I Still Do
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14 For Christ’s love compels us, because we are convinced that one died for all, and therefore all died. 15 And he died for all, that those who live should no longer live for themselves but for him who died for them and was raised again.
Is work on not living for yourself. Don’t be selfish.
The Grass is not always greener on the other side.
Enjoy the wife of your youth.
The traditional wedding vows. Preach through?
Vows: I take you name to be my lawful wedded Wife/Husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part. I will love and honor you all the days of my life."
If there is something not right in your marriage don’t sweep it under the rug. - Deal with it before you lose him or her. (Infection in my leg)
Don’t pretend that everything is okay if it is not. What will ppl think if the know we are not okay. The probable already know.
Date your mate. (Offer to watch young couples kids)
5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
28 But if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this.
You will face troubles. Marriages that face and conquer lifes problems and don’t let them destroy them are rich and deep.
Fight for your marriage, not in it.
Fight for your marriage, not in it.
The more you invest in your marriage, the more valuable it will be- come to you. What you invest in and value, you will fight for. Two ways to know you’re fighting for your marriage and not in it:
Focus on yourself and what needs to change in you before pointing out what needs to change about your spouse. Try to not use the word “you” when you’re arguing. Instead, focus more on the word “I.” For example, “I know I have been doing this, and I am sorry,” instead of, “You know you shouldn’t do that, and you need to apologize.”
Taking responsibility for your part of the problem eliminates a lot of fighting “in” your marriage. This is how you demonstrate your desire to make a difference.
4. Pursue your spouse.
4. Pursue your spouse.
The more you feed something, the faster it grows. The more you starve it, the faster it dies. Pursuing your spouse is how you feed your marriage.
Just like a healthy plant has deep roots that help it withstand droughts, cold fronts, and all sorts of storms, a healthy marriage is deeply rooted in love, allowing it to withstand all kinds of conflict. Peter, one of Jesus’ close friends, reminds us of this writing, “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins” (1 Peter 4:8).
8 Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.
Emotional pig-bank. Deposit, Deposit, Deposit, sorry withdrawal.
Tell the truth. Even when it would be easier not to.
Don’t hold past mistakes over your spouses head. He she always does that.
5. Pray for your marriage, for your spouse, and for yourself.
5. Pray for your marriage, for your spouse, and for yourself.
Prayer is a vital role in fighting for your marriage. It is a weapon Satan cannot stand up to. Prayer aligns your actions with God’s will, strengthening your obedience and faith to overcome your selfishness.
As you pray for your spouse and yourself, ask God to help you see your spouse through His eyes and to help you fix the things you need to become more like Jesus. Let God transform you, while trusting Him to do the same for your spouse (Romans 12:9-12).
9 Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. 10 Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. 11 Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord. 12 Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.
5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.