Colossians pt8
Tragically, our churches provide numerous examples of dysfunctional families in which abuse has been justified by a distorted interpretation of Paul’s household codes. Wifely submission is taken to mean the subjugation of the woman’s whole being to the man; husbandly love is taken to mean the man’s condescending care of the woman. The abuse promoted by such interpretations has led many believers to disregard Paul’s teaching as irrelevant and too misogynistic for today’s liberated environment
Submission is voluntarily assuming a particular role because it is right. Obedience is not directly commanded. Submission demands obedience as a pattern, but there are times in which obedience to a husband may become disobedience to God
Paul used the term of Jesus’ attitude who is Lord of all (see 1 Cor 15:28), the term may be appropriately used of one with the highest office. Both wives and husbands must recognize that the term has nothing to do with personal worth and value
The simple, positive command is to love. The term agapē, used here, never occurred in secular household tables. The command, therefore, appears to be a distinctively Christian element of the marriage relationship. It was common, of course, for husbands to love their wives sexually, but Paul advocated much more than that. In his description of the husband’s love in Eph 5:22ff., he clearly stated that the husband was to love his wife sacrificially. Her inner beauty and self-fulfillment were to be his delight, and he would do whatever he could to promote her personal well-being and satisfaction. The model is Christ’s love for the church
Paul apparently was addressing young children here. Two factors inform this interpretation. First, the use of the term “children” rather than “young men” (or equivalent) shows Paul was addressing younger children. Second, in Eph 6:4 fathers were told to “bring them up.” The training process involved teaching children how to obey, and those who heard these words would respond properly. Nothing in the text suggests a specific age, however. The term “children” primarily describes children in relation to their parents, so the assumption is that they were at home and under the parents’ supervision
Parents embitter children by constantly picking at them, perhaps refusing to acknowledge their efforts. The fact that children might become discouraged suggests that the parents too easily reminded the children that they were not good enough. This activity had no place in the Christian home. If correction were needed, it should have been toward the behavior of the child, not the child’s personhood, and it should have been enforced quickly. Discipline was not to be prolonged so that nagging occurred
How could slaves respond positively as Christians within their circumstances? Surely they could make a valid response to the gospel that would produce a better situation for them now and in eternity. Paul, in fact, presented the appropriate response. He called them to acknowledge and accept the fact that God knew their situations and that he rewarded them for how they acted in those situations