Biblical Manhood and Womanhood

What does it mean to act like men? Right here we see several things. One is be watchful. We need to lead the fight in spiritual warfare. That means watching out for spiritual attacks.

When you see spiritual warfare going on or coming you have a responsibility to sound the alarm.

We fail those around us when we fail to sound the alarm. Not only do we need to be watchful, but willing to stand firm. We need to be willing to take the front lines in spiritual warfare. We don’t have the option of sitting idly by. We need to be involved spiritually.

God has called you to be spiritual leaders.

We need to display strength.

What is strength?

Being of good character no matter who is around. Standing on your morals regardless of your surroundings. Strength is realizing your weakness and your need for God. Be done in love. What does that mean? The Greek used here is agape. So we are to love unconditional.

We don’t show love and respect to others because of who they are but because of who God is.

Ephesians 5:23 says

Ephesians 5:23 ESV

For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior.

God has designed the spiritual leadership of the family to look like this: God, the husband, the wife, and then the children. Guys that is a lot of responsibility. That means to an extent you will be answering to God for the way you led your wife and kids. If you lead them poorly and they make some destructive choices in relation to your leadership God is going to require you to answer for that. I think of that daily because I want to be the best spiritual leader I can be for Lindsey. You can watch couples and tell most of the time rather or not the man prioritizes God. You will see the change in the Character of the woman.

Go down a few verses and Ephesians 5:28-30 says:

Ephesians 5:28–30 ESV

In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body.

Lead according to Christ’s desires, not your’s.

As you lead let Christ be your example. Do all you can to encourage and build up your spouse, not to beat them down. Ladies keep your future husband accountable.

2 Thessalonians 3:10 says:

2 Thessalonians 3:10 ESV

For even when we were with you, we would give you this command: If anyone is not willing to work, let him not eat.

As men and women we are called to have a good work ethic. Our work ethic should make us stand apart. We are not to be a people standing around expecting things to be just given to us. We work to God’s glory. Work ethic should be the same rather paid or volunteer work. Ethic should be the same good or bad boss.

Biblical Womanhood

I want to start off with saying ladies set your standards high and do not lower them for anyone. Find someone that will lead you well spiritually.

We are going to primarily focus on passages in Proverbs 31 as we talk about Biblical womanhood. To start with we will look at Proverbs 31:11-12

Proverbs 31:11–12 ESV

The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.

Be trustworthy, not a gossiper.

Don’t be known as a gossip or someone you cannot tell anything because people know if you know everybody knows. Really though that goes for us all. People should know that if they come to you that what comes to your ears goes no further than that. Also within marriage you should be able to trust one another deeper than you can anyone else. As people come to you with their trust don’t break that trust and use the info to hurt them. To blackmail, etc.

Now let us skip down to Proverbs 31:20

Proverbs 31:20 ESV

She opens her hand to the poor and reaches out her hands to the needy.

The world is not all about you, but also others.

We all have a responsibility to pour into others less fortunate than us. Not to make fun of, not to put down, but to reach out and to help.

Next we will go down to Proverbs 31:25-27

Proverbs 31:25–27 ESV

Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. She looks well to the ways of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.

Ladies your attention should not be gotten from how much skin you can show off or how tight of clothing you can squeeze into or from being a pushover (Letting a guy push you around acting like you a second class citizen or something).

Your heart and personality is what a man should fall in love with, not your body.

And you are all strong women, with feelings that deserve respect. You man should not make you feel dumb, your man should value your wisdom. I will tell y’all right now Lindsey makes me a better youth minister with the feedback she gives me. I always value her words. I value her wise words of encouragement. Your words should be full of kindness not jealousy or hatred. Lindsey is one of the kindest peoples I have ever met. You are called to have good worth ethic, not to be characterized as lazy.

Then lastly in Proverbs 31:30

Proverbs 31:30 ESV

Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

Outward beauty is fleeting and won’t last, but the state of the heart will last. If you measure your worth on how you look or your dress or pants size or the lack or wrinkles on your face, your worth you see yourself with will diminish with times. But if you learn to take confidence in who you are in your heart no one or time can ever take that worth from you.

Take pride in who you are in Christ.

Your heart will be a thousand times more of a blessing to your future husband than your body will ever be. Base relationships on the heart not the body.

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