Recovering with Resilience

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Ethos (To attract attention and awaken the need)

Autumn Gold, Winter Grace: Applying God’s Grace to Make the Golden Years the Best Chapter One: Maintaining a Vigorous Faith under the Weight of Time

When we’re born, it’s as if—like an infant Moses—we too find ourselves adrift in a basket, but ours is carried immediately downstream in a swiftly moving river.

That river, life, moves in one direction only, and as time passes, we grow from infancy to childhood, from adolescence to young adulthood, from mid-life to the so-called “golden years.”

We often develop euphemisms to keep from having to say “old.” “The autumn of life,” we say. We are never elderly; we’re “senior citizens” … we’re “mature.” Everyone, it seems, is conflicted about getting older. As Jonathan Swift wrote: “Every man desires to live long, but no man would be old.” On the one hand, the wisdom age brings (or at least, should) is a blessing. We enjoy reaping the fruits of our lifelong labors: a degree of financial security, the freedoms retirement can bring, enjoyment of children and grandchildren. The restlessness and searching of youth has yielded to a settled contentment and a quietly confident self-assurance. These things we welcome and embrace.
But on the other hand, the passing of years and decades can also bring a decline in what our bodies or minds once could do. Along with its store of happy memories, time can also bring the burden of accumulated regrets. We can find ourselves lamenting what we had hoped to achieve but didn’t—or troubled with guilt over mistakes we thought we’d never make but did. And above all, getting older brings us ever closer to life’s end—and even if our life is accompanied by physical or emotional pain, we’re not ready to make an exit. All these inevitable results of getting older, we resist or even try to deny.
Autumn Gold, Winter Grace: Applying God’s Grace to Make the Golden Years the Best Chapter One: Maintaining a Vigorous Faith under the Weight of Time

So the young man who felt pride in finally being able to shave now struggles just to keep the hair he has. The slender yet muscular and youthful physique, virtually effortless to maintain, has now betrayed him. His waistline no longer cooperates. His strength and stamina increasingly go into hiding when most needed.

The young woman who, without even trying, enjoyed a natural radiance, with smooth skin and unbounded energy, now mourns the growing network of wrinkles and lines on her face, the changing shape of her body as gravity pulls it relentlessly in the direction of the ground on which she walks.

Biblical Counseling Keys on Aging A. Physical Wilting—Natural Body Deterioration

“Remember your Creator in the days of your youth, before the days of trouble come and the years approach when you will say, ‘I find no pleasure in them’—before the sun and the light and the moon and the stars grow dark, and the clouds return after the rain; when the keepers of the house tremble, and the strong men stoop, when the grinders cease because they are few, and those looking through the windows grow dim; when the doors to the street are closed and the sound of grinding fades; when men rise up at the sound of birds, but all their songs grow faint; when men are afraid of heights and of dangers in the streets; when the almond tree blossoms and the grasshopper drags himself along and desire no longer is stirred. Then man goes to his eternal home and mourners go about the streets.”

(Ecclesiastes 12:1–5)

• Decreased coordination (trembling)

v. 3

• Deteriorating posture (stooping)

v. 3

• Dwindling number of teeth

v. 3

• Dimmed eyesight

v. 3

• Dulled hearing

v. 4

• Difficulty sleeping

v. 4

• Declining ability to protect

v. 5

• Depleted hair pigment (white blossoms meaning white hair)

v. 5

• Drained energy

v. 5

• Diminished sexual drive

v. 5

2 Corinthians 4:16 “Therefore we do not lose heart, but though our outer man is decaying, yet our inner man is being renewed day by day.”
Ken McFarland, Autumn Gold, Winter Grace: Applying God’s Grace to Make the Golden Years the Best, The iFollow Discipleship Series (Lincoln, NE: AdventSource, 2011), 1–2.
Ken McFarland, Autumn Gold, Winter Grace: Applying God’s Grace to Make the Golden Years the Best, The iFollow Discipleship Series (Lincoln, NE: AdventSource, 2011), 1.

Logos (Presenting the satisfaction or Solution, Visualizing change)

The Christian’s behaviour must match sound doctrine. The Christian should be holy and command the respect of others. Respect has to be earned it can’t be forced. Paul addressed several groups, the first being the older men. Titus was to teach them to manifest the characteristics of maturity. Older men are to be temperate (nēphalious; cf. 1 Tim. 3:2), worthy of respect (semnous, “serious-minded,” i.e., not clowns), and self-controlled (sōphronas, cf. 1 Tim. 3:2; Titus 1:8; 2:4). These marks of maturity should be complemented by marks of godliness, the three central Christian virtues of faith … love, and endurance (hypomonē). This last one may seem to have replaced the familiar virtue “hope” in the trio, but the two are closely aligned (cf. Rom. 5:4; 15:4, 1 Thes. 1:3), especially for those who have lived long lives.

Titus was likewise to teach the older women to behave reverently, in a way suitable to sound doctrine. They were not to be slanderers (cf. 1 Tim. 3:11) or addicted to much wine (cf. 1 Tim. 3:8).

As we get older, there is a danger that we could cultivate wrong emotions and bad attitudes.
“My spirit is broken, my days are cut short, the grave awaits me.”
(Job 17:1)
FEELINGS
Lonely
Unwanted
forgotten
helpless
useless
fearful
Sad
Hopless
ATTITUDES
• critical
• pessimistic
• dogmatic
• negative
• bitter
• stubborn
• irritable
• ungrateful
Now there are many reasons why seniors could be displaying negative attitudes and entertaining bad feelings. they could be focused on the loses;
• loss of health
• loss of home
• loss of dreams
• loss of control
• loss of income
• loss of independence
• loss of loved ones
• loss of hope
June Hunt, Biblical Counseling Keys on Aging: Wisdom for the Winter Years (Dallas, TX: Hope For The Heart, 2008), 7.
But all is not loss, Storms invade each season of life, but negative thinking toward these winds of adversity is the root of immaturity. Titus 2:11-14 “For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation to all men, instructing us to deny ungodliness and worldly desires and to live sensibly, righteously and godly in the present age, looking for the blessed hope and the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior, Christ Jesus, who gave Himself for us to redeem us from every lawless deed, and to purify for Himself a people for His own possession, zealous for good deeds.”
What you thought was loss, God is working out for our good.
Meaning and purpose for my life comes from the indwelling presence of Christ, who is daily renewing my strength and growing His character in me.
“Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day.” (2 Corinthians 4:16). 2 Corinthians 4:17-5:10 “For momentary, light affliction is producing for us an eternal weight of glory far beyond all comparison, while we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen; for the things which are seen are temporal, but the things which are not seen are eternal. For we know that if the earthly tent which is our house is torn down, we have a building from God, a house not made with hands, eternal in the heavens. For indeed in this house we groan, longing to be clothed with our dwelling from heaven, inasmuch as we, having put it on, will not be found naked. For indeed while we are in this tent, we groan, being burdened, because we do not want to be unclothed but to be clothed, so that what is mortal will be swallowed up by life. Now He who prepared us for this very purpose is God, who gave to us the Spirit as a pledge. Therefore, being always of good courage, and knowing that while we are at home in the body we are absent from the Lord— for we walk by faith, not by sight…”
June Hunt, Biblical Counseling Keys on Aging: Wisdom for the Winter Years (Dallas, TX: Hope For The Heart, 2008), 8.
June Hunt, Biblical Counseling Keys on Aging: Wisdom for the Winter Years (Dallas, TX: Hope For The Heart, 2008), 7.
June Hunt, Biblical Counseling Keys on Aging: Wisdom for the Winter Years (Dallas, TX: Hope For The Heart, 2008), 5.
Opening Up Titus What Women Who Are Older Are to Be

The first thing that older women are to be is ‘reverent in the way that they live’. The word translated ‘reverent’ occurs only here in the New Testament. The basic idea is that of ‘conduct appropriate to a temple’ and suggests that older women are to behave in ways befitting those who are servants of God. Others may please themselves in the way that they live and recognize no higher authority than their own wills. Older Christian women are to be different. It is to be apparent from the way they live that their lives are dedicated to God.

The Christian Senior is not to be a Sladerer. you are not to be involved in gossip. They may be lonely; they may be facing difficulties; they may be tempted by neighbours and friends. Nevertheless, as Christian women, their duty is clear: they are not to be addicted—literally enslaved—to much wine.
David Campbell, Opening up Titus, Opening Up Commentary (Leominster: Day One Publications, 2007), 57–58.
A. Duane Litfin, “Titus,” in The Bible Knowledge Commentary: An Exposition of the Scriptures, ed. J. F. Walvoord and R. B. Zuck, vol. 2 (Wheaton, IL: Victor Books, 1985), 764.

Pathos (Describe the action and result, make a call)

Here is how the seniors Recover with resilience.
• Look at life’s storms as opportunities for eternal praise
v. 4:17
• Focus your thoughts on the unseen spiritual world
v. 4:18
• See your present circumstances as only temporary
v. 4:18
• Understand that God is preparing a new body for you
v. 5:1
• Regard inner strength as your new clothing
vv. 5:2–3
• Recognize that this life will always have loss and grief
v. 5:4
• Know that aging is part of God’s plan for your life
v. 5:5
• Depend on God’s gift of the Holy Spirit in you as your source of strength
v. 5:5
• View life through the eyes of faith
v. 5:7
• Look forward to your eternal home with the Lord
v. 5:8
• Make it your goal to please God
v. 5:9
• Remember, you will appear before the judgment seat of Christ
v. 5:10
June Hunt, Biblical Counseling Keys on Aging: Wisdom for the Winter Years (Dallas, TX: Hope For The Heart, 2008), 9.
You must use the time You have to study the Word of God You must know the doctrines so that You can impart it to others.
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