The One Part 2: 1 Corinthians 13:5-6

Introduction:

Attention:

Attitude = all the difference

College = fit in

Two cups of coffee

Behavior > Attitude

Q. What’s the difference between behavior and attitude?

Behavior: Actions

Attitude: Mindset

Need:

Think correctly

Date for right reasons/in right way

Most teens don’t (even Christian)

Body:

The Big Idea: Prepare your attitude towards dating

The Question: What dating attitudes should you prepare?

Politeness

1 Corinthians 13:5–6 (NLT)

or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.

Explanation:

Q. Why am I putting all of this in the category of politeness?

Polite = good manners, “correct social usage” (Mirriam Webster)

Rudeness + demanding + irritable = not polite

Q. What’s an example of someone not being polite?

Eating messy

“Rude”

Only occurrence in Bible

Failure of Corinth

Disrespectful thoughts “Who are they to tell me…?”

People can tell

Q. Why is this important for dating/marriage?

Rudeness = recipe for failure

“Does not demand its own way”

Thinking Self-Centered

Without considering others

See it

Q. Why is this important for dating/marriage?

Marriage = Selfless

E.G. Brandon Berrier (it connects)

“Is not irritable”

Touchy

Thought process when getting on nerves

Slow to anger

Q. Where is politeness found in the Gospel?

Dealing with sin (Gentle)

Illustration:

Blowing nose loud

Application:

In what ways?

How might impact?

How prepare?

The Big Idea: Prepare your attitude towards dating

The Question: What dating attitudes should you prepare?

2. Gracefulness

1 Corinthians 13:5–6 (NLT)

or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.

Explanation:

Q. What does “it keeps no record of being wronged” have to do with “gracefulness?”

Getting what you don’t deserve

We deserve record keeping (thoughts against)

Mentally keeping accounts

“Love does not take notice of every evil thing that people do and hold it against them.”

Does not mean to ignore

Repeated mental forgiveness

Q. Why important for dating/marriage?

Bitter marriage

Not “no boundaries”

Q. Where in Gospel?

The mind of God = not against us

Illustration:

Dating & bank accounts (valentines day; huge stuffed animals

Online bank accounts > Christ’s death

Application:

Record keeper?

Change perspective?

Relationships: Grace-defined (not gracefully blind)

The Big Idea: Prepare your attitude towards dating

The Question: What dating attitudes should you prepare?

3. Truthfulness

1 Corinthians 13:5–6 (NLT)

or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out.

Explanation:

Thinking morally

Mind/Heart posture = cares about right and wrong

Two-sided coin

Q. What does it look like rejoice about injustice?

Rooting for the bad guy (Loki)

Finding humor (e.g. last Friday at TDHS)

Tolerating sin

Injustice = affect

Broken minds/hearts

“Meh” > “Bleh”

Other side: rejoicing over truth

Truth = the heart of Christianity

Living within reality

Q. How does this connect with dating?

Self and the other

No secrets

Dating morally

Unequally yoked

Q. How does this connect with the Gospel?

Truth = Gospel message (Sinner, savior)

Illustration:

Relationship with Leah

Made light of sin

Different morals

Application:

Rejoice over injustice? (moments)

Do morals matter?

Lying?

Be a truth-teller

Conclusion:

Visualization:

Attitude truly does make the difference

Reiteration:

Think differently about dating

PRAY