Ephesians 5:21-33 (part two roles)

Marriage is not about you. It has been given to you by God to reflect and rehearse the truths of hte Gospel...

It is not about you and your happiness.

It’s not all about you; it's not all about your comfort; it's not all about your definition of happiness; it's not all about the meeting of your self-defined needs - marriage is part of something bigger; it's part of a grand redemptive plan that spreads through all of history and through the whole universe. Marriage is a piece of God’s sovereign plan. Yes, even your individual marriage is part of something that God is doing. _TRIPP

Paul Tripp - what did you expect? change your expectations...

Your marriage is NOT about you but I does involve you.;

Mutual submission (the text says wives submit to your husbands in everyhtihng…that’s not mutual. that says wives! show me where you see mutual submission.

look at verse 25 where we see husbands are to love their wives as Christ loved the church…how did he do that?

Philippians 2:6–8 ESV

6 who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, 7 but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. 8 And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross.

He knew who He was…He was God, the author of all life, but He submitted Himself to the needs of His rebellious creatures by “taking on the form of a servant.” He “humbled Himself,” by obeying to the point of death…by being beaten, stripped, mocked, scorned, crowned with thorns and hoisted up ion a cross to die through asphixiation. and as the last ragged breath left his lungs, the the hands of lawless men could clock out for the day.

Why? Why would He do that? Well He did that because he was showing in real time what Phil. 2:4 says.

Philippians 2:4 ESV

4 Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.

He was more interested in meeting the needs of us than His own. He laid aside His desires for self-preservation and took it on the chin for us. He told His Father, “not my will by thy will be done,” while he was isolated and alone in a garden on the night he was betrayed because those whose interests he had in mind were more interested in getting some sleep. If that is not submission…I have no idea what submission is.

Husbands you are to love your wives like Christ loved the church. There is a mutual submission that occurs in marriage.

What this is saying is simply this: the rule of thumb in marriage is you always serve the needs of your spouse before your own. Right away somebody says, “Oh, that means you let the other spouse walk all over you.” You weren’t listening. No. Here’s why. Does your spouse need to walk all over you? Is that good for him or her? Does your spouse need to abuse you? Is that good for him or her? Absolutely not. Therefore, confrontation is the best way to tell whether you have a biblical and not a selfish submissive servant attitude.