Sermon Tone Analysis

Matthew 26:69-75

Peter Denies Jesus 69 Now Peter was sitting outside in the courtyard.

And a servant girl came up to him and said, “You also were with Jesus the Galilean.”

70 But he denied it before them all, saying, “I do not know what you mean.” 71 And when he went out to the entrance, another servant girl saw him, and she said to the bystanders, “This man was with Jesus of Nazareth.”

72 And again he denied it with an oath: “I do not know the man.”

73 After a little while the bystanders came up and said to Peter, “Certainly you too are one of them, for your accent betrays you.”

74 Then he began to invoke a curse on himself and to swear, “I do not know the man.”

And immediately the rooster crowed.

75 And Peter remembered the saying of Jesus, “Before the rooster crows, you will deny me three times.”

And he went out and wept bitterly.

earlier … v35 - Peter had made a promise, a commitment … I won’t deny you, I won’t betray you, I will never disown you … I’d give up my life for you

here in vs 70, 72, 74 … and by 75 he has gone out … and is weeping bitterly

and within weeks … this same guy … Peter, Jesus’ rock … that’s the name Jesus gave him … would be one of the most important, most prominent leaders of christianity …

What broke him … outside weeping bitterly … and then restored him so quickly?

The answer is commitment … promises …oaths.

He got broken because he didn’t understand the magnitude/importance/power of breaking your word … and he was restored when he learned the secret of promise keeping.

Promises = why he was both broken and restored

I read this week that much of the bitterness in our lives comes from our inability to make or keep promises or commitments.

Before we go to much further

Commitments/Promises, what do I mean this morning

Sermon Mount = Yes be Yes, No be No … we should people who mean what they say … not just formal, signed a contract … Jesus people are supposed to be people of integrity

Did you tell someone you would pray for them … call them … look them up … check on you … we should be people who say what they mean, mean what they say … consistent, dependable

Let’s look at what Peter learned:

Formed By Our Commitments/Promises

How To Make Commitments/Promises

Formed By Our Commitments

Our Promises have power

Why did Peter go out and weep bitterly?

Promises make up our identity, they make up our community

Think about the fabric of a society:

Denial of self, limit options, hold myself to my word, expect that of others … legal system, driving, going to school, at the store, contracts, etc … all predicated upon … folks doing what they said, what they committed to

Promises form our identity, and they form our community

1) Promises Form our Identity

Peter comes face to face with the reality of who he was … he has been operating believing he was the Peter of vs 35 … the Peter who wouldn’t run, who would die for Jesus … and now he has seen … I didn’t stay awake, I got rebuked by Jesus when I pulled my sword, and now I denied Him three times

His identity is fragmented because he didn’t keep his promises

Our modern culture is constantly asking “Who am I” … “What is my identity?”

Their/our answer is generally some form of what are your desires, what do you feel, what do you want, who do you want to be ...

And so many say, I need to find myself, figure out who I am … I need to see who I am outside of my obligations, promises, covenants, commitments … out from under all that stuff that feels weighty … what do I really want?

… Who am I at my deepest feelings?

But Here’s the problem - our desires are often in conflict, they are often transitory, temporary, they change

Almost everyone, has a fundamental desire to be chosen … to have some who will show up for us, who knows exactly who we really are and will still be there

But most also want the option, the freedom to choose someone different if someone better comes along

We want the security and contract at work, but we dont’ like the discipline and accountability of quotas, and 7:30am clock punching

Peter wants to be a great leader, he wants the others to know it, he wants Jesus to know it and count on him … but he doesn’t want tortured, he doesn’t want arrested and whipped and beaten

Peter’s identity is divided, his deepest desires are in conflict

And if you had asked him, what is your deepest desire … vs 35 … I will stand with you Jesus, I will lead, I won’t run … but now he is faced with reality … his deepest desire is being a coward

But is that really all he is?

Our feelings are our identity … our feelings move and shit and change … but our identity is fundamental, it’s core, it’s unchangable … its what is the same about you no matter what you feel, what year it is

That means that our identity is our commitments, it’s our promises … if it’s changeable you will never know who you are, and neither will anyone else

Your Identity Is what you always are

Situation, circumstance, feeling, opinions … I’m committed

W/o this … you don’t know who you are … if all you have are contradictions and equivocations … excuses and justifications … no identity

Integrity means we’ve got some thread, some rope, some thing that winds through our entire life and holds it together

Integer = whole number, not a fraction, not it pieces or parts

We aren’t compartmentalized

Our public & private, not different in different crowds, Monday & Sunday, what we say & do, this year & next … we have that when we have some promise, some commitment that holds it together

This means we can’t be run by our hormones, feelings, desires, circumstances, public opinion

MS Shakespeare class … studied a non-shakespeare play called A Man For All Seasons - about Sir Thomas More - Henry VIII - chancellor … Henry wants to keep marrying and divorcing/killing wives because he wants an heir … ultimately More won’t side with King … won’t deny what he thinks is right and it costs him his life … burned at the stake

Daughter Meg comes to him - “Oh, please, Father.

Can’t you please just go back on your word so we can have you?”

He looks at her, and he says, “When a man takes an oath, Meg, he’s holding his own self in his own hands.

Like water.

And if he opens his fingers then—he needn’t hope to find himself again.”

Peter opened his hands, he can’t find himself … our commitments, principles, promises, covenants … they can’t only be held when comfortable, convienent … pragmatism is no way to build an identity :)

So Peter is left with no idea who he is … no promise is holding him together … does he really love Jesus, is really a leader of this group … is he the rock?

He doesn’t know, and nobody knows … in fact it seems like Jesus knew he would fold, he would deny

2) Promises Make Community

Peter goes outside to weep … when we break our word, when the promise has been dashed … you don’t gather folks around and say look at me, I’m terrible

NO .... we go outside, we get by ourselves, get alone … promises create community, breaking them damages it

Breaking commitments inevitably creates isolation, aloneness, being on the outside

Think about places where it’s everyman for himself … not a village, not a community … that’s jungle, eat or be eaten … don’t count on me … hunger Games … everyman for himself … kill or be killed

I remember when call waiting was brand new … we used to joke that we knew was more important … were you the one they stayed on the line for … or when they heard the beeps did they hang up and answer the other line

Commitment means that we are limiting our options … marriage, friendship, church membership … what am I going to do this morning, who am I going to sleep with, who will I show up for when they are in trouble … who will hang up on someone for

There is no community, no friendship, no marriage w/o narrowing our options, making choices … for better or worse, richer or poorer, sickness/health

One of my favorite and most challenging marriage lessons … we are not married to the same person today … Meg has been to at least 6 different, and probably many more than that … and so have I … her first husband was 22, no kids, no job, no money, just lots of deby … each child, each life transition, heart attack, global pandemic, got fired, etc … everyone has been different and everyone has been me … but the thread, the rope, the ring, the commitment that runs through it all … I made a promise, covenant, and that is my identity … I am hers, she is mine

This is true for marriage - we make lifelong permanent covenants … our community, our family is built on it … breaking it would open my hand … nothing would be there, I would not know who I am

The result of breaking promises, covenants even small ones … we end up outside weeping … a part of us, a part we trusted, other trusted has been lost/broken

Society, culture, church, family, marriage … all built on promises … w/o them those things can’t exist and be sustained

We have to be willing to say … I am grabbing ahold of this rope, this thread is going to define who I am … 1 year, 5 years, 25 years from now … this is who I will be … hell or high water … even if the creeks rise, even if the storm rages, even if cancer shows up, even if the job is lost, even if the bank account goes dry …

How to Make Commitments/Promises

I promises make us, how do we make promises?

If we are honest … this sounds simple … but we’ve lived more than 6 minutes we know … this isn’t easy

a) others break their promises to us all the time, being the consistent one, who shows up … we get taken advantage of … we get left holding the bag … why would I keep making promises/covenants/commitments to these idiots who don’t come through

b) I’m bad at keeping promises .. I can’t don’t won’t stick to them … I don’t follow through

There is a secret … In John’s gospel … chapter 21 … Jesus meets with Peter … after the resurrection, after the upper room interaction … Peter is clearly still wrestling with who he is … he has taken the other apostles out to fish … and Jesus meets him on a beach … sits him down and three different times ask him … Do you really, truly love me … Peter answers, I do, I do love you

And after each time Jesus says to peter … then feed my sheep, lead this church, be my guy, you are still my rock … just like before, even though you broke your word, even though you denied me … be the rock I’ve called you to be

And Jesus goes further … he says … listen, you may have avoided death by denying me, but taking this commitment and meaning it, will cost you your life, you will have to stretch out your arms and be crucified

Peter says … ok … but what about him … what about John … Jesus answer … doesn’t matter, not the question of your identity … is your identity to be my follower … then follow and don’t worry about what I do with him

And Peter does … he leads, preaches, risks, and follows

The bigger our commitments, the better we keep them … the more we know who we are … the team of folks who risk much, who give themselves to it … achive great things

So let’s do it … let’s be great promise keepers …

Hold Up … sounds good … but I know you, and you know me … you know your spouse, your friends, your pastor, your neighbors … is the secret try real hard, keep your promises and it will all work out … thank heavens no … that is a strategy for bitterness and anger and dispappointment

See Peter discovered a different secret … Jesus didn’t point Peter to himself … He pointed Peter to Himself … Jesus is the perfect promise keeper … Jesus make and keeps promises … let’s look quickly at Jesus promises … let’s build our relationships, community, marriage, friendships, church on His promises

Jesus Promised to Judge

Jesus says - Peter, I’m in charge … you will die, he may live … I’m the judge

and we see this … one person, keeps their word, tells the truth … boss rewards it, promotes it … someone else, tells the truth, acts with integrity, passed over for promotion, out of the inner circle, maybe even fired

Hebrews 11:32 And what more shall I say?

For time would fail me to tell of Gideon, Barak, Samson, Jephthah, of David and Samuel and the prophets— 33 who through faith conquered kingdoms, enforced justice, obtained promises, stopped the mouths of lions, 34 quenched the power of fire, escaped the edge of the sword, were made strong out of weakness, became mighty in war, put foreign armies to flight.

35 Women received back their dead by resurrection.

Some were tortured, refusing to accept release, so that they might rise again to a better life.