biblical Wives.”
With this in mind let’s examine our lesson for today.
A biblical wife is a…
Righteous Wife
Righteous Wife
What Does This Mean Though?
What Does This Mean Though?
When we examine God’s precious message from Genesis 1 through Revelation 22 we find within the New Testament a number of passages on what it means to be a righteous wife.
Paul would say concerning deacon wives…
11 Their wives likewise must be dignified, not slanderers, but sober-minded, faithful in all things.
Paul would also explain to Titus what a righteous wife looked like in Titus 2:4-5.
4 and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.
Let’s Examine These Closer.
Let’s Examine These Closer.
Dignified/Reverent
This means to honor and admire profoundly her husband.
25 Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come.
Not Slanderous
This means not to defame her husband’s reputation by word of mouth.
26 She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
Sober-minded/Temperate
This means to have self-control because her mind is free from intoxicants. She glories thinking clearly as to being the best righteous wife she can be.
30 Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
Faithful In All Things
This means she can be trusted by her husband because she gives her full trust to God and then to her husband to lead her to heaven.
29 “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.”
Learn to love your husband & children
This sounds strange but only if you think of love in the terms they are commonly found today. However, love in the biblical sense is based on action and as such wives and mothers must learn to love.
4 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; 6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.
Pure/Chaste
This means to be “faultless” with there husbands. No, this isn’t saying wives are to be without sin and perfect, but it does mean their motives with their husbands are to be pure.
How many wives have “denied” their husbands sexually and made-up excuses out i.e., used impure motives.
3 The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does.
Though this might not seem like something big, but it is not pure and innocent, rather it is based in impure motives.
Obviously, we aren’t talking about actual reasons but rather excuses.
Working at home
This means to be known more “by God & husband” for the way the home is kept than for what is done outside the home i.e., in the public work force.
Again, this isn’t confined to the “house” but the entire home.
15 She rises while it is yet night and provides food for her household and portions for her maidens.
Kind/good
This means to exude desirable and positive qualities toward your husband.
There are many jokes about the “nagging wives” and husbands that don’t want to go home to their “nagging wives.” This is very sad, in reality, and not what a biblical wife is, rather she is to be be of such a way that her husband enjoys being around her.
11 The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. 12 She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.
Don’t get me wrong, husbands and children aren’t always the easiest to get along with but another popular saying is also very truth…
“Happy wife, happy life.”
Summary
Summary
The last of the qualities mentioned there in Titus 2:5, wives submitting to their husbands, I want to spend a little more time on.
Because as each of you here know, this is a major issue in our country today and even in the church.
So, with that in mind let’s examine how a Biblical Wife is supposed to be a…
Wife In Subjection
Wife In Subjection
How Does A Wife Show Subjection?
How Does A Wife Show Subjection?
There is no doubt that women are to be in subjection to men which would naturally mean wives are as well.
The bible is very clear on this topic whether people like to admit it or not.
3 But I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
So, the question then is, “what does it mean to submit to your husband?”
The word submit in our text in Ephesians 5:22 literally means “throw under” or “put under.”
The idea here is that women and wives are to be under the authority of man and their husbands in particular.
There are two questions that must be asked concerning wives submitting to their husbands.
First, why should wives be in subjection to their husbands?
This has an easy answer, “because God said so.”
22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
Secondly, how does a wife show subjection?
Wives must love their husbands.
14 For the whole law is fulfilled in one word: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.”
Wives must be respectful.
33 However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
Wives must yield to their husbands advice.
24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
Wives must study their husbands.
4 and so train the young women to love their husbands and children,
I use this verse because how many wives would be good at the “newlywed game” right after they got married in comparison to 20, 40 or 60 years later?
Summary
Summary
Submission to one’s husband isn’t a demonstration of weakness but rather of strength.
It takes strength to stand up against the norms of society and the flaming arrows of Satan to follow God’s plan and role for wives.
Conclusion
Conclusion
There is a lot more to being a Biblical Wife than submission but it takes submission to be all the other aspects of righteousness expected by God.
To all the godly wives let it be said of you as that which was said in Proverbs 31:29…
29 “Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all.”
To the husbands listening, are you living up to your godly role of leading your wife in such a way as to make it natural for her to submit to your authority?
Husbands make certain you give your wife every reason to put her trust and reliance in you..
Invitation
1 Behold, the Lord’s hand is not shortened, that it cannot save, or his ear dull, that it cannot hear; 2 but your iniquities have made a separation between you and your God, and your sins have hidden his face from you so that he does not hear.
6 who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, 7 but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men.
17 So faith comes from hearing, and hearing through the word of Christ.
6 And without faith it is impossible to please him, for whoever would draw near to God must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who seek him.
30 The times of ignorance God overlooked, but now he commands all people everywhere to repent,
32 “Therefore whoever confesses Me before men, him I will also confess before My Father who is in heaven.
8 in flaming fire, inflicting vengeance on those who do not know God and on those who do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus.
1 Now I would remind you, brothers, of the gospel I preached to you, which you received, in which you stand, 2 and by which you are being saved, if you hold fast to the word I preached to you—unless you believed in vain. 3 For I delivered to you as of first importance what I also received: that Christ died for our sins in accordance with the Scriptures, 4 that he was buried, that he was raised on the third day in accordance with the Scriptures,
3 Do you not know that all of us who have been baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into his death? 4 We were buried therefore with him by baptism into death, in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, we too might walk in newness of life. 5 For if we have been united with him in a death like his, we shall certainly be united with him in a resurrection like his.
7 But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus his Son cleanses us from all sin.