Bae Watch -Healing and Relationships

Introduction

Welcome to Bae Watch. This by far our most popular sermon series. As we focus on relationships. Wheter you are single, married, re-married, dating, this sermon series is for you. We all are a product of relationships. Today we are going to talk about the need for healing in relationships. We all are a product of our past and we carry baggage into relationships

Start putting the following things into the suitcase: family structures, past relationships, broken trust, personal insecurities, abuse, sin. Sherrell to zip of the suitcase and drag it over to Pastor Joe. We bring these things into the relationship because we have never taken the owenership to unpack these issues. Unpacking is hard work.

Galatians 5:19–24 CSB

Now the works of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, moral impurity, promiscuity, idolatry, sorcery, hatreds, strife, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambitions, dissensions, factions, envy, drunkenness, carousing, and anything similar. I am warning you about these things—as I warned you before—that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. The law is not against such things. Now those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires.

Today we want to focus on unpacking and how to heal. Trauma is real Many of us are operating out of Trauma and post tramatic stresss. We recognize signs and symtoms. Anger, Frustration, etc. But we never get to the root of why? Why are we angry? Why are we snappy? What is the underlying issue?

Primary Emotion vs. Secondary Emotion

Example: Sherrell and the travel agent

What do we have brokeness in relationships? Three letter word. Sin. Because of the fall, sin has entered the world and we have issues in relationships. To have a healthy relationsship, we have to prirotize healing. We all need healing!!! Unhealthy ways to heal: Live in denial Cover up with scripture and religous activities Fill in holes with other people What is the proper way to heal?

Trust Jesus for your healing

Jesus came to heal us Luke 4:18 “The Spirit of the Lord is on me, because he has anointed me to preach good news to the poor. He has sent me to proclaim release to the captives and recovery of sight to the blind, to set free the oppressed,” Jesus came to deliver us from our sin. We are out of aligment, we need to allow God, through the power of the Holy Spirit to bring us into aligment. Jesus wants to heal us

Psalm 147:3 CSBHe heals the brokenhearted and bandages their wounds.

Psalm 34:18 CSBThe Lord is near the brokenhearted; he saves those crushed in spirit.

Intimacy

Genesis 2:24–25 CSBThis is why a man leaves his father and mother and bonds with his wife, and they become one flesh. Both the man and his wife were naked, yet felt no shame.

In the garden Adam and Eve had were naked before God and each other. With their level of nakedness came a level of inimacy with God and each other. When the serpant deceived Eve then their intimacy was broken and they realized their insecurities. You want to be intimate with your spouse and before God. You should be comfotable being nake before them emotionally, spiritually, and physicially.

Communicate your hurt to your spouse

Some of us hold in our hurt and do not commuiniate to our spouse how you have been hurt. There are many reasons why: Shame, guilt, fear. But if you are going to heal You need to share whats hurting you to them. Especially if your spouse is the cause of the hurt. Being naked before your spose us always the best place to be.

James 5:16 CSBTherefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is very powerful in its effect.

Matthew 18:15 CSB“If your brother sins against you, go tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have won your brother.

Forgive

Colossians 3:13 CSBbearing with one another and forgiving one another if anyone has a grievance against another. Just as the Lord has forgiven you, so you are also to forgive.

Seek Professional Counseling

Surround yourself with people who will help you heal

1 Corinthians 15:33 CSBDo not be deceived: “Bad company corrupts good morals.”

Conclusion

Unpack and we replace with fruits of the spirit.

Galatians 5:19–23 CSBNow the works of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, moral impurity, promiscuity, idolatry, sorcery, hatreds, strife, jealousy, outbursts of anger, selfish ambitions, dissensions, factions, envy, drunkenness, carousing, and anything similar. I am warning you about these things—as I warned you before—that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. The law is not against such things.