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Opening Music - Joy (from king and country)

Welcome/Prayer

Shaun

Friends and family we are here this morning to remember and celebrate the life of a very special woman.

A mother, a daughter, a sister, a friend, a leader.

Today is not the end to grief, but one step along the way toward helping grief become ..beautiful.

Death was an invader in our world.

That gut sense we have every time we experience it that this is not the way it is supposed to be.

We feel that today with the life of Kristi who for all who knew her passed far too early.

Today is about remembering, celebrating, and then about asking ourselves how we might add something back into this world of what has been taken away in the loss of Kristi.

Will you join me in prayer.

Our father God, we are here today as friends and family of our loved one who departed from this world and came into your presence.

Lord, it is not easy for us to stand here and remembering and missing our beloved, but we know that Kristi is now together with You in heaven.

As we honor her, let the unconditional love that you showered upon Kristi during her life fill this service.

Help us to learn how to love others unconditionally like she did when she was with us on earth.

In Jesus’ name, we pray.

Amen.

Hymn of Heaven

Eric

Scripture Reading

Psalm 46:1-5,7,10-11

God is our refuge and strength,

    an ever-present help in trouble.

Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way

    and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea,

though its waters roar and foam

    and the mountains quake with their surging.

There is a river whose streams make glad the city of God, the holy place where the Most High dwells.

God is within her, she will not fall;

    God will help her at break of day.

The Lord Almighty is with us;

    the God of Jacob is our fortress.

He says, “Be still, and know that I am God;

    I will be exalted among the nations,

    I will be exalted in the earth.”

The Lord Almighty is with us;

    the God of Jacob is our fortress.

The family would like to share a slideshow of some of their memories with Kristi.

If you are watching at home, the music will be removed temporarily.

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Slideshow

From Misty

Message/Eulogy

Shaun

Eulogy:

Kristi Lee Kincer was born April 7th, 1972 in Coos Bay Oregon to Pauline.

She would grow up in Coos Bay until moving here to Vancouver, Washington, along with her sister Misty, eventually graduating from Fort Vancouver High School.

She was blessed to raise her three sons Austin, Ashton, and Roberto into young men she was incredibly proud of.

Her blessings would increase even more when Austin brought Alexis into the family who Kristi loved like her own daughter.

Kristi was even more grateful when she was made a grandma, first by Sebastian, and then by Adylina who both taught her just how much she looooved being a grandma.

Around 2010 she began working at Fort Vancouver Terrace, where apart from a brief stint in Chicago, she continued until her passing.

Kristi cared deeply for the residents, the property, and her coworkers.

Those who worked with her, the residents, and even vendors have shared with me how deeply they will miss the kind of care she provided for every person she came into contact with.

Around the same time she met and began dating Sean Marshall who despite distance became and remains an important part of the life of her family.

Kristi is survived by

her mother Pauline,

Her boyfriend Sean

Sons Austin, Ashton, and Roberto,

Daughter-in-law Alexis

Grandchildren Sebastian and Adylina

Sisters Misty, Teresa, and Sara

Nephews and Nieces:

Bailey, Cody, Angie, Adrian, Kyrese, Emiliano, and Aliyana

Her many friends, coworkers, and residents who will miss her greatly

Message:

A Life Given

Intro

I was blessed to know Kristi the past 7ish years because when we decided to move to Vancouver, my wife was blessed to be picked to be her assistant manager at Fort Vancouver Terrace.

There she not only was Monica’s boss, but her sister and friend.

And in that process her family became a part of ours.

To properly speak of Kristi, I need to tell another story.

It’s a story I tell each and every Sunday from this platform in one way or another, but uniquely important as I remember Kristi.

In the beginning, the Bible tells us that he created humans.

He formed us and shaped us.

And he did it with purpose.

He made us in his image.

God’s most essential attribute is love.

Not sentiment, emotion, or passion, but the continual action of giving of himself to another.

And we were created in that image.

We were handcrafted to give life, to give joy, to give what we had of everything inside and out with complete vulnerability and peace…because we trusted that God and others would do the same for us.

And God said it was good.

We were to multiply and fill this new world with that life-givingness.

The sad story of the fall is that it didn’t take much prodding for our trust to turn to doubt, and for our life giving to become life taking.

With our words, with our actions, simply by holding back love from those around us, we ceased giving life by default and we began to take.

No matter how much we took though, no matter what we acquired, how small we made another feel, we were never satisfied, because we were no longer operating the way we were made.

God’s heart was broken…but while we rejected God’s identity and design for us…he never quit.

The bible tells the story of a family and a nation that God used as an example of his continual pouring out of himself, all leading to a moment in history when God would step into history, into our world, and demonstrate his love for us by giving his life fully that we might find that life again.

That we could have redemption from our life-taking, and through the life death and resurrection of Jesus become life-givers, once again in line with our design, once again giving life into this world that is so in need of life givers.

I tell that story because it is Kristi’s story

A life giver…not a life taker.

If you knew Kristi, you knew her as a giver.

She gladly gave her heart, her advice, her help, her shoulder.

If she saw you had a need, she would strive to meet that need without concern for the impact to herself.

And yet, no matter how much she gave…she was constantly replenished and renewed to keep giving somehow...

How...Why?

Psalm 46:5 “God is within her; she will not be toppled.

God will help her when the morning dawns.”

One portion of the psalm we read together stands out on back of your program.

It also stood out on the back of her neck.

This verse.