22PT4 - How to Fight in Love

Title: How to fight in Love

Problem: We don’t understand how to fight.

Big Idea:

Short Term Challenge / Call to Action:

Pray over Word

I thank you, Father, that your word has the power to change my life. I'm a hearer of the word and a doer of the word and I'll never be the same after today. In Jesus name Amen.

SERIES SETUP (2min)

applies to married and single

Book: 4 laws of love (pull slide from 22PT1 slideshow)

[SERIES BOTTOM ]

-Marriage is the safest relationship on the earth when God’s marriage laws are honored.

[SERIES THEME SCRIPTURE ]

Genesis 2:24-25

That is why a man Leaves his father and mother and...

Pillar 1 : Your Marriage must be a Priority

Genesis 2:24-25

…is united to his wife...

Pillar 2: Pursue your Spouse by Pursing God

Triangle

Genesis 2:24-25

...and they become one flesh,

Pillar 3: Partnership

A man trusts an honoring woman

A woman trusts a sacrificial man.

Genesis 2:24-25

Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.

Pillar 4: Purity

THE PROBLEM (8min)

[STORY POINTING TO PROBLEM]

we are careful when

we fall out of love becaue we don’t care

we start beign carless

happens in conflict

[STATE PROBLEM]

We don’t understand how to fight.

its okay to fight.

nothing wrong with anger or conflict

must process it withing damagning others.

families sometimes are not great teachers

most people never learn how to fight.

[REASONS FOR THE PROBLEM]

Ephesians 4:26-27

“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.

1. We deny our anger.

Trademark of dysfunction is not being able to express emotions .

Cultivate an atmosphere of honesty.

anger should be legal

2. We justify sin because you are angry.

only defeat a spirit with an oposite spirit

3. We stay angry too long.

Never go to bed angry

devil speaks in the first person

He is a deceiver.

He is an accuser.

[TRANS2 SOLUTION]

How do we learn to have healthy conflict?

A few verses earlier...

THE SOLUTION (15min)

Eph 4:15 ...speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.

[BIG IDEA]

Pillar 4: Purity in Marriage comes from Fighting in Love.

walk in love vs fighting in love

1. Confront in a loving and positive manner.

Proverbs 15:1 A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.”

first 3 minutes

examples of how to do in and now not to do it (please pass the butter

2. Complain but don’t criticize.

criticize is about you - complain is about me

3. Listen to your spouse and believe them.

I Corinthians 13:4-7

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

4. Forgive and let it go.

Drinking poison

you can forgive them even if they won’t forgive you.

THE CHALLENGE (5 min)

[Short term Challenge / Call to Action:]

Imagine your marriage standing on the 4 pillars of love.

Pillar 1: Priority

Pillar 2: Pursue

Pillar 3: Partnership

Pillar 4: Purity

[APPLY TO INDIVIDUALS / WHAT IF YOU DID]

[APPLY TO CONGREGATION / WHAT IF WE DID]

PRAYER & REFLECTION (2min)

[Specific prayer about application]

[Help us be doers of the word]

[What to reflect]

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