Andy Stanly pt 1

What you are doing now will follow you around in the future. If you have an issue, fix it before you are in a relationship. Otherwise you will only carry that problem into the relationship.

You are not special. Relationships have literally been around since the beginning of time. Problems have been around since the beginning of time. Adam should have led Eve better. Eve should have listened to God and Adam better. They both should have leaned more heavily on God. Problems arise. You will have them too. No one is different from the other billions of relationships throughout history.

You do not find the “perfect” person. No one is perfect. What you need to do is work on yourself, then find someone who is working hard on themselves. After that you guys can help each other improve, but do not jump into relationships if you are not bettering yourself, and do not take people who are not becoming better. You are only hurting yourself.

Sex is not a need that you have in your life. It is a want, not a need. You will not die if you do not have it. It is not a requirement for existence, so do not do it. Focus on doing good things in your life, and the sex (and other things) will come later at the appropriate times.

Put God first in your relationships and your relationships will be healthy. If you put God first and your relationship is unhealthy, then that is a sign that you should not be in that relationship. If you are not putting God first then your relationship will never be health. EVER. You may have some fun times, but people with terminal cancer have fun before they die. Your relationship is bad at its core.

Be the person that someone else is looking for. Be the someone that will be a valuable addition to someone else’s life rather than bringing them down. Be someone who will pull someone closer to God and not someone who is going to stand in their way. Find someone who is just like that to keep in your life as well.

A word to the wise. If you are not actively helping your significant other get closer to God, then you are standing in their way, and you should probably get out of their way. You need to either start measures in your relationship to draw near to God, or cut ties with this other so that they can have a chance to draw closer themselves. I know you may say “well how will me leaving them let them get closer with God when I am the one who is closer to Him in the first place.”

If you are the one closer to God in the first place, and you are not leading them to Him, then you are a problem. You need to either start leading, or cut the cord if they will not follow, cause if they will not follow then the only way they can pull you is down.

If you cut the cord that allows them to focus on something other than you, and that something can be God. If they choose to focus on sports, or fishing, or hunting, or drugs, or people then that’s on them, but they have the chance to focus on God. If you are standing in their way though, that is on you.

Make God your center, or He will be your enemy.

Negative attention is bad attention for God’s children. God is love, God’s will is positive for His kids. Negativity has no place in your life. A negative relationship does not either. You are better off single.