Marriage God’s way
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Marriage was God’s idea, design and plan and part of creation
Marriage was God’s idea, design and plan and part of creation
instituted by God Gen 2:18-25 “And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Out of the ground the Lord God formed every beast of the field and every bird of the air, and brought them to Adam to see what he would call them. And whatever Adam called each living creature, that was its name. So Adam gave names to all cattle, to the birds of the air, and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper comparable to him. And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. Then the rib which the Lord God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man. And Adam said: “This is now bone of my bones And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.” Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And they were both naked, the man and his wife and unashamed…”
God gave man a woman to be a suitable/compatible helper.
The purpose of marriage was for companionship and intimacy
In Gen 1:26 “Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness; let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over the cattle, over all the earth and over every creeping thing that creeps on the earth.” So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.”
Gen 1:28 “Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth.””
The relationship between a man and wife is similar to that between Christ and the church
Marriage was built to last - covenant relationship
For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.
“For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
- The husband is the head of the wife and the home.
husbands must love like Christ loved his bride (lay down his life fo rher) Ephe 5:25
the reason is for order and accountability. (Adam where are you?)
headship must be exercised with love
Colossians 3:19 “Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them.” (harsh)
husbands must treat their wives with respect and as equal heirs
1 Peter 3:7 “Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.”
a church leader/a man manage his home before he can lead in the house of God
1Tim 3: 3-4 “not given to wine, not violent, not greedy for money, but gentle, not quarrelsome, not covetous; one who rules his own house well, having his children in submission with all reverence” “one who rules his own house well, having his children in submission with all reverence”
The man is primarily responsible for training the children - Ephesians 6:4 “And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.”
both husband and wife must reflect christ
Ephesians 5:25; 32 “This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church.”
Wife must submit to the husband
Ephesians 5:22-24 “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.”
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear.
Wife of noble character Prov 31:10-31
Who can find a virtuous wife?
For her worth is far above rubies.
The heart of her husband safely trusts her;
So he will have no lack of gain.
Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.
a wise woman builds her house
Prv 14:1 “The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish pulls it down with her hands.”
Proverbs 19:13–14 (NKJV)
A foolish son is the ruin of his father,
And the contentions of a wife are a continual dripping.
Houses and riches are an inheritance from fathers,
But a prudent wife is from the Lord.
Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel—rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.
Galatians 5:13-15 “For you, brethren, have been called to liberty; only do not use liberty as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another. For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” But if you bite and devour one another, beware lest you be consumed by one another!”
Don’t fight and destroy each other
A house divided against itself cannot stand Matthew 12:25 “But Jesus knew their thoughts, and said to them: “Every kingdom divided against itself is brought to desolation, and every city or house divided against itself will not stand.”
Amos 3:3 “Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?”
Don’t be yoked with unbelievers
Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you are the temple of the living God. As God has said:
“I will dwell in them
And walk among them.
I will be their God,
And they shall be My people.”
Nor shall you make marriages with them. You shall not give your daughter to their son, nor take their daughter for your son. For they will turn your sons away from following Me, to serve other gods; so the anger of the Lord will be aroused against you and destroy you suddenly.
marriage is a covenant that we all should honor
Hebrews 13:4 “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.”
Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For “the two,” He says, “shall become one flesh.” But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him.
Genesis 21:11–12 (NKJV)
And the matter was very displeasing in Abraham’s sight because of his son.
But God said to Abraham, “Do not let it be displeasing in your sight because of the lad or because of your bondwoman. Whatever Sarah has said to you, listen to her voice; for in Isaac your seed shall be called.
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EP 38: What Does Submission in Marriage Look Like? {Marriage Series}
EP 38: What Does Submission in Marriage Look Like? {Marriage Series}
What it Isn't: (These are just briefly titled here but elaborated on in the podcast)
-It is not putting your husband in God's place. Christ holds first place in our lives.
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-It does not mean men are not more superior, intelligent or more spiritual than women.
-It does not mean we don't study God's Word for ourselves.
-It does not mean you don't use the gifts God has given you.
-It does not mean you follow your husband into sin.
-It does not mean we are submissive to all men
-It does not give the husband to abuse his wife.
-It does not denote weakness
-It is not a burden
-It does not mean we don't try to influence our husbands and specifically in spiritual matters.
-It does not mean we will agree with our husband on everything.
-It does not mean we don't have opinions or input in the home.
-It is not to be forced on by our husbands.
Some ways that we as wives are not submissive:
Some ways that we as wives are not submissive:
–She does things that are annoying to her husband. (Proverbs 21:19📷)
-She does not discipline the children as she should (even after her husband asks her to). (Proverbs 29:15
She argues or gives him the cold shoulder when she doesn’t get her way. (Proverbs 21:9📷)
-She is more loyal to others than to her husband. (Proverbs 31:11📷)
-She does not stay within the limits of their financial budget. (Proverbs 19:14📷)
-She corrects, interrupts, talks for her husband and is too outspoken when others are around. (Proverbs 27:15📷,16📷)
-She manipulates him to get her own way. She may do this by tears, nagging, begging, complaining, anger or intimidation. (Luke 10:40📷)
-She makes important decisions without consulting him. (1 Corinthians 11:3📷) (*see note below)
-She directly defies his wishes. (1 Samuel 15:23📷)
-She worries about decisions and takes matters into her own hands. (Philippians 4:7📷,8📷)
-She does not pay attention to what he says. (James 1:19📷)