How to Be a Great Husband

Hope for the Family begins with Healthy Marriages.

Some of you will need to start slowly so you don’t shock her. Man took a box of chocolates home…wife, This has been the worst day of my life....kids, washer, you’re drunk!

Pursue Your Wife

“Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding...”

Marriage is a lifelong pursuit of knowing your spouse.

Men are made to pursue. We pursue goals, game, but men tend to stop pursuing “the girl” once they have won her hand.

Instead we need to seek to know them throughout our life.

Couple at marriage retreat. Instructor says, “It’s essential that husbands and wives know the things that are important to each other. For instance, men do you know your wife’s favorite flower?” Man leans over to wife and whispers, “It’s Pillsbury All-Purpose, right?” ....

Understand that men and women see the world differently. Israel Abramov with Brooklyn Institute discovered that our eyes develop different. Men require slightly longer wavelength.

Women see more hues (explains why we have periwinkle, lavender, violet, etc. vs just purple).

Men see more detail and movement. They attributed it to Hunter-gather. It’s really just God’s design.

We respond differently. Learn to listen to your wife. Take notes...

These God ordained differences are meant to strengthen us as a couple.

Protect Your Wife

“Giving honor to the as unto the wife as the weaker vessel.”

The weaker vessel means that she is more delicate, but also of great worth. Like fine china.

Know when she needs rest and provide it.

Men should always be willing to lay down their life for the wives (and daughters)

Eph 5:25, 28

We have a problem in today’s culture of devaluing the God-given role of women. The Senate Armed Services Committee voted to advance a bill with an amendment that would require girls and women age 18-25 to register for the draft. This is unbiblical, and unnatural!

The word for woman here emphasizes her femininity. The world needs to see strong Christian men who protect and serve their family, and godly feminine women who nurture and care for their children.

Adrian Rogers Sermon Archive B. Courtesy

A wife should ask herself this question: Do I love my husband enough to live for him? But, a husband should ask himself this question: Do I love my wife enough to die for her?

Pray With Your Wife

We are partners (joint-heirs) in the grace of life. We are equal spiritually, mentally, in our personhood. It is by God’s grace that we have each received eternal life.

A man that mistreats his wife will not have his prayers heard by the Lord.

Rather, men take the lead in praying with your wife. You cannot stay mad at a person who when you are praying with them. Col 3:19

When you pursue a relationship with your wife at the spiritual level it will grow your relationship at the emotional and physical.