A Home Treatment
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All of our homes can use a “makeover” from time to time.
A new window treatment. A new coat of paint. A new decoration.
New furniture. New floor. You get the idea.
Medical people “treat” wounds or “treat” a patient who is suffering.
When dealing with people, sometimes we like to “treat” someone to dinner, or “treat” someone to coffee or ice cream.
As far as giving a gift, TREAT, as a noun means =an event or item that is out of the ordinary and gives great pleasure.
"He wanted to take her to the concert as a treat"
Human nature gets in the way. Our selfish flesh can cause relational setbacks. However, Good Treatment Can Become More Normal.
Today's Best Illustrations, Volumes 1-4 (Treating the Future Man)
If you treat an individual as he is, he will stay that way, but if you treat him as if he were what he could be, he will become what he could be.
Treat Family Members Well...
Treat Family Members Well...
10,000 Sermon Illustrations (Rent-a-Wife)
It started with Rent-A-Wife, a small Petaluma, California in the 1980’s, company created by Karen Donovan to help clients decorate their homes, balance checkbooks, run errands, etc. Donovan, who launched her business through a small ad in the local newspaper, is already thinking big after four months of operation. She wants to hire her father to initiate Rent-A-Husband and her two teens to start Rent-A-Family. “We can do what any family does,” the newfangled entrepreneur joked. “We can come over and eat all the food, turn on all the lights, put handprints on the walls, take showers and leave the towels on the floor. When clients are finished with Rent-A-Family, they’ll have to call Rent-A-Wife.
It’s still a business today! The “Rental Wife” get $40 and hour to work around the house, balance the checkbook, etc.
We don’t need to fake a family or fake perfection or fake problems. That’s all part of living. If God has called you to have a family, you can learn to treat family members well.
Ephesians 5 is one of three “Household Codes” passages of Scripture. Col 3, and 1 Peter 2 are the other passages.
Included in these are “Pairing Passages” about how a man and a woman function as a “pair,” a “Couple.”
In the Day Paul wrote Eph, Col, and when Peter wrote 1 Peter, the concepts they teach are novel, they are unheard of. These “Household Codes” redefined the structure of the home elevating others.
Roman society did not elevate women and children, but Christianity elevated Women and Children as Equal with men.
Even today, some people misread these passages and find them oppressive, but they are actually revolutionary in Paul’s and Peter’s day.
Jesus is the ultimate example of elevating women and children to the same social standing and demonstrating the same value as men.
As we read the text, think about how each person is value and each person plays a specific, difference, yet important role in the organizational structure of the home.
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise;) That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
Treat Family Members Well...
Treat Family Members Well...
HOW DO WE TREAT EACH OTHER???
3 Areas of “Home Treatment...”
Treat with Equality.
Treat with Equality.
Mutual Submission. 21, 22-24
5:21 is governing this whole section:
Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.
SUBMITTING? ‘Christians are to engage in a lifestyle of “submitting to one another.” For most, the immediate reaction is a cold shiver and the thought, Uh, thanks, but I think I’ll pass.
Submission is a word that needs and image makeover. For most, it calls to mind tyrannical bosses and the mousy people they bulldoze. Or we think of that grade school bully twisting our arm on the playground until we cried. Submit? Be somebody’s format or punching bag? We’d rather get a root canal.
This is the submission that Paul is calling for. Biblical submission is voluntarily putting ourselves under someone else. It’s what Jesus did- taking on a servant mindset and setting aside his privileges and “rights.” It’s humbly treating others as more important than us (phil2:3). Instead of “looking out for number on.” The submissive person looks out for the interests of others (2:4).
The way of the world is to think, “How can I get the upper hand and make these people do my bidding?” The way of the restored soul is to think, “How can I subordinate my agenda to the needs of those around me and serve them well?”’
-Steve Arterbun in the “Recovery Bible”
Husbands are submitting to their wives with organizational loving leadership.
Wives are submitting to their husbands with gentle, respectful encouragement.
BOTH are Equal in Value.
Both are needed in a home being completed...
NO HOME IS EVER COMPLETE, the Home Treatment is ongoing in the progressing completing and growing of a family. There is no “normal”
Both are important contributors to the overall function and effectiveness of the home.
Mutual Love. 25, 33,
That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
Men are said to loves their wife 3 times here.
3 Times for the 1 time women are told to love. Men tend to need reminded to love their wife more than they love themselves. It is clearly implied, men love themselves - so - love your wife like you love yourself.
How did Jesus LOVE the Church? This is our example:
Jesus gave Himself.
Jesus gave His life.
HAVE A giving, forgiving, living LOVE for your Spouse!
10,000 Sermon Illustrations (Four P’s for Prevention)
Infidelity can happen to anyone. Here are a few tips for your readers to affair-proof their marriages. I call them “the four P’s” for prevention:
1. Be protective of your marriage. Avoid risky situations such as long lunches with a co-worker or drinks for two after work. Most people do not plan to be unfaithful.
2. Be positive. Look for what is right in your spouse and tell him or her daily. People who have love affairs are often looking for appreciation and affirmation.
3. Be polite. Always talk to your spouse with respect. Be careful what you say to each other and how you say it. Show courtesy and caring in the way you treat one another.
4. Be playful, and make fun, sex, and humor a mainstay in your marriage. Schedule time to play with one another, and have a “date night” at least once a week.
Mutual Respect. 33
Love and Respect Your Spouse.
vs. 33. Marriage may not be easy, but at least it’s not complicated. Here in one short verse, Paul sums up our marital job descriptions; husbands, love; wives, respect.
Why is it so difficult? Back up a few verses to Ephesians 5:18. Do you see the command that comes before the commands to “love and respect?” It’s to “be filled by the Spirit.” - Steve Arturburn in Life Recovery Bible.
Kids are to Obey and Honor. 6:1-2
Parents Love and Encourage Their Kids. 4
Treat with Equality.
Treat with Value.
Treat with Value.
Communication includes listening well and it demonstrates value.
Speaking gently demonstrates value.
Sharing time together, eating a meal, playing, even praying demonstrates value.
One day on my drive home, a radio announcer sliced through the fog of my fatigue by saying, “I hope you did something of value today. You wasted a whole day if you didn’t.” I pondered for a moment and concluded my day had produced value—some nagging office issues confronted and solved.
I was drifting back into contented exhaustion when another thought rattled my complacency: The day’s not over yet! Waiting down the road were a tired wife and six children. Would I do something of value with them tonight?
My work is of value, but so is loving my wife and shaping the legacy of my children. I had valuable tasks yet to do—guiding some intentional conversation over dinner and an hour of free-style wrestling!
Make Her More Beautiful. 25-27
Christ (in time) will present the church to God (the Rapture).
The Church (the people, not the steeple) will be clean, beautiful, like a bride at a wedding.
Sanctification takes time. Holiness is developing.
Men, demonstrate value to your wife, Daily. Show her she is worthy.
Help her become more beautiful by making by treating her well.
But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
Make Him a Better Man. Let him learn to care and provide. 28-29
Let him learn to nourish (bring to maturity).
Let him learn to cherish you.
New American Standard Hebrew-Aramaic and Greek Dictionaries: Updated Edition (2282 θάλπω (thalpō))
θάλπω thalpō; a prim. vb.; to warm, hence to cherish:—cherishes(1), tenderly cares(1).
Make Them Grow. The Kids need Nurtured. 6:4
“Bring Them Up” An agricultural and gardening expression. Helping your kids grow into responsible, independent, young adults is expressing tremendous value on them.
Proverbs 13:24 (KJV 1900)
He that spareth his rod hateth his son:
But he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.
Discipline can be painful but should never be dangerous. It is course correction and know this: every child respond differently and your parenting should never bec”one size fits all.”
Nurture is “the whole training and education of children” in the ways of God. Rearing, discipline.
Joseph Henry Thayer, A Greek-English Lexicon of the New Testament: Being Grimm’s Wilke's Clavis Novi Testamenti (New York: Harper & Brothers., 1889), 473.
Admonition is needed. Consistent guidance on how to think right and how to choose right.
Admonition n. — cautionary advice about something; especially danger or other unpleasantness.
If a parent affirms lies to a child, they are lying to them and not helping them know God. A parent cannot let a boy think he is a girl, and let a girl say she is a boy, and fulfill this passage. Showing value affirms TRUTH.
A parent will deal with unpleasant topics and firmly and lovingly provide warning and clear cut guidance to the child. Sharing TRUTH is Showing YOU VALUE HIM/HER.
In the teen years to young adult, the Life stage Psychosocial Crisis is “Identity Versus Role Confusion.” “Who am I, and How do I fit into life?”
Everyone is valuable even if they are trying to figure out who they are. Show that you value them by speaking truth into their lives.
The man posing as a champion women's swimmer has believed psychotic lies about himself and people have affirmed psychotic lies about him to where he believes his physical body, and basic observational science is not real.
PARENTS Must Affirm Truth Thinking in their kids. This is real NURTURE.
10,000 Sermon Illustrations Rudyard Kipling
Rudyard Kipling once wrote about families, “all of us are we—and everyone else is they.” A family shares things like dreams, hopes, possessions, memories, smiles, frowns, and gladness...A family is a clan held together with the glue of love and the cement of mutual respect. A family is shelter from the storm, a friendly port when the waves of life become too wild. No person is ever alone who is a member of a family.
Treat with Equality.
Treat with Value.
Treat with Christlikeness.
Treat with Christlikeness.
6,000 Plus Illustrations for Communicating Biblical Truths Family Meal Times
Study says there is more happening at family meal times than just eating. A recent study shows that high school students who interact with their families at dinner are more likely to spend time studying, on part-time employment and participating in athletics. “A family that eats dinner together is doing a lot more than eating.” said Paul Krouse, publisher of Who’s Who Among American High School Students. The survey also showed:
• Students who never eat dinner together with their families are three times less likely to have a happy and close home life than those who regularly eat dinner with family.
• High School students who rarely or never eat dinner together with their families are almost four times as likely to have engaged in sexual intercourse (67%) than those who regularly eat dinner as a family (17%).
Give time.
give attention.
Give help and encouragement.
give guidance and direction.
Sacrificial Giving. 25
Set Apart Living. 31.
Only time: 1 + 1 = 1!
You belong to each other. Don’t let something or someone come between you. You have set yourself aside for your spouse.
Like When Jesus “Sanctified” the church in vs 26. Sanctify means “Set Apart.”
Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
Submissive Beginnings. 6:1-3
If you want your kids to be more like Jesus, you must start teaching them about Jesus early in their life. Some are playing “Catch up!” Expect obedience and encourage honor.
Be a parent they can obey in the home and that they can honor throughout their life.
CONCLUSION: How are Your Treating People in your home?
TREATMENTS are ongoing in every home.
No Home is ever completely perfect. There will be regrets, but you don’t need an entire lifetime of regret or remorse for your family...
Treat Family Members Well...
Treat Family Members Well...
HOW DO WE TREAT EACH OTHER???
Every family should continually strive to grow in these 3 areas:
Treat With Equality
Treat with Value.
Treat with Christlikeness.
Give a “Treat” to someone in your house this week.
EASTER EGGS are coming soon! They are a real treat!
One year, we bought about 20 packages of Reese Eggs. After 9 months of one a day for dessert, the eggs were no longer that special. They became common place. Peanut butter Reeses were no longer a treat.
With candy, that’s not good; but if treating others good becomes normal in our relationships - that is great. That’s the goal!
Make treating others better more normal.
Today's Best Illustrations, Volumes 1-4 (Treating the Future Man)
If you treat an individual as he is, he will stay that way, but if you treat him as if he were what he could be, he will become what he could be.
RESPONSE:
May the Lord help me to show more Equality in the Home.
God challenged me to demonstrate VALUE.
By God’s grace, I will be more Christlike in the family.
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