Are You Serving Out of Habit or Out of Love?

Are You Serving Out of Habit or Love?

Rev. Thomas A West, St

July 17, 2022

Luke 10:38-42

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Weeks ago during our Tuesday night Bible Study, there was a long discussion on serving in the church and the subject of Mary and Martha, one sitting at the feet of Jesus, while the other was trying to be hospitable and prepare a meal for the guests, which was the custom of the day.

The question was, which one was in the right? The servant or the worshipper?

Let’s find out, shall we?

The title for today’s message is: Are You Serving Out of Habit or Out of Love?

Our Scripture of for today is taken from Luke 10:38-42

Luke 10:38–42 NKJV

38 Now it happened as they went that He entered a certain village; and a certain woman named Martha welcomed Him into her house. 39 And she had a sister called Mary, who also sat at Jesus’ feet and heard His word. 40 But Martha was distracted with much serving, and she approached Him and said, “Lord, do You not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Therefore tell her to help me.” 41 And Jesus answered and said to her, “Martha, Martha, you are worried and troubled about many things. 42 But one thing is needed, and Mary has chosen that good part, which will not be taken away from her.”

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Can I ask you, what brought you here today? Was it a sense of duty, you feel a sense of obligation, a responsibility to the Lord for all that he has done for you. Is it possible to serve the Lord out of habit rather than out of love?

In Luke chapter ten Jesus has been discussing with a Jewish religious leader the two great commands of the Scripture: that we are to love God with all our heart, mind and soul and that we are to love our neighbor as ourselves. Jesus has just used the story of “The Good Samaritan” to illustrate how we should love our neighbor and now he uses the story of two sisters, Martha and Mary, to illustrate how we should love God.

The story that we are going to read about today (Luke 10:38-42) takes place in the village of Bethany which is located just outside of Jerusalem. From what we can glean from this passage and in John chapters 11 and 12, Martha lived with her sister Mary and their later to be famous brother Lazarus. It appears that Martha is a widow for she is the head of the household.

Here in the home of Martha, Mary and Lazarus Jesus and his disciples sit down for some relaxation away from the press of the crowds. Here is a home that Jesus had been to many times, a place where He knew He was loved and accepted. Both sisters were delighted to see Jesus but as you will see they express their enthusiasm in very different ways.

In verse thirty-eight we are told, “Now it happened as they went that He entered a certain village; and a certain woman named Martha welcomed Him into her house. (39) And she had a sister called Mary, who also sat at Jesus’ feet and heard His word.”

People have varying temperaments; some are active always needing to be busy, never able to sit still. Others are thoughtful, willing to sit back and think things through. Martha is a very activity-oriented person, her sister appeared to be of the more thoughtful nature. I believe that we many times have wrongly contrasted Martha and Mary, as though each Christian should make a choice to either be a worker like Martha or a worshipper like Mary. But in so doing I think we miss the point, the Lord wants each of us to imitate Mary in our worship and Martha in our work, and to achieve balance in both.

Mary is content to sit at Jesus’ feet soaking up the Word, and not “do” anything. But her big sister, Martha was looking around at all the guest and sees the need to prepare a meal. Martha was obviously a great hostess; she got up and began to prepare food for Jesus and all those there with Him. Martha looked and said to her self “What a privilege to prepare a meal for the Master!” Mary on the other hand would have said, “What a privilege to sit at the feet of the Master.” Is one right and the other wrong? No. Duty and Devotion are both necessary but there must be a balance.

Every action, every relationship, every institution has a basic focus, which is its reason for existence if it hopes to succeed; if loses that focus it will fail. When you lose your focus, which why you do what you do, then you are in trouble. This morning I want us to look at this story and what it teaches about the cost of a loss of focus.

1. Loss Of Focus Caused Martha To Resort To Self-Pity (v. 40)

All of you know what entertaining unplanned visitor’s is like and why Martha is flustered and feeling more and more frustrated with each passing moment. The first part of verse forty tells us, “But Martha was distracted with much serving,…” the sense of the word translated “distracted” here is “to be pulled away” or “dragged away.”

The implication is that Martha wanted to hear Jesus herself, she wanted to be seated at his feet too, but she was pulled away by her sense of her “duties.” Worrying about the meal has robbed her of the joy of her service to the Lord. We should of course, take our responsibilities seriously, but not ourselves to the point that we overestimate our importance.

The problem did not lie in the work that Martha was doing. It was the attitude that she was doing it with that became the problem. Martha’s problem was one of balance, between the going and doing and the sitting and listening.

My greatest fear in saying that is that is that someone out there who is doing nothing will gratefully say “Amen” to what they think I said, and excuse themselves from doing anything except ‘sitting”. Look, the truth is that there are too many ‘sitters” now. The difference between Martha and Mary is not that one served and the other did not, but one served out of duty and the other out of devotion.

In our daily lives we can become so busy with the everyday things of life that we neglect the most important. In is interesting to think back, when I was a child there was a cartoon series on television called “The Jetson’s” many of you may remember it. This show conveyed the common misconception of the time, that in the future modern conveniences would produce more and more leisure time in people’s lives.

The facts are that today, many of us are overworked. You quite simply work too many hours. Stephen Convey comments on the unreal expectations of our day in his book, “First Things First” when he says, “People expect us to be busy, overworked. It’s become a status symbol in our society – if we’re busy, we’re important; if we’re not busy, we’re embarrassed to admit it. Busyness is where we get our security, It’s validating, popular and pleasing, It’s also a good excuse for not dealing with the first things in our lives.”

[Stephen Covey, A Roger Merrill, Rebecca R. Merrill. “First Things First: To Live, to Love, To Learn, to Leave a Legacy.” (Simon & Schuster, 1994). ]

Loss Of Focus Caused Martha To Resort To Self-Pity and

2. Loss Of Focus Causes Martha To Become Angry At Others

Our world is full of distractions. And the more the pressure, the most tempting it is to focus on the urgent rather than the essential.

I truly believe that Martha wanted to honor Jesus. I even believe that she began her work with the right attitude. All of you can identify with what I am about to say. You begin the task of a huge festive meal (like Thanksgiving) with the greatest of enthusiasm, but as time passed you came to realize that you are running out of time and you can not possibly finish everything that you planned to do.

When that happens, you get angry – angry at yourself for letting yourself get in this fix and angry with anyone else who might have made a difference in accomplishing your goals. Martha was like that, the harder she worked the more worked up she became.

Some people “burn out” in service but Martha was “burned up” in hers. As a song written by Del Reeves rather ironically puts it she was “working like the Devil serving the Lord.” It is bad enough to have everything to do. It is even worse when we can think of someone who we do not feel is pulling their weight and who has let us down. That is what I see happening to Martha.

Charles Hummel in his book “Freedom From the Tyranny of the Urgent” notes, “Tension and frustration mount when we are performing the wrong tasks or trying to cram too many of the right activities into a given period…. A critical spirit develops and we begin to judge and condemn others for what they do or don’t do.

Anytime you feel a wave of criticism gaining momentum in your spirit remember that it’s completely out of line as far as God is concerned.”

[Charles Hummel. Priorities: Tyranny of the Urgent. Christian Basic Bible Studies. (InterVarsity Press, 1994)].

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3. Loss Of Focus Causes Martha To Find Fault With Others.

In second part of verse forty, Martha finally exploded and she comes boiling out of the kitchen, red-faced and furious and says; "Lord, do you not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Therefore tell her to help me."

She doesn’t even call her sister by name. In her defense perhaps she had already done everything she could think of to attract Mary’s attention and signal her that she needed help. We all have ways that we use to get a message across. We clear our throats. We make attention-getting motions.

We have a situation like that in this text when Martha cannot get Mary’s attention. We are even more irritated when the other person ignores us. Mary was willing to face Martha’s anger, because sitting at the feet of Jesus mean everything to her at this point. No one can force us to be devoted, it is a voluntary decision.

Loss Of Focus Causes Martha To Find Fault With Others

4. Loss Of Focus Causes Martha To Question God’s Care.

Whatever Martha has already done to get Mary’s attention, she is totally exasperated now and speaks directly to Jesus. There is an accusation in her voice when she says, “Lord, do You not care that my sister has left me to serve alone? Therefore tell her to help me."

Martha was angry at Mary for being so selfish and she is angry at Jesus for allowing this to go on. Notice that Martha addressed her irritation to Jesus, you have to admit that she is one gutsy woman. Martha is accusing Jesus of not caring for her, because she was sure that if Jesus really cared for her He would tell Mary to get up and help her.

Today she would put her hands on her hips and say something to the effect of “Lord you know that idiotic lazy good for nothing sister of mine , just sitting there, but you are a part of the problem too. You tell her to get her lazy (BLANK) in here and help me!”

In saying this she not only rebuked her sister but also the one for whom all of these preparations are being made. Whenever our service causes us to criticize others and pity ourselves because we feel overworked, we had better take time to examine our lives!

It is interesting how Martha links Jesus’ care for her with His willingness to tell Mary to get busy helping her. Martha thought that she knew how Jesus should demonstrate his care for her. I wonder do we do that? Do we ever accuse God of not caring for us, because we have already decided what his care for us looks like? Part of the Martha’s problem was that she worried to much about what others were doing.

Martha concern over Mary reminds me of Peter in John chapter 21 (John 21:18-21) where Jesus was explaining to Peter what the future held for him (vv. 18-19), he only had one question he looked at John and asked, in verse 21: “But what this man” (v. 21).

Jesus reminded Peter that was not really any of his concern. He just needed to follow Jesus (v. 22).” In today’s text Jesus by his refusal to do as Martha had asked demonstrates that although what she was doing was valuable work, she should worry lest about Mary’s choices. It all boiled down to the fact that Martha wanted to force Mary to serve Christ her way.

Loss Of Focus Causes Martha To Question God’s Care,

5. Loss of Focus Can Be Eliminated by Remembering Why We Are Doing What We Are Doing? (vv. 41-42)

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John 10:41–42 NKJV

41 Then many came to Him and said, “John performed no sign, but all the things that John spoke about this Man were true.” 42 And many believed in Him there.

In verse forty-one Jesus responds to Martha, "Martha, Martha, you are worried and troubled about many things. (42) But one thing is needed, and Mary has chosen that good part, which will not be taken away from her."

Jesus responds with great tenderness. Notice first that Jesus did not rebuke her for making preparations for Him and the other guest. He is not rejecting Martha’s attempt to serve Him. Martha’s problem was not that she was preparing food for her guest to eat, this was necessary. But she gave too much importance to it. Today we still have to be careful that we do not let the necessary things that must be done get out of balance and distort our lives.

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The core of Martha’s problem is that she tried to impose her value system on Mary. Note that Jesus did not tell Martha to do what Mary was doing. It was Martha’s attitude that needed correction, but Martha’s work was both good and necessary. The reality is that as believers today we need to cultivate both the Martha and the Mary in each of us.

Martha came to Jesus because she wanted Him to lighten load that day. He did what she wanted but not in the way that she had expected. He lightened her load not by having Mary help her but by giving her a new perspective on her work.

When we forget why we are doing what we are doing we can get turned upside down, and we may end up feeling overworked and unappreciated. I once read Dr. Mark Hollingsworth, he wrote, “If we forget God while serving God we will probably quit God!” When we keep our attitude right we find that God will enable us to do what “needs” to be done with joy and satisfaction.

Unless we take time to spend time with Jesus personally and privately, we will soon end up like Martha busy but not blessed. Martha was not wrong nor was Mary. It is case of where one did good and the other better.

The Christian life is learning to balance duty and devotion. Sitting without serving is powerless Serving without sitting is directionless. Serving after sitting produces power and balance.

Conclusion

But the question remains, “What about you?” Will you just take a moment to reflect? Where is your focus this morning?

Have you been giving yourself to non-essentials – things that are here today but tossed out tomorrow?

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From <https://www.sermoncentral.com/sermons/duty-vs-devotion-john-hamby-sermon-on-growth-in-christ-48799>