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Pastor Steven
'Ships: A series on being with people • Sermon • Submitted
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Love Ship: Sailboat
Sailboats are idyllic, serene, Platonic
a lot of work, skill, trust & time
Dating and relationships
What we really should be asking is not how far can we go, How old should I be, who should I hook up with.
What we really should be asking is How has God made us to love and pursue these kinds of relationships.
Definition: What is Love really?
Feeling or emotion? Puppies? Desire?
Choice with substance?
What is Google’s definition of love
The Bible’s Definition of Love
1 If I speak in the tongues of men and of angels, but have not love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but have not love, I am nothing. 3 If I give away all I have, and if I deliver up my body to be burned, but have not love, I gain nothing.
4 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; 6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.
Reality: Good Desire
Song of Solomon
Trajectory: Holy Sexuality & Sanctification
No adultery Matt 5:27-28 Ex 20:14
14 “You shall not commit adultery.
27 “You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ 28 But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
Adultery: Any Sexual activity (Including Lust) with anyone other than your current wife or husband
Defining Husband or wife - God’s Clear plan from the beginning in establishing maleness and femaleness and genders is that sex would only happen between members of the opposite sex.
4 He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, 5 and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? 6 So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”
9 Or do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, 10 nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.
4 Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.
Means: Marriage or Singleness
8 To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single, as I am. 9 But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
32 I want you to be free from anxieties. The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord. 33 But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, 34 and his interests are divided. And the unmarried or betrothed woman is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. But the married woman is anxious about worldly things, how to please her husband. 35 I say this for your own benefit, not to lay any restraint upon you, but to promote good order and to secure your undivided devotion to the Lord.
Eph 5:22-33
Goal: God’s Glory & Our Good
Singleness and Marriage are God’s gifts to us for our Good
If Single use your freedom to the glory and purposes of God. Rely on God for the self control and holiness needed to enjoy this good gift.
If Married Use your relationship to the glory and purposes of God. Rely on God for the self control and holiness needed to enjoy this good gift.
Sex is a powerfully good gift to cement a marriage relationship emotionally, spiritually and physically for the good of the couple and future family that it may create.
It is not love for God, yourself or others to consume sex upon your own appetite.
Going outside of God’s good definitions and boundaries leads to hurt, regret, & sin in your emotional, physical and spiritual life.
Because sex (and all that surrounds it) is such a powerfully good gift from God… Enjoy it only as God intends
Favorite valentines day candy?
What makes you feel most loved or cared for?
Do you look forward to Valentines day or would you rather avoid it?
What happens when we don’t define love as God does? (What happens if love is more about our feelings and desires rather than about self sacrifice and caring for others?) What does it do a romantic relationship?
What is the most challenging part of God’s definition of Love in 1 Cor 13:4-8
4 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; 6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 8 Love never ends. As for prophecies, they will pass away; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will pass away.
What is the scariest thing to you about dating or marriage?
What do you like about dating or marriage?
What happens when we don’t stick to God’s definitions for dating, marriage or sex?
What are some things that you want to know about dating relationships?
