Now I said that this was for the girls, I lied, kinda. Men make mistakes. They have terrible lapses in judgement. But it comes down to the girls, and it can be difficult. It can seem wrong that you should have to make these decisions, but 1. The guy may not be a Christian and 2. Guys make stupid decisions at times. If a lady says no, and she controls the zipper, then nothing can happen unless laws are broken. (You should also refrain from putting yourself in sketchy situations. Situations such as back seats, beds, dark places, being alone. It causes terrible temptations, and produces difficult situations.)